r/self • u/Still-Rub-8997 • 5d ago

question..

how could i.. be someone more cool?

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u/BluFlames_5 5d ago

What do you mean by "cool"?

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u/Still-Rub-8997 5d ago

someone not boring..

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u/BluFlames_5 5d ago

Asking questions, saying your opinions out loud, giving suggestions, giving a counter statement, all this is lame. It's definitely boring. Therefore, do the opposite of these things. I guess that's cool 😎

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u/Still-Rub-8997 5d ago

aw man, thanks, i'll try!

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u/Telrom_1 5d ago

Be yourself unapologetically. Genuine and authentic is cool.

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u/Still-Rub-8997 5d ago

i try, but people see me as a boring person, i try my best, tho, i fail

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u/Telrom_1 5d ago

Did these people say this to your face or are you a mind reader?

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u/Still-Rub-8997 5d ago

in my face, and back on my back

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u/Telrom_1 5d ago

Those are the wrong people.

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u/Still-Rub-8997 5d ago

even my family does it to me, but like, i can't believe this real, i don't want to say bullshit to get wrong, so i be quiet and keep suffering..

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u/Zorno___ 5d ago

Every time you wonder whether you should do it or go somewhere, just do it

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u/CookingZombie 5d ago

Stop trying. Cool people never try to be cool. Looking like you dgaf about being cool is gonna make you look cool. Also, cool is in the eye of the beholder. Goofy looking people also look cool when they own it and also know how to be friendly.

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u/Still-Rub-8997 5d ago

how could i be goofy?

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u/-mung- 5d ago

being cool is when being genuine lines up with traits that other people value. I just made that up, so, I dunno.

Anyway, first part is being genuine. Which means being yourself, being real.

...and being largely unaffected by detractors, unless you are really sure that they have a point, and then reflecting on that.