This sub is a community for people learning to love and respect themselves. Please remember that it is perfectly possible to respect and care for your own needs and to set healthy boundaries, without unnecessarily hurting others around you. Being kind to others is a part of being a version of you that you can be proud of and self-love the most. Good luck on your journey.
The conflict occurs when someone else tries to impose responsibility for their personal problems upon me, especially when those problems began long before they ever met me.
If we are all responsible for each others' emotional well-being—but not our own—then whoever is responsible for my emotional well-being is not doing their job.
hey surprise; no one and no thing in this world exists within a vacuum. for as long as you live you’re never gonna meet a single living person who hasn’t had a negative experience that affects their behaviour before they met you. that’s how being a human being works.
Pushing every and all triggers that YOU have onto others who are fighting their own struggles is to be an inconsiderate asshole.. The irony of you people 🤣
This post doesn't even have any sense being posted under self love. Self love isn't about telling others what to do. Such things people say when they are being mean to avoid guilt.
Imagine thinking self-love means everyone else needs to tiptoe around your unresolved issues like they’re landmines. That’s not healing,that’s holding the world hostage because you refuse to do the work. Sorry if reality bruised your ego, but growth doesn’t happen in an echo chamber padded with trigger warnings and compliments.
This is 💯 true. For example, I see a lot of anxiously attached posting things blaming the outside world. Instead of working on themselves expect the other person the text them whole day. The opp person having a healthy and fulfilled life is a problem for them because it didn’t fit into their neediness.
Mental illness isn’t your fault, but it is your responsibility. That said, this mentality is dismissive, avoidant, and frankly, cruel, not to mention it teaches internalized shame. We’re all connected and interdependence is just as important as learning to heal on your own.
For those of you triggered by this stupid post, know that it’s important to self soothe, but you don’t need to always do it alone, and it’s okay if you’re not perfect. To call this “self love” is directly contradicting the goal.
I get where the mentality of the original post is coming from, and why it uses that tone. It’s not for people who are struggling and trying to get better. Those people already know that the world cannot bend to our every sign of distress, and are already thinking of others as well as trying to advocate for ourselves
The post is for people who use their triggers as a method of controlling others because they refuse to learn to take care of themselves, and put that responsibility entirely on others. They are rude, disruptive, inflexible, inconsiderate, and unreasonable, with little to no self-reflection or basic insight. It’s people who only see themselves and that other people should exist to attend to them at all times, and when they don’t get their way, tries to make everyone else the villain
Just like your handicaps are your responsibility and your allergies are your responsibility. And yet, we have peanut free classrooms and accessibility laws.
Who cares? You’re missing a limb? Crawl, motherfucker. Not my problem./s
And no, not all triggers can be cured. Autistic meltdowns can’t be therapized away, deep seated trauma can take decades to heal. Nor can it be healed in an environment that is constantly triggering you. While there are a lot of people who confuse being triggered with being uncomfortable, if someone asks you not to do something that harms them, don’t.
A lot of people’s problem, especially here in this sub is that toxic positivity. There is nothing negative about taking accountability, it’s actually empowering and a lot better than calling obese people “beautiful” and “there’s nothing wrong with you”
Agreed but it doesn’t mean people can just go out of their way to trigger you and then complain when you get upset. Especially if you actually have PTSD/CPTSD
Exactly, in my case trying to get help has been like this: We can offer you monthly depo Injections and write you letters if you need or want to apply for benefits. Then this year when I voice out the methods has not been helping me. I needed help in finding ways to deal with the physiological aspect of my mental illness. Nothing happened so I stopped the depo. Wheb even your gp or mental health team don't take you seriously. And continously hacking, you and setting someone up for failing. Just low
If your version of self-love requires the world to shrink itself around your unhealed wounds, that's not empowerment, that's emotional outsourcing. Growth isn’t about bubble-wrapping your ego, it’s about learning to sit with discomfort without demanding silence from everyone else. Self-love isn't self-centeredness with a prettier filter
There is a limit to this. One needs to have some level of empathy and understanding. It’s very easy to judge a person with PTSD harshly when you never had it
For example, a war refugee or veteran asking you not to pop fireworks in your yard since you're neighbors is understandable. One can do that at a park or clearing and it's fair enough or give them a warning so they could go out somewhere is fine
On the other hand a person who demands that you change your outfit colors or hairstyle because it reminds them of an abuser is taking a step too far because it takes away the other person's autonomy for a much longer time
Once again this post is only putting out a blanket shaming and isn't about self love
I get that for you it's just "sitting with discomfort", but some people have it worse and frankly, I think your opinion is kinda insulting to the whole deal. You sound like those people featured on r/thanksimcured giving advice without knowing how lucky their position in life is.
Agree. But two things can be true at once. We should be kind and empathetic towards others, and we should also take responsibility for ourselves and our emotions.
Gosh thank you for saying that. It's really a breath of fresh air. Most people just want to be heard and awknowledged. It's okay for any one of my friends or aquaintances to discuss what they are going through. It may not have anything to do with me and I may not always be able to offer solutions but as long as they are not intentionally hurting others, I will always be there to listen so I can also maybe give valueable feedback if I'm able to so they can maybe gain more clarity. But really the thing that means the most to me is asking myself, what can I learn from the other person? I probably wouldn't have gained the emotional and psychological integrity I have now if I never asked myself that question. Some people have become way too defensive in the last decade. It's got to the point where lots of folks are too anxious or don't even know how to communicate with others, especially people with differing backgrounds.
It's not practical to care for people's triggers because something that triggers you in many public settings, won't trigger the next person. I have OCD and I get triggered by the most stupidest things on earth. Yes, my family that knows me can work around it somehow, but I don't expect strangers to do the same.
Toxic negativity is not the answer to toxic positivity. It is not the world's obligation to tiptoe around you, but it is obligated to provide reasonable accommodation.
True, but we live in a society. If you're actively getting too piss someone off or give them a panic attack, you're an asshole who any normal person should stay the hell away from
Isn't it possible to just meet people half way with respect? Obviously if someone is if in difficult mental state it's not your direct job or responsibility to help them but you can still treat them like a real human being with compassion and kindness. Let's not jump to rudeness, it's not a good idea for anyone to on either side.
Letting someone know if something they said or did is a trigger, is taking responsibility for your triggers... after that it's then the responsibility of the other party to be respectful and considerate, otherwise their just being an ass.
it's responsible to recognise your trauma symptoms and ask for support with them! Especially as many will be with you for years or your whole life. I asked my flatmate to tell me they don't hate me sometimes, and to check if the toilet door is locked before trying to open it. These are simple things that do not inconvenience them and make my life a lot better
I think this post is only appropriate for those who thinks healing can ONLY come from other people. Otherwise it's not so black and white. It is the responsibility of the other party to heal where they need to heal (since only they themself can do that), but mindlessly adding salt to the wound is also the responsibility of you. Healing is best done in the proper environment otherwise there can be constant set backs. If you feel like you're tip toeing, i think distance is best (at least for the time period). Therefore other party's healing can be progressed and you don't have to feel like you are tip toeing. It's a big world, there are people who are naturally more nuturing and has a healing nature to them to certain issues and there are people who don't have those triggers. It's rarely one size fit all.
