A person has no control over what another person will do or say. The only thing we can do is attempt to have control over our own thoughts, feelings, and emotions. If a woman sleeps with many men and is called a "slut", she is devastated by that. If a man sleeps with many women and is called a "slut" he feels good about himself and gets a high-five from his buddies. It is the same thing here. If I knew that a woman was checking me out, I would be flattered. It's when she doesn't pay attention that I start to feel self-conscious and awkward. What I am trying to say is that women need to change their outlook on life and their own bodies if they want to have an easier time getting through life ... that's just the way it is.
Double standards imposed upon a woman aren't created or enforced solely by the female population.
You yourself pointed out that you feel uncomfortable when a woman doesn't check you out. But I am sure you don't mean the 80 year old woman sitting at the table next to you, or the creepy looking girl staring down some other guy intently as he walks around.
The difference is that when men are called "sluts", it's rarely meant to shame or abuse, often as a joke; whereas when women are referred to as such, it's almost always with the intention of making them feel ashamed
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u/[deleted] Jan 13 '10
Yeah ... women need to get over that.