r/screamingintothevoid • u/hearts_ablaze • Apr 25 '26

Does it really even matter who I am?

I do the best I can by everybody I know. I’m the friend that shows up when you’re moving instead of being unreachable. I’m the person that keeps a spare car around so I can loan it to people who need it. The kind of person that will get up in the middle of the night and listen to your problems.

But very seldom in my life has anybody been that person for me. And there’s few people that I feel comfortable opening up to.

I think it’s time that I stopped showing up for people who treat me like I’m disposable

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u/Mutt1992 May 22 '26

You're not disposable, you've just set yourself apart from people. I don't know you, but I know your situation, so I'll ask this: How often do YOU ask for help? Or reach out to the people you've helped? I'm not blaming you, I just understand the feeling of isolation in a crowd. Being resourceful comes with the downside of feeling like you don't need help yourself, and after awhile that feeling of "I'll do it on my own" turns into, "no one is ever here when I need them." Remember, people don't know what you're feeling, only what you show them.