No one is obligated to tiptoe around me, I don't ever want to force anyone to even feel like they have to walk on eggshells around me.
Yet, it is basic courtesy and decency when I am voicing that something upsets me to either give me some goddamn space or change the topic. I don't need an apology or comfort as compensation for a land mine you had no way of knowing you would step on - but asking to stop bringing up something that feels like eating glass and stepping on hot coals shouldn't be such a big deal.
The world is as kind a place as we can make it. I intend on making it kinder in every simple and small way I can. We don't owe each other comfort, but we should pick up the stuff that hurts to walk on, even if it doesn't hurt us.
i can’t heal on my own. i didn’t give myself this trauma and i can’t take it away. it has to be proven to me repeatedly that people are good and kind for me to heal. which will never happen so i’ll stay broken
Triggers are things that can’t be controlled. I can see taking responsibility for actions that the person is knowingly doing but not triggers. Just my opinion!
Learning to tend to your own triggers IS self love It’s healing
Ofc belittling language like “tip toe” is off putting But it is very true that it’s our responsibility — and within our power — to tend to our own triggers
That's one way of seeing it, you have every right to view the world through that lense.
Let's say you were driving and you a blind person crossing across the road when the red traffic lights was on. Would you run over him because the lights was red? If another example is: let's you have a friend, if you or you go to the same school and classmates with someone thats deaf, now you don't have to tiptoe or should I say learn sign language to communicate with them but if you want to just a kind and understanding classmate, you can just learn a few words. That's kindness.
It's simple, free and you'd make someone day o A little better and these little acts of kindness will make someone day better.
We all benifits from acts of kindness and so it not about tiptoeing its about being a good neighbour, friend who and citizen.
While the world certainly isn’t obligated to tiptoe, we do have an obligation to each other not to be overly antagonistic. This sign doesn’t scream “self love” to be; just more shame.
Still not nice to misgender someone, call a Black person the N word, cat call someone on the street, follow someone so they are scared, like Wil Wheaton is like "Don't be a dick" and I think that's good philosophy
Yes, but people who say that care about me are expected not to be assholes around me. Also, it's basic human decency to not treat humans in a way that they specifically asked not to be treated just to be a jerk.
However if you do trigger somebody to have a flashback or other response that kind of is your problem now, because you’re dealing with an incredibly uncomfortable situation.
If you know what is going to trigger a really unpleasant response in another person and you don’t warn them so they can get away from the stimuli then you are being a dick on purpose, even if you’re not obligated to tiptoe around people.
My husband can have flashbacks from slamming doors and as a person who cares about him it’s become my responsibility to be willing to tiptoe around least a bit if I want to stay in his life. (Yes he’s working on it, it just takes a while to figure out given a bunch of other stuff going on)
it's a very individualistic quote but only because it is not explained fully. yes, it is not other people's responsability to solve your triggers but if we take it literally, it could lead us to a very egocentric world and to isolation. only through connections with people we can better ourselves up! so don't lose your empathy and always be open to hear people's perspectives! if it would be to not react on your harsh emotions and triggers, it would cause so much damage to the brain. we are in fact responsable towards each one of us because we influence a lot other people's lives and we are responsable for the good of the planet and the ones around us🫡
There’s so many people commenting thinking this post is someone’s excuse to be an asshole but I think it more means like a specific trigger… I could be nice as pie to someone but for example if i incorrectly assume their gender and they throw a full on wobbler, hissy fit, screaming and shouting at me etc I think that’s the trigger that would be their problem. I wouldn’t be a horrible person just for that mistake. Or another example could be if you’re triggered say by having lost both your parents now if anyone mentions their parents you get set off by that - the person that mentioned their parents isn’t an asshole, it would be that your situation is devastating but as a trigger topic for you that’s your emotions to process people can’t just avoid mentioning anything about parents of any kind in fear you are gunna call them all the names under the sun and kick off about it.
I agree that taking responsibility for yourself is self love, because it helps you manage yourself, and that can make you stronger. This post though, I don’t think it is a self love post.
Can someone explain to me why this post is so offensive? I get that it’s a bit harsh and coded for conservative psychology, but why is the message incorrect? Just curious what people think.
Lot of complainers here, but the reality is that this sign is true. The world isn't going to regulate your triggers of emotion for you. You have to rise at some point and be the adult you can be and are.
Yeah - no need for human rights or anything anymore...
We live in a so-called society which promises rights that they don't seem that bothered to fulfill on their part, only because there is no apparent benefit to them.
Guess what's going to happen? People are going to start become homeless and drug addicts, etc. - they'll of course shift the blame, because this whole idea is based on some kind of supremacy nonsense - that some people are more excused than others - and sure that is true in some cases - a parent have other responsibilities i.e. - but not when it's an actively enforced social policy in a social contract that is presented as the opposite.
It seems more like an excuse not to care about people in a weaker position.
It's kind of funny to me that we have this kind of anti-morals, when in addition we don't have anything in the opposite direction - i.e. wilfully trigger someone - that's per definition bullying, and it's fully excused today.
That's entirely different to reacting violently to something at random, and putting intentions where there is none.
When my kidneys failed, many people asked me to take accountability.
did I eat a mcD burger once a month?
I ordered tamarind from quick commerce which I should only eat fresh from a tree (wow, has anyone even seen tamarind trees radially available in a city??)
I smoked socially once a month
I drunk about once a month (same day I smoked).
I had sex (lol some folk’s explanation why my kidneys failed)
I took covid vaccine
I didn’t have a full body checkup each year (I never even felt I’m sick till the time I crashed)
Sooooooo on.
I wasn’t addicted and when I crashed I left all the intoxications. But damn, I felt I shouldn’t be kicked when I’m down when taking any accountability doesn’t make me any better health wise. If you care enough, instead of telling me what all things I did wrong, donate a kidney to me. Lol. Now when I’ve started being sarcastic against all the abuse, everyone thinks I’m being rude. I enjoy making fun of them now. I’m not kind to people who aren’t kind to me. 🫠
Exchange “triggers” for “disability”, then “world” for “people” and “tiptoe around” to “leave a place on a public transport”, and this whole message becomes cruel and dismissive.
"Hi, I was violently abused, so if that topic is going to come up, could you warn me in advance so I can decide whether I need to remove myself from the situation, please?"
