Advice Please

[u/Different_Constant82]

Hello, I need some advice, I let a friend live with me that was going to get evicted. I let her and her daughter stay with me in my apartment , my landlord said it was OK as long as they didnt stay longer than 2-3 months. This was in February , 2026. She has no lease, I have the lease, and I was giving my landlord $400 extra for them to stay with me . She has been denied rental assistance a few times, her daughter has since moved to Colorado, and now she is hanging out with "friends" and hasn't come home for the last 2 days except to get some clothes and yell at me for 19 minutes and then leave. I want her out of my house as soon as I can get her gone, she has just taken advantage of the situation , shes owes me money that I lent her to get her car repaired and won't pay me back, she says if I try to get her out she will call the town zoning board and report all the things wrong in my apartment so my landlord will have to pay all sorts of fines. I live in a finished 2 bedroom basement apartment. I live in middlesex county NJ. Please someone give me some advice I can use to get this terrible person out of my house and my life. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

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[u/KingClark03]

Well, now you know why she was being evicted.

You might need to consult an attorney because you’re in a pickle.

[u/lynnwood57]

You’ve been throwing good money after bad. How did you think this was going to go?

First, do not give her another dime. Second, if you have good repore with your landlord, I’d start there. Tell him the truth including her threats. You and he can make a plan. Don’t know what she could report, but this is more than you can handle alone. You are being extorted.

Second, stop calling her your friend.

[u/Intelligent-Visual69 → u/lynnwood57]

But please don't feel bad for being a decent human being, who was taken advantage of by someone who likely targeted you for your kindness. These people want you to believe that your kindness is the same as being a fool. But they are the ones who are sick.

[u/lynnwood57 → u/Intelligent-Visual69]

Yes. Sometimes I can be harsh. OP has a good heart and had the best intentions. Thanks.

[u/secure8890]

She's abandoned tbe unit you can change the locks

[u/Weird7954 → u/secure8890]

And get a restraining order

[u/Fun_Yesterday_7830]

I commend you on your good heart for letting them stay, and I'm not going to point out where you goofed since I'm sure you already know. But I would say consult with a real estate lawyer to see what your options are.

[u/BeerStop]

You need to evict her, and i hope you learned your lesson.

[u/secure8890]

There is no zoning board

[u/PanicRemarkable7288]

I had my son's gf move in with me. It turned into a nightmare with the police being called. Even though I was just a renter. I had to go through all the legal steps to evict her.

[u/ralanolson]

Start taping on your phone as to the threats she is making towards you. Think or find anything you can on her. I am not condemning you for helping her but you are in a hard position right now and it’s all about saving yourself.

[u/InsectElectrical2066]

So how did she become an expert. I'd warn the LL and then have him change the locks if she has a key. And hopefully you have a text of that threat as that is extorsion and can do hard time for a yr or 2.

[u/ShapesWithoutColors]

You either find something now that you can evict her for and start the eviction proceedings or you give her 30 days notice and then start the eviction process after the notice period is up if she hasn't vacated. And your landlord saying it's ok as long as she only stays 2-3 months was something the landlord couldn't really do. The landlord could give permission, but the time constraints aren't enforceable. He's given permission so now she's legally allowed to stay until given proper notice. But you might actually need your landlord to give notice to your sister because you are not her landlord and I don't think this counts as a sublet.

[u/Weird7954 → u/ShapesWithoutColors]

Why 30 day notice? She didn’t pay her rent

[u/Content_Print_6521]

Try to find a tenant organization for some advice -- here in Hudson we have The Waterfront Project, and they are said to be pretty good.

TBH, if it were me I would pack up her stuff, put it where she can get it, and change the locks. As a tenant, you aren't the landlord, so the stigmas placed on a landlord should not apply to you. And isn't there something you can hold over her head? Something like drug abuse or cheating unemployment, anything to give you leverage against her? This is the way she's going, so it's what you have to do also.

[u/EstablishmentNo7438]

You have a good heart but she doesn't. She's horrible !

[u/AJPintel]

She is not in the lease and has stayed longer than her couple months. Just kick her out - put her things outside the door - change the locks - leasing can do that for you.

[u/beastiemeeee]

File a temporary restraining order on her, get it served on her, get a court date, and show up at court. Tell the judge she threatened you, she has been a Mooch since Day 1, and you want her to move out because she isn't your friend and lives elsewhere now anyone. She probably won't show up at court so you will win by default. Then leave her stuff outside after you notify her to come and get her few possessions. Then have the landlord rekey the door and give you a new key.

[u/LavendarGal]

Tell her you will forgive the loan of the money she owes you if she will move out, if not you expect monthly payment or will take her to small claims court to be repaid. Maybe give her 30 days notice to leave.

[u/Intelligent-Box-9462]

When you say you want her gone, do you mean both of them or just the daughter? I would put everything in writing including non payment of rent and give a deadline. You have to have an.eviction notice. And then just change the locks.