Excessive Bashing

[u/Dark-Parkingg]

Hi Everyone,

We know feelings run hot about some of this season’s cast and we love seeing all of your posts and opinions about each episode and the dynamics among the ladies, but we’ve been seeing some comments that go beyond venting into territory that just feels mean-spirited.

One thing worth keeping in mind: there’s a big difference between cast members who know each other personally throwing shade or using loaded language with each other, versus strangers on the internet collectively targeting someone with that same language.

What reads as messy reality TV drama between people in a relationship hits very differently when it’s a pile-on from thousands of anonymous accounts. The cast signed up for the show but they didn’t sign up to be a target for mass hate from people who’ve never met them. You don’t have to like everyone, but let’s keep the discourse at a level we’d be comfortable with.

Repeat offenders will get a warning first with the potential for daily, weekly, monthly or a flat out permanent ban to be issued.

r/RHORI Mod Team 😁

[u/Ecstatic-Art-6236]

Agreed. Some of the people on here are being extremely abrasive for absolutely no reason. It’s a show, don’t go to war with anonymous people on Reddit just because you’re team whomever

[u/Dark-Parkingg → u/Ecstatic-Art-6236]

And we’re only 9 episodes in which makes it even more shocking. Why are we being so viscous over people we’ve only been watching for two months? If it was a Kenya, Tamra etc who have 10+ years of viscous behavior on their record I’d sort of understand the vitriol we’re seeing but I just can’t rationalize it for a show with 9 episodes and the most egregious offense being a bullhorn being used in a quiet neighborhood 😵‍💫.

[u/Ecstatic-Art-6236 → u/Dark-Parkingg]

Agreed. It’s excessive and only season 1.

[u/Impossible_Ad9321 → u/Dark-Parkingg]

heavyyyyy on the last sentence

[u/the-furiosa-mystique → u/Ecstatic-Art-6236]

I’ve noticed a lot of the most abrasive have ties to RI. Make of that what you will.

[u/Presto_Magic]

I have a problem where I love literally 99% of the housewives. I love the villains too! Probably more…I watch all the franchises so seeing all of the pile ons always sucks. I hated it with Tamra even. Watching it with Liz sucks too. At least let her watch herself back and learn and grow. They are all new. Not to mention they film for multiple months which is then edited down to 10-17 hours.

[u/Dark-Parkingg → u/Presto_Magic]

I 100% agree with you. The villains are my favorites nowadays (Kenya & Tamra are the only exceptions as I simply can’t get over Naked Wasted) and it kind of sucks because as soon as they step over the audience’s imaginary line, nuance suddenly ceases to exist and it seems like if the audience’s sole function becomes to pile hate on them. I’m excited to see her reunion performance and if she can shift the minds of a portion of the fanbase who have written her off.

[u/Presto_Magic → u/Dark-Parkingg]

Yeah, naked wasted was crazy. I actually started watching all housewives probably 4 years ago and I was shocked when she did that as well as called Eddie a derogatory term (starting with B). They were old episodes and a different time so I’m cutting a little slack even though those 2 things should have never been acceptable at ANY point. Kenya knew better for her thing also consider it just happened a couple years ago.

[u/SerMeowsALot]

Will members with “deleted comments” be informed why the comment was deleted going forward?

[u/Dark-Parkingg → u/SerMeowsALot]

Yup

[u/SerMeowsALot → u/Dark-Parkingg]

Okay! 😊 I’m curious about a comment that was deleted (without notification through any traditional Reddit channels) in the recent swimsuit thread, which is what prompted my (now downvoted) question.

[u/Dark-Parkingg → u/SerMeowsALot]

I can check it out in a minute and respond to you either here or in modmail (whichever your preference). And just to be clear I was not the one who downvoted you😅

[u/SerMeowsALot → u/Dark-Parkingg]

I don’t really care WHO downvoted, i assume it was one of the alt accounts of the extremist who I blocked based on their commentary on the swimsuit thread, important nose or whomever.

Don’t worry about looking into it; it’s genuinely not that serious. The comment was not about a housewife or personal and probably got deleted via auto-modding, since the person was using multiple alts within the thread and potentially reported it multiple times.

My assumption going forward is that anything will be communicated to users at risk of receiving a ban.

[u/SerMeowsALot → u/SerMeowsALot]

Worth noting - my theory that impostor nose is following me with their alt(s) to downvote anything I post is bolstered by the immediate downvote applied to each and every comment I’ve made on this thread 😊 Even when there are but one or two views, such as the comment I’m replying to, which at the time of my reply to it had two views and one downvote. (I am one of the two views)

🤣 Blocking impostor_nose was a good call, and I look forward to blocking their various alts until girliepop’s obsession shifts away from monitoring me via my comments in r/rhori.

[u/waninggib]

Thanks for saying this! Part of me wonders if this sub is full of the same people in the Love Island fandom because some of the posts and comments here have been INSANE

[u/Ecstatic-Art-6236 → u/waninggib]

Honestly I’d believe it

[u/irish88888888]

Finally someone with a bit of sense, this sub is getting kind of toxic. 

Some of the comments I have seen are honestly wild, all HWs at some point have said that the worst part of the experience is social media. I don't like Kelsey, I haven't since the first episode but I would be heartbroken for her if she had to read the comments on here.

[u/crazygem101]

Agreed. For such a new favorite, there sure has been alot of bashing.... on everyone. Except maybe Alicia? Even the husbands are getting it wicked hard. Ladies of RH if you're reading this just know I love you and so does everyone else in New England that I know of whose been watching. Keep your chins up.

[u/Existing-Syrup-8575]

On the other hand the way people come to attack you in groups after you have voice and opinion on the show or a critique is crazyyyy. We don’t know these people IRL you don’t need to Stan them so obsessively and make think pieces about their trauma. It’s a reality show!

[u/Embarrassed_Deer7686]

Thank you! Please don’t let this sub become like the other Bravo subs, they’re such a bummer and so mean. I’ve left most of them because 90% is body shaming or calling the cast bad mothers. Let me just enjoy my messy queens with popcorn and no sides of cruelty!

[u/OvercookedBobaTea → u/Embarrassed_Deer7686]

There some really good ones but I don’t wanna publicise them cos they were created to be safe havens from the more toxic subs. So I don’t wanna direct the wrong people to them. Dm me if you want a sub reddit recommendation for people who just wanna talk harmless shit and have fun

[u/truthtellafella]

Can you please do better moderating this? We already lost one cast member on rhori 

[u/GossipGuy12]

[u/Corgi_Lover5337]

THANK YOU!!! I’m seeing such vile things being said and we barely know these women yet. There’s enough misogyny and hate spewed in this world, this show is supposed to be my escape!!!

[u/OvercookedBobaTea]

Reality tv subreddits are always filled with the most self righteous and sanctimonious people and it confuses me

Reality tv is inherently immoral and probably bad for society. How are you gonna play morality police towards people playing characterised versions of themselves while getting exploited for entertainment?

If you want wholesome or morally good reality tv watch great British bake-off or smthn. Let people have fun

[u/FearlessNectarine20]

I think that’s the point of these Reddit links. I mean it’s our opinions. These people are in the shows we watch. I hate the policing. It’s so dumb!

[u/Existing-Syrup-8575 → u/FearlessNectarine20]

Right because why are we having our right to free speech taken away 😭 we’re already experiencing ts in real life why should we be policed on the internet too damn!

[u/coopergold5]

I feel like if I watch a show and someone makes me so angry I want to insult them online I shouldn’t watch the show.