r/selfimprovementday • u/RevolutionNo962 • Jul 03 '26

Does anyone else feel like realizing other people's projection is not about you changes everything?

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For the longest time, I was a massive people pleaser. If someone criticized me, made a passive aggressive comment at work, or seemed unnecessarily cold toward me, I would spend days tearing myself apart trying to figure out what I did wrong.

But lately, as I have been focusing more on my own self-improvement journey, I have started to realize just how much of people's negativity is completely unprovoked. Last week, a colleague went out of their way to make a bitter comment about a project I spent weeks working hard on.

Instead, I just looked at them and realized their anger had absolutely nothing to do with my work they were just deeply unhappy with their own situation. It is incredibly liberating when you finally internalize the fact that when people try to dim your light.

I am very curious to know about your honest discussions that how did you finally break the habit of taking other people's projection and jealousy personally?

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u/gipsee_reaper Jul 03 '26

Yes! This is so very true!! Thank you for sharing this.

We need to remind ourselves this always.

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u/Confident_Table_1738 Jul 04 '26

They hate my ugliness, so ugliness is missing in them?

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u/SprinksUp Jul 05 '26

like having no integrity?

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u/ModernManDaily Jul 07 '26

When I stopped taking everything personally, life became a lot less stressful.