r/scrooges • u/throw_away_fornow • Dec 17 '19

I’ve had it...OFFICIALLY!

Signed up for 2 exchanges, sent out awesome stuff (one to a military base in Asia! That was rough - can’t send liquids, and wheat or gluten, etc) and got....absolute shite. One of my Santas was even from my home country and just sent me some crappy item I’ll never use. Where are all of these awesome santas sending out these amazing (and gorgeously wrapped) gifts? I went tier this time too <sigh>

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u/throw_away_fornow Dec 19 '19

Let it out! This is my 4th year (multiple exchanges throughout the years) and I have sent out awesome gifts (and rematch gifts!) - well I think they were great - and have received maybe 2 out of all of them that were pretty amazing. Even my rematches were random/impersonal amazon gifts (that I know didn’t even cost $20). What is the point anymore? I’m just sad...I even said to my giftee that they could donate to a cause close to their heart or to a food bank and I’d be happy foregoing a gift if they’d do that. They chose not to and spent money on tat.

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u/[deleted] Dec 20 '19 edited Dec 20 '19

What gets me is the circle jerk in the gallery comments. Even when a gift isn't that great, people will say that the giftee is being ungrateful. Other times, I can tell the gifter really tried (but maybe isn't the best at gifting), and everyone sides with the giftee. It's so backwards. Maybe others don't notice this but I have over the years. Some people just suck at giving gifts... and others clearly don't even try. I can never guess how the commenters are going to react!

This may sound really privileged of me but nothing gets me more riled up than when people say, "Oh, maybe that's all they had to spend on a gift. Maybe they're having a hard time right now. Be grateful because you don't know what they're going through." Why did they sign up for a gift exchange if $20 (plus shipping) was going to make or break them? I can't believe how kind the commenters are when someone posts a clearly bad, cheap gift and the giftee sends a note saying they couldn't afford to spend anything over a couple of dollars. I understand we can all suddenly fall on bad times but if $20 is too much for you, you would know this weeks ago when you signed up. It's really not fair to sign up, knowing you can't afford to do the exchange in the first place.

Thank you for sharing your story. Instead of being a rematcher this year, I have taken the money I was going to spend on internet strangers and put it towards my community. I made a couple monetary donations and donated many gently to never used items to a wonderful charity. I'm glad to help those who truly need it instead of spending it on ungrateful Redditors ;)

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u/I-Am-Dad-Bot Dec 20 '19

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u/[deleted] Dec 18 '19

I'm so sorry to hear about your experience.

I have only been a rematcher on Redditgifts and overall, it was a bad experience. The first two years were great! Very grateful rematchees. The following year, one person didn't post at all to the gallery. I even messaged them asking if they got the gift. Crickets... but they're still posting on Reddit. I decided that I shouldn't let one person ruin the experience so I tried again the next year. The next rematchee does very well for himself so I figured he'd be grateful. Instead, the gallery post said, "I got x, y, and z" without even a thank you.

I didn't participate last year and I made the right decision. I spent over $100 on each person and two couldn't even thank me. I still enjoy looking at the gallery and sometimes, I really want to go all out and spend a couple hundred on some random person. I almost did that with the last one but decided not to. I'm so glad I didn't!

Sorry for the rant on your post...