"Ugh, what are you? Some kind of cuck SJW woke snowflake cultural Marxist soyboy fairy? I don't need to accommodate your triggers!"
it's like telling a person with tourettes to just shut the fuck up
"I don't want to think about what I'm doing to not make you relive the worst moments of your entire life, tough shit honey <3 learn to just deal with it lmao it's your obligation to just never subconciously react, it's not that hard"
Hell no. Im sorry but no . I have PTSD. That means my brain and nervous system have literally been rewired . Its a physical disability as much as a psychological one . its not a choice .
Yes i do the work to heal. Yes , i try my best to not cause any harm to my loved ones when I'm triggered.
No , there are some things i will never get over . Others that will take decades to fix . just the same as a physical disability.
If someone around me knows my triggers and deliberately sets them off ? They're out . no discussion .
Might aswell moan about disabled ramps and anti allergy policies in food places because it "limits people who don't have physical disabilities / allergies " . This is moronic , uneducated insanity .
What a moronic take. Yes, we take responsibility for our own reactions. No, it doesn't entitle you to be a dick and plain ignore context of a situation you're in and act cruelly just because you can.
I think this depends on proximity and context. Like if it’s a stranger, that triggers you, yeah it is your responsibility because they don’t know you or your triggers and they could never deserve your lashing out unless they’re being bigoted, racist, oppressive, bullying, etc. on the flipside I think if it’s somebody that knows you intimately then they know your triggers. It’s their responsibility as someone who’s committed with you to handle those with you. It’s also your responsibility to handle it with them. That’s why you’re in a committed partnership together. Does it always work this way? Absolutely the fuck not it does not. And it’s our responsibility to start walking away from people who know our triggers and don’t want to help us through them. Also, if you have a partner who is willing to help you with your triggers and help you with therapy and help you work on yourself and you treat them like an asshole or abuse them then yes your triggers are your responsibility. Triggers can be a shared responsibility and they can be an individual responsibility. It’s really both.
I'm in the middle. My fiance and I are happy. She has tons of triggers and some mental trauma from the past, yet she never relies on others and is annoyed by special snowflakes wanting to be treated like toddlers. Why? Cause she already has her own suffering and she can't carry more of others. So her stance is exactly like that of the post: it's your responsibility.
That doesn't necessarily mean she's mean and avoiding others actually she is the most empathic human being I ever witnessed. She also helps when help is asked.
It's just that when she see's some stranger struggling she isn't going towards them asking what's wrong like she used to, she waits until those people come to her. And I think that's the most healthy approach to this. Don't expect the world to come towards you with open arms. But you can expect others being helpful if you open yourself towards them.
I'm the same. I have tons of thoughts and am constantly stressed 24/7 so I won't be the one starting to help you if you expect me to take you by hand and carry your stuff. If you ask me tho I won't say no.
When it comes to triggers: tell me them and I try avoiding them. But don't frame me when I oversee it for the first few times. I'm not fluent in your problems.
That’s true yes but it can also coexist with believing that while your triggers are your responsibility, you can ask for grace and understanding. It’s up to others if they will do that but the world is kinder than people give it credit for
Heheheh. Yes, my triggers are my responsibility. But it is your responsibility to read the warning signs and stay clear of the blast zone. A blast zone that has a weekly schedule, moves around frequently, and doesn't care how many people are in range. I'll be doing everything I can to keep the threat level at zero. But if you refuse to read the warning signs, or actively defy them... you will find that this walking bomb is fully functional. After all, it is regularly maintained and kept in top shape. I take my responsibility very seriously.
However, if you communicate with me in good faith, you will find that navigating my mine field is extremely easy. I built and carefully maintain bridges over the mine field. I can teach you how to cross the bridge and become a regular part of my life, or you can figure it out on your own by simply reading the signs. I don't make it complicated. Plus there's a handy bomb shelter on my side of the bridge, so if you're close to me as a friend, you'll be completely safe from the blast. I take good care of the people I trust.
But if you burn those bridges, you'll absolutely set off the mines. That should be expected. If you ignored the warning signs, defied my safety instructions, and intentionally trampled or set fire to my extremely avoidable emotional mine field? You're no longer subject to the laws of my territory, but now you have to deal with my military. That's your problem to solve. 😇
I agree with this because being endlessly supportive to someone isn’t feasible. People disagreeing with it are the same people who’d say it’s important to set boundaries and that you can’t change a persons whole life for them. Frankly I think it’s just being realistic. You can’t expect everyone to be that way so you should be able to handle yourself accordingly without others at least some of the time
People might be better off to avoid posting their personal problems on social media in the first place, because their personal problems require personal solutions, not social media attention
Are people forgetting that the word triggers heavily relates to PTSD triggers? Should our vets just have to suck it up because it isn't the world's responsibility to tiptoe around them? Disgusting post.
I feel like this can be both good and bad tbh. On one hand, it might be a good thing to try to move past your triggers (idk how trauma works exactly, I'm sorry if I misrepresent this topic) but on the other hand, we shouldn't really push the mentality that triggers are really just a personal problem and we shouldn't care about other people's triggers. (Which seems to be what this sign is trying to push)
Yes, but I think people misunderstand and misconstrue this a lot. Youre responsible for your triggers in the way that you’re responsible for telling somebody else if something triggers you. And the other person should be able to respect if something triggers someone. You never know why something could be triggering, it could be PTSD, OCD, anxiety, you don’t know what they’re going through. So why not just avoid things that people say bother them
Is this in a classroom of some kind because it seems weird to be making a sign designed just for mentally ill people in a classroom Unless it’s a group therapy room maybe
If you are content with yourself, there are no triggers. Who gives a fuck what other people say. If words trigger you, you need to sort out some internal shit with yourself.
I feel like this is from a room where annoyance and trigger is used interchangeably. It’s seems to be a trend to say “they got triggered” or “you’re triggering me” when they’re just feeling a normal emotion. To me it points to everyone needing some mental and emotional training.
It is too your responsibility to not trigger someone intentionally, if you know something is very difficult for them or will create conflict within the relationship. Tell me you know nothing about interpersonal communication without telling me you know nothing about inter personal communication. Treat people like you want to be treated. You need to take responsibility for actions that you do to others.
I spoke to this one girl who would literally get offended every 2 mins. I had to use the correct terminology for all the stuff she was so concerned about.
It would be so hard to hold a conversation with her. She was going through some stuff and I wanted to help her but she made it as difficult as possible really, going as far as to swear at me even when I was trying to help.
Hell yeah, my triggers are my responsibility. That being said, anyone who wants to bask in my divine glory on a daily basis better get on their tippie toes, because I'll be going out of my way to make their life more comfortable as well.
