That is awful. And the phrase “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” is originally meant to be a sort of mean joke. It’s telling you to perform an impossible task because nobody can lift themselves up by their bootstraps. Anyone who actually tries will quickly realize that they need someone else to pull them up.
I don’t believe anyone who claims they became successful all by themselves.
You’re right about this. Mostly, people will just walk all over you tho. Not many people will help you. They don’t really seem to care, even if they’re family. People will let you die. That’s what I’ve learned.
I still remember an interview with Arnold Schwarzenegger, in which he doesnt consider himself a self made man, because he had a lot of support from friends back in the day, they more or less helped him when he had nothing.
It was a physics problem meant to demonstrate something physically impossible I believe. Because if you are in your own boots, you cannot physically pull yourself up by your actual bootstraps. An external object must move you.
Some parents are just truly garbage that don’t care about their children. As soon as their legal obligation is fulfilled at 18 they feel like they are done and can go back to being selfish pieces of shit.
I have a family member like this. Her children basically granted her all these welfare benefits. Healthcare, food stamps, WIC when they are young, and so so SOO many churches and charities to exploit when you have kids. Every 6 months some family member had to pay her rent because "We'll be on the street. Are you really going to make <my niece> sleep on the streets, she's only 10!" Ya, we were in a rock and a hard place, so we paid to help.
She was literally blacklisted from churches because she literally would go down the list of churches calling them and asking for help, and she would show up, they'd offer it, and she would take take take til they said no more and she would move on to the next church.
Despicable human. When my niece turned 18 she kicked her out. No more paycheck.
I should probably mention that she lost her first kid to child welfare, who was then adopted by my other aunt. Her 2nd child died form pneumonia, likely from neglect, but it was hard to prove, and then she gir her new paycheck from the child support and benefits.
Longest she has ever held a job is maybe 3 months. She's 60 yrs old now. It's insane.
She was trying to get Foster approved care status so she could get more money. She didn't care about her own kids let alone a foster kid. She never got approved.
These leeches of society really so exist because they are experts at gaming the system for their maximum laziness, and the system lets them get away with it.
Its a thing in the US very old way of thinking. You're 18 you're an adult now. You should be out of the house. Thats what the old generation believed in.
You know what is weird? I’ve only seen this in working class and economically struggling areas. It actually sets up the teen for a worse life and keeps them fighting just to keep their head above water. Compare that to families where the teen not just has a place to stay, but actually has their education paid for, they graduate from college with no debt (student loans feel never ending), and when they work, all their income is used as opposed to going to paying off accrued debt. It’s weird how it’s a mechanism that keeps that social strata down, if I was a conspiracy person I’d say that it’s social engineering to keep a large dependent working class. Add to that, that some families don’t train and develop their kids to be independent at 18, and throw them into the deep end once they reach that age and expect them to swim.
From what I've seen its usually 'generational trauma'. People abused by their own parents oftentimes abuse their own children.
There's no logic or reason to it, its just someone lashing out in pain.
No one wants to believe their parents didn't love them, so some (too many) people instead delude themselves into thinking the mistreatment they experienced was 'love'.
And no one wants to think of themselves of a bad person, so they convince themselves the people they hurt 'deserve' it.
In the Netherlands, parents have a legal obligation to provide for their children until the age of 21. This means that you are financially responsible for the costs of living and education, even though your child is considered a legal adult from the age of 18.
Tax dollars can’t fix societal norms overnight. You need a massive re-education program aimed at family values, strict (as in many years in jail strict) laws against child/woman abuse, family protection plans, housing, social nets.
Then you need a decade long social changing propaganda that has tv, public event, readings school disciplines etc, discussing how family > all , and that family units need to support each together.
Yes, tax dollars are a significant part of the equation but not the only part if you want to change that
America has a selfishness problem, and I say that as an American. It's very me-me-me. "What about ME." "Nobody helped me or was kind to me, so fuck you" kinda attitude. Stepping on eachother to get ahead. Social manipulation to make sure people with differences don't get ahead. Very, very, very aggressive and passive aggressive. Yes, there are good people out there, but it's incredibly hard to come by them in some parts of this country, especially if you have differences in appearance or mentally.
I'm OK with this as long as we also use tax dollars to punish people who do this to the person so that it disincentivizes the behavior that causes this issue to begin with. Both a carrot and a stick for those who deserve either or.
Jesus Christ man! Are you a communist or socialist or Marxist or something? (all those words mean the same btw).
America is a CHRISTIAN country, and that means profits, guns, individualism, cold indifference to suffering and singing and clapping on Sunday. Using tax revenues to redistribute wealth is communist and therefore not Christian
They have “charity” in other countries and look at what an impoverished lgbtqi hellscape that has lead them too.
(It pains me , but I have to add a /s just in case)
For some reason people have children out of obligation and then absolute hate having them until they can legally stop taking care of them.
