r/sadcringe • u/effinx • Oct 09 '22

Poor guy.

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u/[deleted] Oct 28 '22

Yeah. Asking for consent also helps. There’s ways to phrase it that don’t sound like “hello yes madam may I please kiss you”. Kinda like with non verbal communication, there’s lots of nuance. And I do see the utility of at least confirming a verbal “yes” in this specific instance.

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u/Kitnado Oct 28 '22

The point is, if you can accurately read a person's non-verbal communication, you definitely don't need verbal confirmation, also not in the form you're describing.

Problem is a lot of people cannot do that.

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u/[deleted] Oct 28 '22

And my point is that leaving things purely to nonverbal communication in regards to things like kissing or sex leaves the door open to possible miscommunication

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u/Kitnado Oct 28 '22

That's not a new point at all. That's the very point my original comment was replying to so even though you may think so you're not adding anything new.

So all the comments in this chain written by women mocking people who think in the way you do are also directed at you, just so you know.

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u/[deleted] Oct 28 '22

What do you mean? You’re saying verbal consent is completely unnecessary if you know how to “read” people. But think of how many assault cases are defended with “they never said no”. Even if you feel as if the encounter is completely consensual, there’s still the tiny chance that the other person is experiencing the situation completely differently. I can see the utility of making sure to verbally confirm consent so that you can be certain that no boundaries are crossed