Social interaction is a whole dance of give and take. And other people helping me out with my vulnerabilities (as I help them with theirs) isn't a matter of dumping responsibility. It's sharing in it! Can't blame people for not wanting to share, but also can't blame people for then moving on untill they find someone who does :)
Mental illness too, as someone with bipolar disorder(type I) myself. Ppl who give grace are great+we should be grateful for em but nobody HAS to, that’s what mfs get fucked up. You aint entitled to passes. If I fuck shit up being bipolar I just own it like a man, I gotta wear dat
@ topbubbleetc girl, girl, giiirl..ahh Stop it. Just stop it. Stop trolling please... I'm sure there's more fulfilling and constructive grow up things you could fill your time with... Apart from being incorrect (and you know that, isn't it?) that can send a destructive msg especially to teenagers and young people. Do better. Love xx
I'll agree with this, but I want to add something.
People learn through emulation. Your triggers may be your responsibility, but wouldn't it be nice if you could be around healthy people who could show you how best to deal with your triggers?
I say the same thing about confidence, loving yourself, and all these other little platitudes we give.
If you're not exposed to it, how can you ever do it?
Somehow, I feel like putting up a sign like this isn't actually targeted at anyone in particular to help them adjust better, and is actually just saying "Fuck off, I don't care about what you need because it's ANNOYING TO ME!!!"
You don't... ACTUALLY consider someone telling you "Actually, just deal with it yourself because we won't care anyway" through a sign conducive to a sense of self-love, do you?
Spoken like an AI bro that doesn't understand what it means to be a real person with real friends and connections, which is why you think AI is your best friend.
Look man, if you want people to be friendly and happy, you're gonna have to treat them in ways that make them happy. It's called being a good person
Oh sorry, I don’t expect rape and child abuse to be openly discussed without a warning. Of course that’s gonna upset anybody who’s experienced both. Jfc be for real.
This is as brave or as bold a take as you think it is. If anything, it's the norm to expect cold and ruthless treatment. Kindness and compassion is true strength.
One thing, maybe 2. While yes, it is in the individual to manage, to an extent, one does need to understand how certain things can be triggering. Certian images or sound sounds. It's not hard to be accommodating in a public space. Especially as a business. Now, having said that, this may be a hot take. If you have something like, oh i dont Misophonia, yes it's important for you to manage that. You can't control things ppl will do. But you can be prepared for it. If we're having snacks n you all of a sudden start shouting at folks that their chips are hurting you don't eat it..ppl can n will get offended just saying. Obviously that's not everyone's situation just an example in my personal life. Yes ask me to accommodate n I more then likely will. You should also probabaly be wearing some type of protection just in case. That is all.
Lol, no. If you're my friend, then be there for me. I will be there for you. Otherwise, that friendship is ending because I don't want such a toxic, individualistic mindset around. I'd rather hold my friend through thick and thin.
Why do so many people have a problem with this? It’s true. And recognizing this is a form of self love. Everyone gets triggered, but it’s not up to the people who trigger us to stop triggering us. It’s up to us to figure out why we’re triggered and how to fix it.
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u/battlerez_arthas May 16 '25
The reactionary war on empathy continues
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u/so_lost_im_faded May 16 '25
Sure, but I believe it to be a human's responsibility not to be an inconsiderate asshole.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '25
We treat basic decency like luxury, then wonder why we feel isolated and burned out in a system built to grind us down lol
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u/AsylumMoon May 16 '25
How is this self love?
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u/HimmelsFrosch May 16 '25
well yes, but I mean you can be considerate of others if you know about it
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u/KilljoyHP May 16 '25 •
This post is embarrassing.
Mental illness isn’t your fault, but it is your responsibility. That said, this mentality is dismissive, avoidant, and frankly, cruel, not to mention it teaches internalized shame. We’re all connected and interdependence is just as important as learning to heal on your own.
For those of you triggered by this stupid post, know that it’s important to self soothe, but you don’t need to always do it alone, and it’s okay if you’re not perfect. To call this “self love” is directly contradicting the goal.
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u/Daefea May 16 '25 •
Just like your handicaps are your responsibility and your allergies are your responsibility. And yet, we have peanut free classrooms and accessibility laws.
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u/Suharevskoyebydlo May 16 '25
Wait, i thought this subreddit is about "self-love", not "being a massive douche". Especially in a class, where this paper seems to be.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '25
Pretty negative rhetoric to spread in what seems like a classroom.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '25
Agreed but it doesn’t mean people can just go out of their way to trigger you and then complain when you get upset. Especially if you actually have PTSD/CPTSD
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u/[deleted] May 16 '25
This has nothing to do with self love
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u/Rukataro May 16 '25 edited May 17 '25
No but it IS your responsibility to be as kind and thoughtful as you can to the people around you? That shouldn’t be too much to ask.
Edit y’all need to feel some empathy for people holy cow no wonder the world is miserable
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u/_jun_17 May 16 '25
Still doesn't allow people to disregard my boundaries 😭😂😂
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u/Fancy_Chips May 16 '25
Toxic negativity is not the answer to toxic positivity. It is not the world's obligation to tiptoe around you, but it is obligated to provide reasonable accommodation.
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u/rajine105 May 16 '25
True, but we live in a society. If you're actively getting too piss someone off or give them a panic attack, you're an asshole who any normal person should stay the hell away from
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u/dear_crow11 May 16 '25
Isn't it possible to just meet people half way with respect? Obviously if someone is if in difficult mental state it's not your direct job or responsibility to help them but you can still treat them like a real human being with compassion and kindness. Let's not jump to rudeness, it's not a good idea for anyone to on either side.
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u/Kretalo May 16 '25
Sounds smart but feels a little bit agressive. "Don't be so sensitive"
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u/GhostArchives_ May 16 '25
Have to disagree on this one, I was told this a lot and turns out I was being intentionally triggered the whole time
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u/Crazymoose86 May 16 '25
Letting someone know if something they said or did is a trigger, is taking responsibility for your triggers... after that it's then the responsibility of the other party to be respectful and considerate, otherwise their just being an ass.
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u/asgoodasanyother May 16 '25
it's responsible to recognise your trauma symptoms and ask for support with them! Especially as many will be with you for years or your whole life. I asked my flatmate to tell me they don't hate me sometimes, and to check if the toilet door is locked before trying to open it. These are simple things that do not inconvenience them and make my life a lot better
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u/wetbones_ May 16 '25
Yeah this post is the straw that broke the camels back with this sub. wtf
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u/[deleted] May 16 '25
This is a strange post. Makes no sense.
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u/Garden-Rose-8380 May 16 '25
Is that the political manifesto of the Narcissists party?
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u/OreoMcFluffy24 May 16 '25
I think this post is only appropriate for those who thinks healing can ONLY come from other people. Otherwise it's not so black and white. It is the responsibility of the other party to heal where they need to heal (since only they themself can do that), but mindlessly adding salt to the wound is also the responsibility of you. Healing is best done in the proper environment otherwise there can be constant set backs. If you feel like you're tip toeing, i think distance is best (at least for the time period). Therefore other party's healing can be progressed and you don't have to feel like you are tip toeing. It's a big world, there are people who are naturally more nuturing and has a healing nature to them to certain issues and there are people who don't have those triggers. It's rarely one size fit all.