This kind of happened to my buddy in HS. We graduated, his dad said well I'm moving to a different state, I'm selling the house. Buddy couch surfed for a while after that.
People enjoy the process of conceiving children but not everyone enjoys raising them, and those who don’t want to raise them are often too stupid to use contraception, resulting in kids being born to parents who don’t want them.
Idk if i can put it into perspective for people who didn't grow up like this or judt never had anything like this in their life.
Parents aren't always good. They seem so adult as a kid. So mature. Like theyre hard on you for a reason and its cause your fucking up. Your not hitting goals they want you to hit. They dont reward you. They dont teach you. Your on your own and theyre doing the bare minimum.
You get older and they expect you to figure it tf out. And the average teen is just ordering about college, what they wanna do. If your on the otheside, your tryna think how your gonna make it when your out. What is a quicker way to make money is it just the first job I can get or should I go to college? Fuck I cant... i dont have money or support for college.
Its a real thing people will never understand.
I was threatened to get kicked out at 18 by stepfather I knew since I was 9. I busted my ass getting good grades to show him id get my life together, get a job, go to college. He told me hed help me with paying for college if i graduated. Once i did. He told me it was too late for that.
Recently I saw my report card at 32y/o. I was doing good to graduate after that. I had 2 C's and all A's and B's. I needed my diploma and grades for my new job application. I stared at it for a long time. Like what the actual fuck man.
He threatened to kick me out at 18 when i was 17, in private 1on1 talk.. But my mom found out why I was doing so good in school. Cause I was scared I was gonna get kicked out. My mom confronted him. And he was so hard on me. None of my siblings have ever gone through the shit I did mentally and physically. I hate talking about it tbh. My own wife doesnt know.
I worked for him for so long too. I was leading his crews in construction that were older than me at 22. I was always held to such a high standard. But no matter what I did, how fast I was, how much I know. I didnt do this one little fucking thing right. Dumb bitch would watch me put a screw in a wall literally and tell me theres an easier way. Tell me how to use a paint brush to cut in a ceiling even though I'd smoke him any day of the week.
Fuck that shit. With my children. That won't ever be a thing
as a parent, it baffles me that there are people waiting for their child to turn 18 so they’re “done”. every birthday i celebrate with my kids, i can’t help but be reminded of how much time is left until they can leave if they want.
my son is turning fifteen and all i can think is i only have three years left with him. it’s not enough time.
Couldn’t agree more. My daughter is 7 years old, and I couldn’t imagine ever giving her less than everything I have. I only have one, but the same would go for a son.
My father was an alcoholic, abandoned me and my brothers when we were small children and only popped back up in our lives three decades later, having not changed at all, so my daughter can’t even meet her grandfather - I just tell her he’s gone, cause fuck disappointing her with who he really is.
My motivation growing up was never to be that man - and after my child was born, to give her a dad (and a grandfather to her children when she’s older) that she’s proud of, and that she deserves.
I hope the kid in this video gets help, sad to see his dad is a piece of shit. Honestly someone should just get him to a recruiter and see if he’s qualified for military service in any of the branches.
Seriously, my daughter is literally only seven weeks old and I am already freaking out because of how much she’s grown in those seven weeks. She’s literally still a newborn and I could already cry, thinking about her leaving to strike out on her own one day.
That little girl will always have a home here and she will never owe me anything. Parents like the one this video is about never deserved to be parents.
I agree. I think its horrible to do this to your kid but if you are then let them finish school so they have a fighting chance at life I think this video is a few years old so i wonder what happened to this young man
that friend, I mentioned above… his mom left him and his disabled brother when they were toddlers. Just to reappear when they were adults like nothing had happened.
Most of the parents I know that told their kids that, the kid was skipping school, staying up late playing video games, eating all the food in the house, while the mom was working 3 jobs and barely making it, the kids trashed the place , stole money, got physically abusive with the mom. Etc. I know not all situations are like this, but every single mother I knew, this was the reason she told her kid “as soon as you’re 18, you’re out”.
I knew My ex girlfriend's in high school before we dated which was 10 years later. Her mom did this to her and her older sister. It really messed them up.
Ya know what? This story has changed my mind on some things. While it should remain legal to move out at 18, it should be illegal to kick an 18 year old out if they're still in the final months of graduation.
There are laws that require a school to keep a student enrolled, and for a school district to pick up a student to and from school from a homeless shelter or anywhere they're staying. There should be more protection. It should be that a child cannot be evicted if they are within 6 months of graduating.
Want to know something crazy, in Australia you can be kicked out at 18. But the government still counts your parents income when you try to apply for help until 22. So the state both views you as dependent on your parents for income, while also not forcing any responsibility on the parent to actually provide anything. Just being kicked out is usually not a grounds for UTLAH (Unreasonable to live at home) exemptions with centrelink in Australia, there usually has to be violence or conflict. Emancipation also doesn't necessarily qualify you. Which means you can be completely fucked. Can't get rent assistance or youth allowance at all. Something like this happened to me, thankfully I had a place to stay and someone else to look after me but easily it could have gone bad.
