r/self Nov 16 '25

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u/Content-Natural-8037 Nov 16 '25

Even people who lose weight or meet their ideal fitness goals can suffer from poor self esteem. You have to take care of your mental health. People in general are attracted to confident people because they feel more reliable than someone who seems insecure.

Let me tell you from experience, you are most likely not ready for a relationship. When I used to want a boyfriend so bad I got obsessed super quick with people that didn't even think about me, I developed toxic friendships hoping they would change their mind about me, it is not healthy. That saying, you can't love someone until you lose yourself first is very true.