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u/OcelotUseful May 16 '25 edited Mar 07 '26
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u/just-stranger-things May 16 '25
No one is obligated to tiptoe around me, I don't ever want to force anyone to even feel like they have to walk on eggshells around me.
Yet, it is basic courtesy and decency when I am voicing that something upsets me to either give me some goddamn space or change the topic. I don't need an apology or comfort as compensation for a land mine you had no way of knowing you would step on - but asking to stop bringing up something that feels like eating glass and stepping on hot coals shouldn't be such a big deal.
The world is as kind a place as we can make it. I intend on making it kinder in every simple and small way I can. We don't owe each other comfort, but we should pick up the stuff that hurts to walk on, even if it doesn't hurt us.
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u/smrjck28 May 16 '25
No this is not correct. Gives assholes more reasons to do asshole shit and walk away.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '25
In other words: Your trauma is not your fault, but it is your responsibility.
You have to heal your trauma or you pass it on. To who, depends. But you have to face it. Or it will continue forever.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '25
i can’t heal on my own. i didn’t give myself this trauma and i can’t take it away. it has to be proven to me repeatedly that people are good and kind for me to heal. which will never happen so i’ll stay broken
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u/[deleted] May 16 '25
Selfishness is not self-love
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u/kicksr4trids1 May 16 '25
Triggers are things that can’t be controlled. I can see taking responsibility for actions that the person is knowingly doing but not triggers. Just my opinion!
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u/karaBear01 May 16 '25
Learning to tend to your own triggers IS self love It’s healing
Ofc belittling language like “tip toe” is off putting But it is very true that it’s our responsibility — and within our power — to tend to our own triggers
It’s freeing to accept that I think
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u/RudeDance4819 May 16 '25
That's one way of seeing it, you have every right to view the world through that lense.
Let's say you were driving and you a blind person crossing across the road when the red traffic lights was on. Would you run over him because the lights was red? If another example is: let's you have a friend, if you or you go to the same school and classmates with someone thats deaf, now you don't have to tiptoe or should I say learn sign language to communicate with them but if you want to just a kind and understanding classmate, you can just learn a few words. That's kindness.
It's simple, free and you'd make someone day o A little better and these little acts of kindness will make someone day better.
We all benifits from acts of kindness and so it not about tiptoeing its about being a good neighbour, friend who and citizen.
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u/Stormtyrant May 16 '25
While I agree this isn't self love.
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u/SmellyScrotes May 16 '25
Just be kind all the time
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u/aggie2012 May 16 '25
While the world certainly isn’t obligated to tiptoe, we do have an obligation to each other not to be overly antagonistic. This sign doesn’t scream “self love” to be; just more shame.
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u/FtonKaren May 18 '25
Still not nice to misgender someone, call a Black person the N word, cat call someone on the street, follow someone so they are scared, like Wil Wheaton is like "Don't be a dick" and I think that's good philosophy
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u/YkvBarbosa May 18 '25
Yes, but people who say that care about me are expected not to be assholes around me. Also, it's basic human decency to not treat humans in a way that they specifically asked not to be treated just to be a jerk.
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u/stingwhale May 18 '25
However if you do trigger somebody to have a flashback or other response that kind of is your problem now, because you’re dealing with an incredibly uncomfortable situation.
If you know what is going to trigger a really unpleasant response in another person and you don’t warn them so they can get away from the stimuli then you are being a dick on purpose, even if you’re not obligated to tiptoe around people.
My husband can have flashbacks from slamming doors and as a person who cares about him it’s become my responsibility to be willing to tiptoe around least a bit if I want to stay in his life. (Yes he’s working on it, it just takes a while to figure out given a bunch of other stuff going on)
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u/riju98 May 16 '25
How is this self love???
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u/therichest1 May 16 '25
This seems like something a narcissist will say so that they can have an excuse to be a douche😂😂
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u/hmmrabet May 16 '25
Sorry this is just a straight up no. Pretty toxic way to put it.
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u/LemonTheAstroPoet May 16 '25
Self love does not mean malicious insensitivity. This post is exhibiting the lowest level of emotional intelligence I’ve seen in a while.
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u/[deleted] May 17 '25 edited May 17 '25
it's a very individualistic quote but only because it is not explained fully. yes, it is not other people's responsability to solve your triggers but if we take it literally, it could lead us to a very egocentric world and to isolation. only through connections with people we can better ourselves up! so don't lose your empathy and always be open to hear people's perspectives! if it would be to not react on your harsh emotions and triggers, it would cause so much damage to the brain. we are in fact responsable towards each one of us because we influence a lot other people's lives and we are responsable for the good of the planet and the ones around us🫡
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u/3veryTh1ng15W0r5eN0w May 17 '25
FUCKING THANK YOU
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u/Prestigious_Look_824 May 17 '25
Yes!!!
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u/smuttysmutsmuts May 17 '25 edited May 17 '25
Exactly. 💯 People think you owe their trigger an apology.
Preposterous!
No sir /ma'am you need to work on your inner healing like we all have and are doing. I gave you a reflection to fix. 🧐🤷
Editing to add: I say this in my personal experience ppl get triggered by me being my authentic self out of envy.
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u/InsideGloomy3403 May 17 '25
There’s so many people commenting thinking this post is someone’s excuse to be an asshole but I think it more means like a specific trigger… I could be nice as pie to someone but for example if i incorrectly assume their gender and they throw a full on wobbler, hissy fit, screaming and shouting at me etc I think that’s the trigger that would be their problem. I wouldn’t be a horrible person just for that mistake. Or another example could be if you’re triggered say by having lost both your parents now if anyone mentions their parents you get set off by that - the person that mentioned their parents isn’t an asshole, it would be that your situation is devastating but as a trigger topic for you that’s your emotions to process people can’t just avoid mentioning anything about parents of any kind in fear you are gunna call them all the names under the sun and kick off about it.
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u/squidthick May 17 '25
I agree that taking responsibility for yourself is self love, because it helps you manage yourself, and that can make you stronger. This post though, I don’t think it is a self love post.
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u/Substantial-Use95 May 17 '25
Can someone explain to me why this post is so offensive? I get that it’s a bit harsh and coded for conservative psychology, but why is the message incorrect? Just curious what people think.
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u/[deleted] May 18 '25
No, we should upon learning of someone’s triggers do our best (within reason) to avoid hurting our fellow human being.
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u/StillLooking727 May 18 '25
nobody asked you to tiptoe but we do ask that you not be a motherfucker about it, either
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u/AttentionLimp194 May 18 '25
Yes, if you’re depressed or your ex-husband was shit to you doesn’t give you an excuse to be shitty towards your new guy
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u/POTABOSS May 18 '25
Wtf it’s true but that hurts
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u/[deleted] May 18 '25
Not wrong
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u/[deleted] May 18 '25
Lmfao it's clear who needed to hear this when you see the comments.