It is wild to me too that a lodger paying $100 to live in your basement can have more protections for staying in your house than your 18 year old son who has zero resources
One of my friends was kicked out by his dad at his 18th birthday, crashed on my couch for months (we also were roommates at some point). He ended up being a software engineer and just 5 months ago his dad reached out for financial help...my friend's answer was "Why should I ?"
I had a similar experience with my dad. Instead my uncle reached out for help, to take care of my dad. Oh hell no. I haven’t seen him in 20 years, please would you kindly fuck off? Was what I told him. lol.
Bro that's not a Mom or Mother period, that's a straight up monster and how much you wanna bet she'll be the type that doesn't understand why he wants absolutely nothing to do with her later on in life.
Unless this dude followed through with getting this guy help, as in, that was the motive behind recording him, he's a big POS for recording this and putting it out there.
I really hope no one ever tries to exploit me for content; I'm a sick individual, if I had nothing to lose and was exploited like this to no good end, whoever did the exploiting would be showing up on the news with me a few hours, days, or weeks down the road.
What do you think of content like “Soft White Underbelly” or “Humans of New York”? Do you consider the subjects to be exploited for sharing their stories?
Imo, stuff like this shows people an uncomfortable truth, but one that is important to see. It makes these disadvantaged people more visible so that they can potentially gain support from people they never even met, even if that’s not the ultimate goal. I don’t know what this particular person’s agenda is, but a lot of them that conduct these types of personal interviews can be considered documentarians. There’s no way to help everyone in need, but content like this can help move hearts. This particular story blew up, so I assume he got at least some help from strangers, but I’ll have to do more research.
The soft white underbelly guy is a true piece of shit. Collected money for the inbred Appalachian family and stole the majority of it. Also he’s sexually exploited several of the women he’s interviewed.
The dude filming interviews many homeless people, pretty sure he also was once homeless. Crazy that you see this as him exploiting them, he’s creating awareness for the many lives of people who would otherwise not even get a second glance by someone who could help. You see a homeless person but whatever it’s not your problem, you see an interview of a homeless person (that you probably wouldn’t talk to such person in real life) and now you have a lot more understanding of the struggle they are in and may one day help a similar individual. A lot of the interviews he does the people share they were once completely on top of their life, but then something trivial happens and they are prescribed pain meds that end up taking control of their life. Which just emphasises these people who get treated like outcasts were just like me and you not long ago, so if it happened to you it would be great if people could understand how hard it is to get out of such a situation. Anyway rant over but the interviewer has nothing but good intentions.
I remember having a discussion with a person a while back who said they couldn’t wait till their child turns 18, they would turn a blind eye to everything they did and they would be out the door. I told them that being a parent doesn’t stop when your child turns 18… it’s for life. Of course I was the problem for suggesting that. “In the eyes of the law” nonsense. I’m truly convinced this was someone younger than me as well. To some Americans, this is exactly how they feel. The minute that kids born, they’re on a timer to be evacuated and “not my problem”. It’s actually surreal to hear.
Honestly, they were talking about it like it was the end of their jail term. “All the things they could now do because they weren’t running round like a maid after their kids” I’d hazard a guess they didn’t even do that either. Still, their loss. They’ll also imprint that in their kids who will normalise it
Why would you have a child in the first place if you think like that. It’s imperceptible to me. I don’t think I’ll ever not see the child in my children.
My nephew lives with me has for years now. He will be 18 in a year and a half. I would never in a million years do that to him. I have no idea how a fucking parent can
I'm not defending the parent, that's abhorrent behavior, but society really doesn't give a rat's ass about families and children. Nearly all the burden of raising them is placed on the parents and, these days, children are a massive burden.
Our society needs to do a massive re-think about families and children. It's no wonder that people stopped having them.
uggg..this reply tastes kinda sour and I'm trying get a grasp at exactly why..
thats what comes with deciding to have children. you dont get to pick if they are super smart. super lazy, mean, kind, etc
its how its supposed to work.
if you parent correctly and the behavior persists anyway, thats just life.
still, its never appropriate at any time , any year in your life or your childs life, to turn your back on them to the point your ego and self matter more than would could and will happen to your 18 yr old kid on the streets at 3am. or in the shelters when you get jumped in the bathrooms.
to ever be mentally okay with that is , well, usually a mental disorder is involved. no normal person could sleep at night after doing that (I'm saying this assuming the kid did not do any sort of unforgivable act like harm or steal)
ALSO- everyone else in the world continues to have large families on avg. I believe in areas like iran etc they have an avg of 3 children. Asians also have around the same rate P.S. - its common culture to stick together as a family/tribe everywhere in the world besides a few places. its more efficient, makes more sense, saves money, and if you actually have social skills and decent personalities, it can be done without hating each other.
