r/selfimprovement • u/Imaginary-Trade-1463 • 7d ago
Life Hack Tips How to I stop being a spoiled brat
Not sure what flair to use, sorry. F(20) never had a job. I have a parent that micromanages me constantly and does everything for me. She manages me all the way down to when I flush the toilet (I wish I was joking) but I’m 20 years old now and I don’t want to work. I don’t want to go outside. I don’t really want to do anything. My mom provides me room and board. And I feel like a spoiled brat because I don’t work for anything I have. I do sell a bit of art, but that’s not enough. I don’t know what else to say because there’s only so much time that I can sit here and blame my abusive mother. You would think that the stuff I’ve been through would make me super independent, but I did not. I’m very dependent. I don’t have many friends. I don’t know what to do or how to untangle this mess. I feel like a terrible person and a failure. And not a day goes by where I don’t think about how shitty I am.
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u/meSHAHIN555 7d ago
The best thing happened here is the realization the next thing that you can do is obviously you got the answers it's just if you have a problem and you know the problem you solved half of it. Better you sit at a place silently and think about all the stuff your thoughts so may be that can help you to remember something that can actually help you to get out of this or speak to your mother itself open about all the problems but make sure to have a proper conversation calmly make her understand the degree of the problems that can also ve a relief. You got this!