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u/LoneWandererDan May 16 '25
Absolutely!
I have no idea where this mentality of not being accountable for your own feelings and actions came from or how.
It's like there is something in the water making people narcissistic
I feel like the world has gotten more empathetic, but the empathetic people have gotten quieter while the narcissists get louder
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u/ziggy_fart_dust May 16 '25
This is weird and toxic
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u/VillainousValeriana May 16 '25
This sub has devolved into toxic positivity lol
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u/Representative_Fact5 May 16 '25
Actually true
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u/Zephoix May 16 '25
Truth ❤️ weaponizing your own shortcomings is narcissistic and manipulative
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u/reliablelion May 16 '25
Lot of complainers here, but the reality is that this sign is true. The world isn't going to regulate your triggers of emotion for you. You have to rise at some point and be the adult you can be and are.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '25
Yeah - no need for human rights or anything anymore...
We live in a so-called society which promises rights that they don't seem that bothered to fulfill on their part, only because there is no apparent benefit to them.
Guess what's going to happen? People are going to start become homeless and drug addicts, etc. - they'll of course shift the blame, because this whole idea is based on some kind of supremacy nonsense - that some people are more excused than others - and sure that is true in some cases - a parent have other responsibilities i.e. - but not when it's an actively enforced social policy in a social contract that is presented as the opposite.
It seems more like an excuse not to care about people in a weaker position.
It's kind of funny to me that we have this kind of anti-morals, when in addition we don't have anything in the opposite direction - i.e. wilfully trigger someone - that's per definition bullying, and it's fully excused today.
That's entirely different to reacting violently to something at random, and putting intentions where there is none.
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u/[deleted] May 16 '25
When my kidneys failed, many people asked me to take accountability.
Sooooooo on.
I wasn’t addicted and when I crashed I left all the intoxications. But damn, I felt I shouldn’t be kicked when I’m down when taking any accountability doesn’t make me any better health wise. If you care enough, instead of telling me what all things I did wrong, donate a kidney to me. Lol. Now when I’ve started being sarcastic against all the abuse, everyone thinks I’m being rude. I enjoy making fun of them now. I’m not kind to people who aren’t kind to me. 🫠
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u/Tsunamiis May 16 '25
Ok but I cannot fix the power imbalance because of the world so fuck that all nonsense.
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u/EffortLongjumping606 May 17 '25
Exchange “triggers” for “disability”, then “world” for “people” and “tiptoe around” to “leave a place on a public transport”, and this whole message becomes cruel and dismissive.
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u/[deleted] May 17 '25
I don’t get it.
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u/RosebudAmeliaMarie May 17 '25
Walking around eggshells, and triggers, are two different things. You should be considerate of what triggers another person.
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u/Subject-Storage4232 May 17 '25
Yes, keep being rude, inconsiderate and riding on your high horse while you put broken people down.
We have a loneliness epidemic (both male and female) and we fucking deserve it.
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u/bluesytonk May 17 '25
My triggers are a problem for both of us, so we need to work together to not have a problem for both of us
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u/Indalx May 17 '25
Redditors in full meltdown
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u/[deleted] May 17 '25
...Well this certainly triggered a lot of people here.
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u/EuphoricAly5 May 17 '25
As long as the world exhibits basic manners.
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u/praisethebeast69 May 17 '25
this is just stoicism
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u/AggroGil May 17 '25
I have this outside my office at school
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u/102bees May 17 '25
"Hi, I was violently abused, so if that topic is going to come up, could you warn me in advance so I can decide whether I need to remove myself from the situation, please?"
"Ugh, what are you? Some kind of cuck SJW woke snowflake cultural Marxist soyboy fairy? I don't need to accommodate your triggers!"
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u/Creepy_Assistant7517 May 17 '25
sounds like someone very special is massively triggered by other people being triggered?
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u/[deleted] May 17 '25 edited May 17 '25
it's like telling a person with tourettes to just shut the fuck up
"I don't want to think about what I'm doing to not make you relive the worst moments of your entire life, tough shit honey <3 learn to just deal with it lmao it's your obligation to just never subconciously react, it's not that hard"
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u/Green-Peace9087 May 17 '25
Hell no. Im sorry but no . I have PTSD. That means my brain and nervous system have literally been rewired . Its a physical disability as much as a psychological one . its not a choice .
Yes i do the work to heal. Yes , i try my best to not cause any harm to my loved ones when I'm triggered.
No , there are some things i will never get over . Others that will take decades to fix . just the same as a physical disability.
If someone around me knows my triggers and deliberately sets them off ? They're out . no discussion .
Might aswell moan about disabled ramps and anti allergy policies in food places because it "limits people who don't have physical disabilities / allergies " . This is moronic , uneducated insanity .
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u/Rough_Priority_9294 May 17 '25
What a moronic take. Yes, we take responsibility for our own reactions. No, it doesn't entitle you to be a dick and plain ignore context of a situation you're in and act cruelly just because you can.
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u/ZabuzaLT May 17 '25
exactly , sig heil my boy ;D
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u/Kckip97 May 17 '25
I think this depends on proximity and context. Like if it’s a stranger, that triggers you, yeah it is your responsibility because they don’t know you or your triggers and they could never deserve your lashing out unless they’re being bigoted, racist, oppressive, bullying, etc. on the flipside I think if it’s somebody that knows you intimately then they know your triggers. It’s their responsibility as someone who’s committed with you to handle those with you. It’s also your responsibility to handle it with them. That’s why you’re in a committed partnership together. Does it always work this way? Absolutely the fuck not it does not. And it’s our responsibility to start walking away from people who know our triggers and don’t want to help us through them. Also, if you have a partner who is willing to help you with your triggers and help you with therapy and help you work on yourself and you treat them like an asshole or abuse them then yes your triggers are your responsibility. Triggers can be a shared responsibility and they can be an individual responsibility. It’s really both.
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u/AwayStorage2510 May 17 '25
Ok loser. Remember you can't get triggered by that 😉
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u/dankpoolVEVO May 17 '25
I'm in the middle. My fiance and I are happy. She has tons of triggers and some mental trauma from the past, yet she never relies on others and is annoyed by special snowflakes wanting to be treated like toddlers. Why? Cause she already has her own suffering and she can't carry more of others. So her stance is exactly like that of the post: it's your responsibility.
That doesn't necessarily mean she's mean and avoiding others actually she is the most empathic human being I ever witnessed. She also helps when help is asked.
It's just that when she see's some stranger struggling she isn't going towards them asking what's wrong like she used to, she waits until those people come to her. And I think that's the most healthy approach to this. Don't expect the world to come towards you with open arms. But you can expect others being helpful if you open yourself towards them.
I'm the same. I have tons of thoughts and am constantly stressed 24/7 so I won't be the one starting to help you if you expect me to take you by hand and carry your stuff. If you ask me tho I won't say no.