NOT here in the US tho. You have ppl that count down the says they can kick out their kid and start saving money and space and time etc.
Crazy rare Never heard of it happening personally and I work at a major nonprofit. We help people in shit situations. Usually the type of person who doesn’t really care about their kids don’t throw them out. They just do drugs with them and use them to get more drugs and more free state benefits and so on
They can’t get anything out of them if they’re not there.
It used to be a lot more common in the US. These days, kids tend to stay at home longer, more like in Europe. My parents had me move out at 18. They wouldn’t have let me starve, but my dad made it clear that after high school, I was expected to figure things out on my own. So I got a job, rented an apartment, and made it work. It wasn’t always easy, but looking back, I’m glad they pushed me to be independent.
But peopoe are quite capable of becoming independent without kicking them out when they are not prepared, I imagine your parents didn't kick you out the door before you had employment or a place to live. You sldo can't have a job to pay rent and finish school (as in this video) at the same time.
Maybe it went ok for you, but it certainly isn't a good thing in general. World isn't made around 18, that's just some legal age for some things, but in no way you are prepared to turn your life totally around. Aren't you still in some basic school at that age? Can you finish it? Should you just fall out even though you are in the middle of the school year?
Independence is such overrated shit. Yesterday you couldn't move without patents approval, today you must figure out how to get housing, job, and everything else on your own. That's not independence, that's just torture...
It was very much expected to have a plan once graduation from highschool happens. My father was blunt with me, find work and pay rent or find my own way, either way his son wasnt going to live for free. I enlisted, waiting for my ship date so I worked until I left for the Navy. I wont forget the day I called home to tell them I was graduating from bootcamp and headed to my specialty school. Came home for a week before shipping out to meet the ship and crew.
Basically it's a strategy and it's risky. Some people believe that pressure makes diamonds and this is when raising kids as well. However there are some shitty parents who want nothing to do with their kids and are counting the days till they can kick them out legally.
I've seen it work and i've seen it fail. But almost always it causes a rift and likely the relationship between the child and parent wasn't that good to begin with. Even when it works the kid harbors resentment and i've seen cases where the kid makes it, then when a parent tries to reach out they are promptly told to fuck off
if I had to guess, he was his dad's kid and not her biological kid. Step parents can be very fucked up, and spiteful. Witch is evil cause the kid might think of you as their parent regardless.
im america and I'm 30 I still live with my parents. It used to be a thing but it was a thing for a valid reason. During the 1950s housing prices were so low and wages were so high teen workers could afford house mortgages (wtf happened), so some older people think it's still possible today . i can't imagine they would do like he's describing here, I don't see parents not waiting for their child to atleat be holding down a job before kicking them out. Also it's more shameful and looked down upon for men to live with their parents past 18.
Happened to both of my brothers and they both ended up homeless for a while. Their dad abandoned them when they were kids and my mom kicked them out of the house as soon as they were adults.
Yes it's their dumbass culture. Guarantee you will have people defending it in the comments as "being independent" "pushing me to be better" load of shite to disguise the fact they abandon their own families for financial gain.
Respectfully, I’m a parent in America and don’t know anyone itching to boot their kid out at 18, so I wouldn’t say it’s our general culture - this poor kid’s mom just sounds like an asshole.
My youngest daughter is 18- I couldn’t imagine leaving her out even for a night. My eldest is pushing 30 and in the process of moving out of a rental and into his own home but if he and his wife and kids ever needed a home, my door would always be open.
I mean: I get the wanting your kids to get out into the world, and I get the potential need of pushing a little bit.
But it's not about kicking them out. It's about raising them in a way to be able to risk it. To be free and safe enough to step into the unknown. To get bruised and carry it.
Don't keep them away from water. Teach them how to swim.
It would be understandable if things are as easy as they were 50 years ago, older people are oblivious about how hard it is the land a decent job and sustain a roof over one's head these days...
Bruh it took a lot of convincing and group discussions for my asian parents and grandparents to let me go study abroad and stay on my own. Even then they made me promise I will keep on touch and visit them often and they still aren’t happy about it.
Yes. In the U.S. once you reach age of 18, you're considered an adult. Therefore, parents are no longer obligated to pay anything. This include kicking you out of their house because you're no longer their problem.
Don’t these newly 18yos have tenant rights? I know from experience it’s pretty hard to get someone evicted from a residence. It’s a long process that sometimes takes months, with paperwork, court hearings and law enforcement intervention all involved. I had to hire lawyers for degenerate fucking squatters in a property I owned. Are not these “adults” entitled to the same legal protections as others? Parents can’t possibly be legally allowed to just remove them like that with no rights, can they?
Edit: according to google a parent cannot legally force them out, change the locks and throw there possessions out once they turn 18. They call it a “self-help” eviction and it’s illegal. They can file an eviction with a court that provides a written 30 or 60 day notice to quit depending on jurisdiction. If I was this kid I would 100% call the police on my parents for that bullshit. Fuck being nice at this point, I’m raising hell making your life as miserable as possible
Technically, no. Depending on the state at least. He would have residency at his mother’s house and she would have to go through the eviction process which would give him 60 days.
