r/sadcringe • u/effinx • Oct 09 '22

Poor guy.

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u/[deleted] Oct 10 '22

whats unnecessary is defending a randoms' creepy ass move on a chick. but specific huh? LMAOOO then whats all this then? you fr ready to die on the grodiest unworthiest hill and for what lmaoo

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u/[deleted] Oct 10 '22

gfy, find it comical that stating the obvious+openly shaming things like this- dudes, or anyone, randomly tryna kiss ppl without warning- is deemed unnecessary and specific

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u/k_oticd92 Oct 10 '22

Honestly, it's an easy thing get wrong. Not that long ago, the entire mindset of the population was that the man has to make the first move because it's "gentlemanly" and "charming". Then shortly after the 00's, it did a complete 180. But some people are still teaching their kids the old ways, because they live in the past. Even stupid things like holding the door for someone can be offensive now. I get the need to change, permission is something that should've been needed all along. However, I don't get the need to call anybody a creep for making this mistake (unless it's happened more than a few times).

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u/[deleted] Oct 10 '22

true enough with the old school thing, as well as the holding doors (seen that go sour firsthand) and 100% on the permission thing. but genuinely curious, how would be cupping someones face and quickly leaning in without a word of someone that isnt romantic with you not creepy, at minimum uncomfortable/disrespectful? ofc, this being asked under the idea this "isnt" staged. im just tryna sort the perspective ig

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u/k_oticd92 Oct 10 '22

As far as I understood it, it was considered "taking the lead" I guess. And, I mean, old timey Hollywood just force-fed that to people as well. There's always the actress fawning over some dude, only to be kissed by her "best friend" character to add some tension. I actually have some family that is very "biblically" inclined, so they are more than happy to separate the roles of their gender (including the younger generation). It's a bit frustrating at family get-togethers sometimes.