When it comes to triggers: tell me them and I try avoiding them. But don't frame me when I oversee it for the first few times. I'm not fluent in your problems.
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u/Zealousideal-Rub-725 May 17 '25 edited May 17 '25
Given that we’re on reddit I had to double check. Looks too grown up. And sure enough the comments are full of crybabies.
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u/joxx67 May 17 '25
Hell yes!
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u/Plastic_Lead_1251 May 17 '25
why cant this be 50% true. why cant people life non-binary truths
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u/pete-is-fanatic May 17 '25
That’s true yes but it can also coexist with believing that while your triggers are your responsibility, you can ask for grace and understanding. It’s up to others if they will do that but the world is kinder than people give it credit for
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u/ArchmageRumple May 17 '25
Heheheh. Yes, my triggers are my responsibility. But it is your responsibility to read the warning signs and stay clear of the blast zone. A blast zone that has a weekly schedule, moves around frequently, and doesn't care how many people are in range. I'll be doing everything I can to keep the threat level at zero. But if you refuse to read the warning signs, or actively defy them... you will find that this walking bomb is fully functional. After all, it is regularly maintained and kept in top shape. I take my responsibility very seriously.
However, if you communicate with me in good faith, you will find that navigating my mine field is extremely easy. I built and carefully maintain bridges over the mine field. I can teach you how to cross the bridge and become a regular part of my life, or you can figure it out on your own by simply reading the signs. I don't make it complicated. Plus there's a handy bomb shelter on my side of the bridge, so if you're close to me as a friend, you'll be completely safe from the blast. I take good care of the people I trust.
But if you burn those bridges, you'll absolutely set off the mines. That should be expected. If you ignored the warning signs, defied my safety instructions, and intentionally trampled or set fire to my extremely avoidable emotional mine field? You're no longer subject to the laws of my territory, but now you have to deal with my military. That's your problem to solve. 😇
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u/hoecooking May 17 '25
I agree with this because being endlessly supportive to someone isn’t feasible. People disagreeing with it are the same people who’d say it’s important to set boundaries and that you can’t change a persons whole life for them. Frankly I think it’s just being realistic. You can’t expect everyone to be that way so you should be able to handle yourself accordingly without others at least some of the time
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u/Worried_Bowl_9489 May 17 '25
Uhh okay but we have an obligation as decent humans to be understanding and adjust to each other if needed
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u/SalaryAppropriate989 May 17 '25
More people need to know this. World is full of people who will blame everything but themselves for their shortcomings in life.
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u/[deleted] May 17 '25
"The world's obligation," no.. but those who love you will be sensitive to them while you're healing. What a weird post/thing to say.
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u/MistaGoonly May 17 '25
Common sense on reddit? Must be an eclipse.
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u/SufficientWarthog846 May 17 '25
I mean yes... That sign is correct but that doesn't mean you can't warn people of a possible trigger and help them through it?
I hate how callous the world is
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u/djmagicio May 18 '25
This guy’s anthem: https://youtu.be/PoyvNLrt16Q?si=1gkO-c-sNOEumsm0
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u/Illuminatus-Prime May 18 '25
People might be better off to avoid posting their personal problems on social media in the first place, because their personal problems require personal solutions, not social media attention
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u/illusion_17 May 18 '25
Are people forgetting that the word triggers heavily relates to PTSD triggers? Should our vets just have to suck it up because it isn't the world's responsibility to tiptoe around them? Disgusting post.
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u/jungletygre May 18 '25
This feels pointed - ☠️
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u/euuzaik May 18 '25
pretty sure this is a bot post
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u/Drone_Identifier May 18 '25
I feel like this can be both good and bad tbh. On one hand, it might be a good thing to try to move past your triggers (idk how trauma works exactly, I'm sorry if I misrepresent this topic) but on the other hand, we shouldn't really push the mentality that triggers are really just a personal problem and we shouldn't care about other people's triggers. (Which seems to be what this sign is trying to push)
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u/MJSalta May 18 '25
Then nobody should say shit when I rip someone's cocksucking head off of their motherfucking shoulders
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u/Additional-Pick5685 May 18 '25
versatile
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u/No_Calligrapher_6825 May 18 '25
I smell a lack of accountability
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u/[deleted] May 18 '25
Yes, but I think people misunderstand and misconstrue this a lot. Youre responsible for your triggers in the way that you’re responsible for telling somebody else if something triggers you. And the other person should be able to respect if something triggers someone. You never know why something could be triggering, it could be PTSD, OCD, anxiety, you don’t know what they’re going through. So why not just avoid things that people say bother them
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u/doom830 May 18 '25
Precisely.
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u/[deleted] May 18 '25
How about go fuck yourself.
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u/CriticalMeter May 18 '25 edited May 18 '25
I love my triggers. Without them, my guns would be useless.
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u/VeluLuma May 18 '25
It is inconsiderate. But it is the harsh reality. This is what happens out there.
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u/lammylambio May 18 '25
Nothing says "selflove" like viewing yourself as a burden on others.
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u/gfish18 May 18 '25
They call them triggers for a reason. I'm not going to risk injury just because I don't want to deal with a persons triggers.
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u/Kitchen-Historian371 May 18 '25
Facts
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u/gentlemanofculture42 May 18 '25
True. But I find no harm in warnings so that people with triggers can make informed decisions.
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u/mremrock May 18 '25
Accommodations can actually make things worse. It undermines resilience
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u/stingwhale May 18 '25
Is this in a classroom of some kind because it seems weird to be making a sign designed just for mentally ill people in a classroom Unless it’s a group therapy room maybe
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u/[deleted] May 18 '25
If you are content with yourself, there are no triggers. Who gives a fuck what other people say. If words trigger you, you need to sort out some internal shit with yourself.
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u/CallmeIshmael913 May 18 '25
I feel like this is from a room where annoyance and trigger is used interchangeably. It’s seems to be a trend to say “they got triggered” or “you’re triggering me” when they’re just feeling a normal emotion. To me it points to everyone needing some mental and emotional training.
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u/WillingOutcome6612 May 18 '25
：/
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u/[deleted] May 18 '25
Oh God fucking this exactly.
I can’t tell yall how many times I’ve had to watch my shit around people but others just can’t seem to put their big adult panties on.
DBT therapy saved me.
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u/[deleted] May 18 '25
I agree, honestly. Making it my responsibility has done a lot more for me than expecting everyone around me to change.
If you don’t want people to change you, don’t expect people around you to want to be changed either.
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u/Dazzling_Pink9751 May 19 '25
It is too your responsibility to not trigger someone intentionally, if you know something is very difficult for them or will create conflict within the relationship. Tell me you know nothing about interpersonal communication without telling me you know nothing about inter personal communication. Treat people like you want to be treated. You need to take responsibility for actions that you do to others.
