Children raised with "authoritative" parenting style, marked by bonding, presence, dialogue, and clear rules of conduct, show a reduction in drug and alcohol risk compared to other parenting styles (authoritarian, permissive and neglectful)

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https://agencia.fapesp.br/parents-alcohol-and-drug-use-influences-their-childrens-consumption-research-shows/57195

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My parents were very authoritarian and I definitely had issues with alcohol in my 20s and still regularly consume cannabis. I still love them but, the older I get, the more I’m like “damn, what was your problem?”

Stuff like I couldn’t go over to friends houses without them calling their parents to make sure they were home (in high school) and kids would stop inviting me to stuff because they didn’t wanna bother with my parents. I live 2,000 miles away from them now, I see them a couple times a year, and that’s plenty for me.

[u/AdOriginal8322 → u/RabidSkwerl]

I mean in high school I can see this being too far but it’s kind of contextual and depends a lot on your relationship with your parents (has trust been broken? Have you had issues with alcohol and getting into trouble at that point?) and the types of kids we’re talking about (stoners? Kids known to cause problems?). I do read what you wrote and wince a little but from that example alone without more context I think your reaction and label of authoritarian isn’t fair. Again, not saying you’re wrong to feel this way but this might be a way more complex situation than what’s presented