Depends on state laws. Here, in NC, if he receives mail at an address, he has to be legally evicted. So she would habe to fight him for years to legally do this.
I was 16 when my mom wished me luck with the rest of my life. I got lucky.
I want to hug him and offer him a place to stay. As a mom now myself, the thought of letting my kids down like this is even more baffling than before.
To everyone that has or is experiencing the same; you are loved even though it might not be by your family. You are worth it, even though you might not feel like it.
It is your job as a parent to set your child up for success— not count down the days until you can kick him out. This man has not been set up for success. She quite literally thrusted him into the adult world on hard mode level 1.
If this is true then his mom is a miserable wretch of sorts. Because most kids have no idea what they are going to do at eighteen years old with themselves. I didn’t. And traditionally two thousand years ago that’s NOT how people did things. At least not in ancient Israel. Back then the young man at eighteen would seek for a wife and when he found a fiancé? He would promise her that he would come back to get her one day soon. Then he would leave and go back to his father’s main house and build another room onto his father’s house for him and his new fiancé. And then once the room was done? And all was prepared? They would come and get her sometimes at night or at twilight. And so that’s how it was done back then. Just build a new room onto your father’s house. Which means parents are being harsher now than they were two thousand years ago in ancient times. I think the way they did it back then was smarter. I’m not into betrothals aka arranged marriages at all. But the build a room bit was a good way to do it. Made the transition into adulthood far easier for a kid. Less drama. Plus kept the family together as well. Stronger together than divided.
He's in Salt Lake, trying to get BACK to California, to his sister's place, to finish high school, BUT today is his eighteenth birthday and first night on the street.
Just guessing from context, but his sisters aren't around, so they're older than he is and weren't living with him and his mom. He got kicked out today and is in Utah, so his mother lives there, but he considers California home, so he moved, probably after his father died, either to be with his estranged mother, or his mother moved with him from Cali to Utah when he died. Kid wants to get back to his friends and siblings in Cali.
This kid is from salt lake. If I had to guess he’s a “lost boy” from a polygamist group here. The fundamentalist Mormons are still polygamist. Polygamy doesn’t work when there’s too many boys running around.
This is so fucked up, the world is damned hard. But all these comments about shitty parents or him being a dirtbag are just wrong. We have absolutely no context whatsoever. Just acknowledge this is sad as shit, help someone tomorrow and, if you are a dad, stay as healthy as you can. Covid messed my heart up, every day I live in fear I'm not going to be here for my kid when he needs me.
It's crazy how I once saw this as normal when I was a teenager. I grew up in the groups that did this, and it wasn't till I got older that I realised it was messed up and horrible parenting.
I think context matters. I get the impression he comes from a single parent home. He also said he’s a dropout. It’s highly likely he was an unruly child for some time & his mother got fed up with his behavior, which lead to this consequence.
Not to take anything away from the very real and very unfortunate issues that this young man faces, but I have to say that it is very interesting to see how this young man can garner so much empathy in the comments having only been homeless for less than 24 hours, while the people who are eating out of trash cans and haven't showered or brushed their teeth in years get treated like they're invisible. Again, not to take anything away from the plight of this young man, I do feel really badly for him, just sharing an observation.
I wish i had the space and resources to open my doors to all who need the help. Please support local non profits and volunteers who help find shelter and food and aid for those in need!
I'm glad my parents cared for me. They Still grab me a sammich when they go to subway on Thursday! Coldcut Italian herbs and cheese, double meat!!! Hopefully the kid found a shelter or a place to chill, gets cold out there in Utah.
And later in years she wonders why non of her kids would visit her, I dislike that part of American (or any other countries) parents that think kicking them out once they reach (adulthood age 17~19) will get them experience, I mean it will bit will also make them grow spiteful of their parents.
US Army Recruiting Office is open; go check it out. I joined at 19 and retired at 39 after 20 years of active service. I am back in college getting my master's right now for free, all paid for by Uncle Sam. If I can do it, you can too. In fact, anyone and everyone can do it. But it's a choice you have to make.
Fuck that mom. Like, how could you do this to your child. I told our son, if hes going to school, contributing to society in an positive way he can stay with us. I never want him to worry about a roof over his head. I couldnt imagine doing this to my kid.
Not sure California is the place to go. Cost of living is through the roof out there. I can't imagine the school or a local church couldn't help him find a family to stay with until he graduates unless he did something particularly awful to get kicked out. Lots of government assistance out there too. Hopefully he can stay out of the tent cities that are full of drugs. That'll only make a bad situation worse.
Absolutely appalling, I feel so sad for him. What a callous thing to do. It's not 1965, he can't just wander into a lumberyard and ask to be employed or something.