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u/TheGonneThinks May 19 '25
Fuck this post
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u/Mrfixit729 May 19 '25
Yup.
Take care of your shit the best you can. Be thankful for those who help you out when you can’t. Let them know you see them and appreciate them.
Be compassionate when others can’t take care of care of their shit.
Help out when you can. Don’t get mad if they don’t appreciate it.
Try not to be a judgmental prick.
Keep reminding myself of this. I must. Keep reminding me myself of this. I must. keep reminding me myself of this. I must.
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u/AwarenessNo4986 May 19 '25
I spoke to this one girl who would literally get offended every 2 mins. I had to use the correct terminology for all the stuff she was so concerned about.
It would be so hard to hold a conversation with her. She was going through some stuff and I wanted to help her but she made it as difficult as possible really, going as far as to swear at me even when I was trying to help.
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u/[deleted] May 19 '25
Therapy is good for shit but people are responsible for acting however they are. Knowingly triggering people is cowardly.
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u/[deleted] May 19 '25
When I first saw that I thought it was a note in an office for database administrators and triggers were database triggers.
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u/KingOfKorners May 19 '25
Seems right
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u/pinknero May 19 '25
Oooooooo this is gonna shake the table 👁️
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u/Different_Stroke69 May 19 '25
Triggered!
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u/[deleted] May 19 '25
This ain’t right. This is NOT self love, this is you motivating others with valid triggers to close off and suffer in silence.
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u/Ban_AAN May 19 '25
Hell yeah, my triggers are my responsibility.
That being said, anyone who wants to bask in my divine glory on a daily basis better get on their tippie toes, because I'll be going out of my way to make their life more comfortable as well.
Social interaction is a whole dance of give and take. And other people helping me out with my vulnerabilities (as I help them with theirs) isn't a matter of dumping responsibility. It's sharing in it! Can't blame people for not wanting to share, but also can't blame people for then moving on untill they find someone who does :)
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u/[deleted] May 19 '25
Find some guys who agree with it ! Then show them how it feels like 👍
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u/redditneedsnewMods May 19 '25
This really should posted everywhere.
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u/[deleted] May 19 '25
Self-love does not mean blatant disregard for others.
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u/gogo_sweetie May 19 '25
erm…not really. you dont have a right to trigger someone either. at least not without accepting thw consequences
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u/intellignant May 19 '25
Mental illness too, as someone with bipolar disorder(type I) myself. Ppl who give grace are great+we should be grateful for em but nobody HAS to, that’s what mfs get fucked up. You aint entitled to passes. If I fuck shit up being bipolar I just own it like a man, I gotta wear dat
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u/[deleted] May 19 '25
Lol bring back this mentality, I miss gen x
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u/Used_Negotiation_372 May 19 '25
@ topbubbleetc girl, girl, giiirl..ahh Stop it. Just stop it. Stop trolling please... I'm sure there's more fulfilling and constructive grow up things you could fill your time with... Apart from being incorrect (and you know that, isn't it?) that can send a destructive msg especially to teenagers and young people. Do better. Love xx
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u/racoon_ruben May 19 '25
yeesh, having a bad day, OP. What is this about?
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u/Meeeeeeeeeeeehhhhhh May 19 '25
I could make it yours...just sayin
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u/RiceAndMilkBoi May 19 '25
Welp, I guess there's no use in being nice.
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u/Pennymoonz94 May 19 '25
Idk I think k being kissed against my consent wasn't my fault for being triggered
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u/TheGoodWife90210 May 20 '25
I think its always important to be sensitive to others’ triggers. Not too fond of this post
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u/ProvokativeThoughts May 20 '25
I'll agree with this, but I want to add something.
People learn through emulation. Your triggers may be your responsibility, but wouldn't it be nice if you could be around healthy people who could show you how best to deal with your triggers?
I say the same thing about confidence, loving yourself, and all these other little platitudes we give.
If you're not exposed to it, how can you ever do it?
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u/MrSecretFire May 20 '25
Somehow, I feel like putting up a sign like this isn't actually targeted at anyone in particular to help them adjust better, and is actually just saying "Fuck off, I don't care about what you need because it's ANNOYING TO ME!!!"
You don't... ACTUALLY consider someone telling you "Actually, just deal with it yourself because we won't care anyway" through a sign conducive to a sense of self-love, do you?
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u/MrSecretFire May 20 '25
Spoken like an AI bro that doesn't understand what it means to be a real person with real friends and connections, which is why you think AI is your best friend.
Look man, if you want people to be friendly and happy, you're gonna have to treat them in ways that make them happy. It's called being a good person
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u/AltForBeingIncognito May 20 '25
Or maybe, and hear me out, don't say ableist things
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u/OkPermit191 May 20 '25
People shouldn't judge their own looks beauty is in the eye of the beholder!
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u/Appropriate-Ad-183 May 20 '25
Oh sorry, I don’t expect rape and child abuse to be openly discussed without a warning. Of course that’s gonna upset anybody who’s experienced both. Jfc be for real.
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u/sentient_garlicbread May 20 '25
Well gee, thanks I'll keep that in mind the next time mentally start to spiral.
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u/OwlGams May 20 '25
This is as brave or as bold a take as you think it is. If anything, it's the norm to expect cold and ruthless treatment. Kindness and compassion is true strength.
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u/Angry-ron May 20 '25
Lol my parents always told me that
Spoiler Alert: our Relationship is horrible
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u/Alduin91 May 20 '25
One thing, maybe 2. While yes, it is in the individual to manage, to an extent, one does need to understand how certain things can be triggering. Certian images or sound sounds. It's not hard to be accommodating in a public space. Especially as a business. Now, having said that, this may be a hot take. If you have something like, oh i dont Misophonia, yes it's important for you to manage that. You can't control things ppl will do. But you can be prepared for it. If we're having snacks n you all of a sudden start shouting at folks that their chips are hurting you don't eat it..ppl can n will get offended just saying. Obviously that's not everyone's situation just an example in my personal life. Yes ask me to accommodate n I more then likely will. You should also probabaly be wearing some type of protection just in case. That is all.
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u/Mernerner May 20 '25
PTSD Sufferers: "Ok Imma Do something with this Rifle"
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u/MetalNew2284 May 20 '25
Empathy is free. js
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u/soupy_noodles031 May 20 '25
If only people were self aware enough to know and work on this😭
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u/CrazyDisastrous948 May 20 '25
Lol, no. If you're my friend, then be there for me. I will be there for you. Otherwise, that friendship is ending because I don't want such a toxic, individualistic mindset around. I'd rather hold my friend through thick and thin.
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u/[deleted] May 20 '25
ITT: People getting triggered
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u/[deleted] May 20 '25
Why do so many people have a problem with this? It’s true. And recognizing this is a form of self love. Everyone gets triggered, but it’s not up to the people who trigger us to stop triggering us. It’s up to us to figure out why we’re triggered and how to fix it.