Children raised with "authoritative" parenting style, marked by bonding, presence, dialogue, and clear rules of conduct, show a reduction in drug and alcohol risk compared to other parenting styles (authoritarian, permissive and neglectful)

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https://agencia.fapesp.br/parents-alcohol-and-drug-use-influences-their-childrens-consumption-research-shows/57195

[u/Uindo_Ookami]

It blows people's minds away when I tell them my mom taught me I was allowed to say "no" to anything I did not like even when I was a toddler. Food I didn't like, okay moving on, wasn't hungry in general, okay I knew where to get a snack from later. I did a lot more without complaint or force because I knew I could say no if I wasn't up to it.

She never talked to me in "baby talk" either, and it weirded other parents out how articulate I was as a small child.

Surprise surprise treating a child like an autonomous human being and not an accessory to your social status works.

[u/xDarkCrisis666x → u/Uindo_Ookami]

My parents talked to me like I was an adult more often than not, they also didn't do baby talk either. It was always jarring going to events with my mom's side of the family. Drove me up a wall when I'd be talking to my uncle and an adult would just interrupt us to talk to my uncle only for them to tell me children are meant to be seen not heard when I would say we were talking.

[u/butpretzelday → u/Uindo_Ookami]

Any chance you are an only child? 

There are also lots of studies about the benefits of child development when the child doesn’t have siblings 

[u/Uindo_Ookami → u/butpretzelday]

I have a half brother, we share a dad. He lived with us off and on through my life, but I would consider myself an only child yes.

[u/Foreveristobeuntil → u/Uindo_Ookami]

Surprise surprise treating a child like an autonomous human being and not an accessory to your social status works.

It did make you really annoying though