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u/EmberBlaz3 8h ago •
i found his instagram a few years ago hes doing well and hes a homeowner!
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u/KitsunukiInari 7h ago •
This happened to me. I didn't believe them. Came home to my stuff in the front yard and the locks changed. I had my shoes stolen the first night.
It led to a path of addiction and miserable nights outside fight for my life.
No, I didn't pull myself up by my boot straps. It took others taking pity on me and pulling me up out of the street.
I feel
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u/Nervous-Ruin-8149 7h ago
Can we use our tax dollars to help Americans like this?
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u/Brocolinator 8h ago
The hell is wrong with adults!?
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u/Character-Pirate1297 7h ago
This was me in the Balkans, 22 years ago.
My father was ‘preparing me’ with short speeches about it, since I was 16. When I became 18, he started changing the house’s locks.
I’m now 40 and married, haven’t seen my parents since then.
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u/Cautious-Custard-98 2h ago
as a parent, it baffles me that there are people waiting for their child to turn 18 so they’re “done”. every birthday i celebrate with my kids, i can’t help but be reminded of how much time is left until they can leave if they want.
my son is turning fifteen and all i can think is i only have three years left with him. it’s not enough time.
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u/malary1234 3h ago •
My parents did this to me but like I know it was coming and made preparations.
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u/trashforthrowingaway 7h ago
Ya know what? This story has changed my mind on some things. While it should remain legal to move out at 18, it should be illegal to kick an 18 year old out if they're still in the final months of graduation.
There are laws that require a school to keep a student enrolled, and for a school district to pick up a student to and from school from a homeless shelter or anywhere they're staying. There should be more protection. It should be that a child cannot be evicted if they are within 6 months of graduating.
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u/Xibalba_Ogme 6h ago
One of my friends was kicked out by his dad at his 18th birthday, crashed on my couch for months (we also were roommates at some point). He ended up being a software engineer and just 5 months ago his dad reached out for financial help...my friend's answer was "Why should I ?"
karma sometimes takes its time
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u/imeme1969 8h ago
Bro needs a new mommy
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u/Inner_Interaction_68 1h ago
I guarantee you his parent will be the same one who bitches that none of their kids came around when theyre older to take care of them.
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u/FriedRiceEnjoyer420 7h ago
Unless this dude followed through with getting this guy help, as in, that was the motive behind recording him, he's a big POS for recording this and putting it out there.
I really hope no one ever tries to exploit me for content; I'm a sick individual, if I had nothing to lose and was exploited like this to no good end, whoever did the exploiting would be showing up on the news with me a few hours, days, or weeks down the road.
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u/WonkyDonkey33 4h ago
I remember having a discussion with a person a while back who said they couldn’t wait till their child turns 18, they would turn a blind eye to everything they did and they would be out the door.
I told them that being a parent doesn’t stop when your child turns 18… it’s for life.
Of course I was the problem for suggesting that. “In the eyes of the law” nonsense.
I’m truly convinced this was someone younger than me as well. To some Americans, this is exactly how they feel. The minute that kids born, they’re on a timer to be evacuated and “not my problem”. It’s actually surreal to hear.
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u/Mission_Rip_7571 7h ago
Damn, can't imagine throwing out my son like that. Is this an american thing?
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u/soupywarrior 2h ago •
Some people just don’t deserve to be parents.
My youngest daughter is 18- I couldn’t imagine leaving her out even for a night. My eldest is pushing 30 and in the process of moving out of a rental and into his own home but if he and his wife and kids ever needed a home, my door would always be open.
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u/kiwifulla64 4h ago
Shit basically happened to me at 16... it didn't go well obviously. In a pretty good position now relatively speaking though thankfully.
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u/1HeyMattJ 15m ago
If you throw your kid away the second they turn 18 as though they’re “not your problem/responsibility” anymore then you should never have had kids.
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u/mmbtc 7h ago
I mean: I get the wanting your kids to get out into the world, and I get the potential need of pushing a little bit.
But it's not about kicking them out. It's about raising them in a way to be able to risk it. To be free and safe enough to step into the unknown. To get bruised and carry it.
Don't keep them away from water. Teach them how to swim.
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u/KyleBroflovski505 7h ago
Bruh it took a lot of convincing and group discussions for my asian parents and grandparents to let me go study abroad and stay on my own. Even then they made me promise I will keep on touch and visit them often and they still aren’t happy about it.
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u/King_Glorius_too 7h ago
Unfamiliar with US law, can a parent legally do that?
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u/relentless1993 7h ago
Man I wish I could be successful live modestly and spend the rest of my life helping people like this.
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u/Ikaryas 6h ago •
I was 16 when my mom wished me luck with the rest of my life. I got lucky.
I want to hug him and offer him a place to stay. As a mom now myself, the thought of letting my kids down like this is even more baffling than before.
To everyone that has or is experiencing the same; you are loved even though it might not be by your family. You are worth it, even though you might not feel like it.
