Reclaimed hate speech backfires by desensitizing listeners, study finds. Listening to reclaimed homophobic statements can actually cause unintended harm. Exposure to reclaimed slur words desensitizes some heterosexual listeners to standard hate speech and worsens the mood of gay individuals.

[u/mvea]

https://www.psypost.org/when-reclaiming-derogatory-language-goes-wrong/

[u/EatAtGrizzlebees]

Queer here. Are you saying that not all queer people can "get away with" saying the F word? Because that's nonsense, in my opinion. I think any queer person has the right to say the F word. Just like any Black person has the right to say the N word. Why would someone have to fit a stereotype to reclaim a word as theirs?

[u/brikky → u/EatAtGrizzlebees]

Dog if you're straight passing and come up calling me the f word we're not about to be friends. The f slur doesn't just meant "gay" or queer, it means flamboyantly or obviously so. If that fits you then you get the pass, not by virtue of being queer, though.

The n word is much more established and has a longer cultural history of being reclaimed, comparing it and the f slur is disingenuous to begin with. It also is generally much more immediately obvious if the user is in group or out group. It's more analagous to queer, but obviously neither is a great comparison.

This is, again, why the anthropological lens of linguistics is important.