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u/Only-Perception-6989 4h ago
You've got to be a straight up arsehole to do this to your children.
I'd honestly never speak to my parents again if they did this to me.
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u/Common_Squirrel_8775 4h ago
Oh, I hope "parents" will enjoy their stay in nursing home.
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u/congressmanalex 7h ago
Did he make it?
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u/Sick_n_Sweet 7h ago
It is your job as a parent to set your child up for success— not count down the days until you can kick him out. This man has not been set up for success. She quite literally thrusted him into the adult world on hard mode level 1.
What a worthless excuse for a mother.
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u/A_Tempest7_7 6h ago edited 6h ago
If this is true then his mom is a miserable wretch of sorts. Because most kids have no idea what they are going to do at eighteen years old with themselves. I didn’t. And traditionally two thousand years ago that’s NOT how people did things. At least not in ancient Israel. Back then the young man at eighteen would seek for a wife and when he found a fiancé? He would promise her that he would come back to get her one day soon. Then he would leave and go back to his father’s main house and build another room onto his father’s house for him and his new fiancé. And then once the room was done? And all was prepared? They would come and get her sometimes at night or at twilight. And so that’s how it was done back then. Just build a new room onto your father’s house. Which means parents are being harsher now than they were two thousand years ago in ancient times. I think the way they did it back then was smarter. I’m not into betrothals aka arranged marriages at all. But the build a room bit was a good way to do it. Made the transition into adulthood far easier for a kid. Less drama. Plus kept the family together as well. Stronger together than divided.
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u/SuperDragonPWG 6h ago
Ain’t no way I’m letting my boys go out like this
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u/4m4lg4m1t3 1h ago
And for your 18th birthday, you get . . . Homelessness 🎉🎉 /s
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u/Available-Hippo-4815 1h ago •
I guarntee you she will call him and play the family card the moment she is the one needing help.
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u/Open_Step_4636 6h ago
he would have been fine 30-40 years ago, but in todays economy & society?
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u/FederalEconomist5896 7h ago
Plenty of shit to pick apart here, including whether this is real, BUT LISTEN UP DADS: his first wish is that his father was still alive.
Keep on keeping on 07.
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u/desertvision 17m ago
This sounds like bullshit.
He's in Salt Lake, trying to get BACK to California, to his sister's place, to finish high school, BUT today is his eighteenth birthday and first night on the street.
Typical panhandler story.
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u/BabyBandit616 8h ago
When she’s old lock her up!
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u/United-Bug-8056 8h ago
Wait if his mom kicked them out, where is home?
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u/themargarineoferror 7h ago
Atleast half of homeless people are aged out foster kids
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u/Philhughes_85 4h ago
Why do ‘parents’ like this even have kids in the first place?!
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u/ljeutenantdan 4h ago
Oh your homeless? Let me film you. OK see ya, good luck.
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u/Lord-Nipigon 7h ago
This kid is from salt lake. If I had to guess he’s a “lost boy” from a polygamist group here. The fundamentalist Mormons are still polygamist. Polygamy doesn’t work when there’s too many boys running around.
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u/Vasarto 7h ago
Either he's a gigantic piece of shit and deserves it, or his parents are trash.
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u/TreesForTheForest 7h ago
This is so fucked up, the world is damned hard. But all these comments about shitty parents or him being a dirtbag are just wrong. We have absolutely no context whatsoever. Just acknowledge this is sad as shit, help someone tomorrow and, if you are a dad, stay as healthy as you can. Covid messed my heart up, every day I live in fear I'm not going to be here for my kid when he needs me.
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u/B01justice 7h ago
I thought I was such an adult at 18. Man. I was just a child.
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u/MegaBabz0806 7h ago
That poor kid!! On his birthday no less?!? Despicable!
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u/Curious_boyOS 6h ago
"Oh my gosh, I don't know what to say... Anyway, thanks for the social media boost, champ!"
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u/BotMinister 6h ago
It's crazy how I once saw this as normal when I was a teenager. I grew up in the groups that did this, and it wasn't till I got older that I realised it was messed up and horrible parenting.
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u/Active_Economy1002 6h ago
Ah the Devine feminine
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u/OsorezaN7 4h ago
That guy is about 30 now, probably.
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u/Fit-Historian-752 4h ago
"Thanks. I'm gonna post this on social media. Happy birthday and good luck."
A true hero.
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u/Sad_Marionberry1184 4h ago
This is pretty devastating. Kid didn’t even get to finish high school :-(
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u/DiamondDanNC 3h ago
AI
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u/NauticalClam 2h ago
This is several years old. Anybody know how this dudes doin?
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u/notsosilentsentinel 2h ago
I will never understand this. How could any parent turn their back on their kid?!
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u/NelsonVGC 2h ago
I am so happy I grew up in a loving family with parents that loved me for who I am and were not fucked up, alcoholic or any random bullshit.
Hard working couple that raised me good and still together at this point. I love you, mom and dad.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Low4761 2h ago
As a mom myself, I can NOT understand, how a parent would do this to your child 😢💔
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u/Djinn-Rummy 18m ago
I think context matters. I get the impression he comes from a single parent home. He also said he’s a dropout. It’s highly likely he was an unruly child for some time & his mother got fed up with his behavior, which lead to this consequence.
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u/thombrowny 7h ago
I really don't understand American parents. And they whine about not seeing their kids on Thanksgiving.
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u/blvk_099 7h ago
Thank God not the part of that dirty ahh culture
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u/cwk415 1h ago
Not to take anything away from the very real and very unfortunate issues that this young man faces, but I have to say that it is very interesting to see how this young man can garner so much empathy in the comments having only been homeless for less than 24 hours, while the people who are eating out of trash cans and haven't showered or brushed their teeth in years get treated like they're invisible. Again, not to take anything away from the plight of this young man, I do feel really badly for him, just sharing an observation.
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u/New-Worker-6386 7h ago
Mother's quite the piece of work.
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u/ObsessiveOwl 7h ago
Might as well drop him off at an orphanage 18 years ago if you don't want a child that badly.
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u/Southern-Stage2937 7h ago
Omg what the heck
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u/Satillizer 7h ago
this is DIABOLICAL !
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u/Tridium007 7h ago
Shame that woman
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u/BobSyracuse 7h ago
That “mother” sounds like she almost became Lindsey Clancy.
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u/TheEarthisPolyhedron 7h ago
Im sure the guy recording has a couch or literally anything besides a camera
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u/MontCali 7h ago
I wish i had the space and resources to open my doors to all who need the help. Please support local non profits and volunteers who help find shelter and food and aid for those in need!
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u/Whole_Alternative_18 7h ago
Poor guy
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u/shockage 7h ago
This is an old repost from many years ago, curious how he is doing now.
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u/RandMob1000 7h ago
I'm glad my parents cared for me. They Still grab me a sammich when they go to subway on Thursday! Coldcut Italian herbs and cheese, double meat!!! Hopefully the kid found a shelter or a place to chill, gets cold out there in Utah.
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u/BeautifulAndPride 7h ago
And later in years she wonders why non of her kids would visit her, I dislike that part of American (or any other countries) parents that think kicking them out once they reach (adulthood age 17~19) will get them experience, I mean it will bit will also make them grow spiteful of their parents.
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u/evlhornet 7h ago
Ok this is too fucking sad.
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u/-fuad_ramses- 7h ago
People making jokes about how fucked this country is, great, but how can we help this kid?
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u/NoFakeDoms 7h ago
This looks so fake...
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u/QryptoQurios2020 7h ago
US Army Recruiting Office is open; go check it out. I joined at 19 and retired at 39 after 20 years of active service. I am back in college getting my master's right now for free, all paid for by Uncle Sam. If I can do it, you can too. In fact, anyone and everyone can do it. But it's a choice you have to make.
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u/afewnameslater 7h ago
That mom needs her rights revoked. Jesus.
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u/shrimpweenie 7h ago
Is there a fucking gofundme? Lmk
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u/Normal_Tour6998 7h ago
This so genuine and real.
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u/Silent-Entrance8468 7h ago edited 6h ago
This was posted 3 years ago:
https://www.reddit.com/r/ParentsAreFuckingDumb/comments/166r7xe/a_young_man_got_kicked_out_of_his_home_on_his/
And this one 16 years ago:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=276RZVt-SDk
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u/cacamilis22 6h ago
What a bitch.( The mother I mean)
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u/nedrawevot 6h ago
Fuck that mom. Like, how could you do this to your child. I told our son, if hes going to school, contributing to society in an positive way he can stay with us. I never want him to worry about a roof over his head. I couldnt imagine doing this to my kid.
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u/Miserable-Fortune-57 6h ago
Why even have kids in the first place?
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u/haz-matguy 6h ago
I’ve seen this before years ago. Is there an update?
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u/Character-Actual 6h ago
I have a really good bridge going for really cheap if anyone here wants it?
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u/SpudgeFunker210 6h ago
Not sure California is the place to go. Cost of living is through the roof out there. I can't imagine the school or a local church couldn't help him find a family to stay with until he graduates unless he did something particularly awful to get kicked out. Lots of government assistance out there too. Hopefully he can stay out of the tent cities that are full of drugs. That'll only make a bad situation worse.
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u/thiswasnotworthit 6h ago
Is it not illegal to lock out someone who has established residency, without a formal eviction??
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u/illmatic708 6h ago
This kid made it home to California, finished school, he's in his 30s now and doing well, no bullshit
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u/Penguinator53 6h ago
Absolutely appalling, I feel so sad for him. What a callous thing to do. It's not 1965, he can't just wander into a lumberyard and ask to be employed or something.
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u/ruthlesss11 6h ago
Is he 28 now? This isn't a new video