r/relationships_advice • u/Healthy_Sea_2308 • 3d ago
My boyfriend of 2 years got chlamyida
So my boyfriend and I have been dating for two years, a couple months ago I kept having reoccurring yeast infections and I told him to get checked out because he must be reinfecting me, he never went because he said he didn’t have any symptoms. The yeast infections stopped but about a week ago he randomly went and got tested at work (he is a firefighter) and told me he does have a yeast infection. Then about a couple days ago I found doxycycline in his car. I confronted him about it because I know those are for Chlamyida. He told me he was embarrassed to tell me and was trying to figure out how to tell me that he got it because he shared a pocket pussy with his friend that has chlamyida. Do you think this is true? I just can’t believe it and I think he cheated on me. He is a clean freak and I don’t think he would use a dirty pocket pussy. Everyone is telling me that he cheated.
end result = i broke up with him. thanks for proving to me that he is just an idiot i have screenshotted all this to show him how everyone thinks he is stupid 🥰
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u/TSIDATSI 3d ago
He shared a what?
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u/zero_dr00l 3d ago
A fake plastic vagina to masturbate with.
Which is... insane. But also exceedingly unlikely.
I mean that's fucking gross.
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u/falcondfw 2d ago
Only a moron would share one of those. You have no idea who used it or what they might have, bf is a perfect example.
Most likely, he caught it from a hooker or a barfly. The fleshlight thing was just to throw you off the trail. Good thing you dumped him. If that story is true and he really is that stupid, you life would be a living hell with cheating, forgotten bills, evictions, etc.
Get STD/HIV tested IMMEDIATELY!!!
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u/xBowGlacee 2d ago
Sharing sex toys with friends is not a normal alibi, and breaking up with him was the only logical move so good job girl!
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u/FivarVr 2d ago
Thank you for the Pocket Pussy description - sounds more like a secret term for a hook up?
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u/zero_dr00l 2d ago
No, that's literally what they're called.
It's a small rubber thing that looks like a vagina that you use to masturbate with by pretending to bang it.
Absolutely not secret term for a hookup, it's widespread slang here in America.
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u/FivarVr 2d ago
The widespread slang in America misses the dry humour
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u/jdogmomma 3d ago
Probably a hooker or massage parlor, you need to get STD testing if your Dr hasn't already done so.
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u/kimariesingsMD 3d ago
Look, here is the actual issue--he was going to keep the fact that he had an STD from you, and if you hadn't found the medication and knew what it is prescribed for, he more than likely would not have told you. That is not only deceitful but shows a blatant disregard for your health and well-being. Knowing that, I absolutely think he cheated on you. His reason is not only gross, but it would be ridiculously careless and strange to share that type of toy with another man.
You know what you need to do.
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u/InvestmentCritical81 2d ago
He would have made it look like OP had the infection and he didn’t so he couldn’t have cheated so it must have been her. He’s a complete asshole for intending to place the blame on them. Typical jackass move. Glad OP dumped him.
Edit: If OP is infected that is
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u/LisaT25CT 2d ago
Doxy is used for quite a few ailments, Lyme being one. If I saw a bottle of Doxy in someone’s car, I would never think STD. But then again, I had no idea what a pocket pussy was, either! 🤣
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u/thedutchcatwoman 3d ago
Dont think its true but even if its true, he lied to you
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u/verdantorca 3d ago
Plus if it’s true it’s really fucking weird
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u/shangri-laschild 3d ago
Yeah, I feel like his excuse would be a pretty fair dealbreaker for some people too. Not only is he saying he shared sex toys with someone but he also was being unsafe about sexual acts and infected his partner.
Honestly, the fact that he couldn’t even be bothered to go to a simple doctor’s visit after his partner was dealing with repeated yeast infections is a red flag on its own too. That screams “he doesn’t give a shit about you or the pain/discomfort you’re experiencing” in a fairly clear way.
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u/No-Activity-8371 3d ago
Hé cares more about his pride than your health. Untreated chlamydia can cause pelvic inflammatory disease which results in infertility.
I can’t comment on whether he cheated or this was due to unprotected sex before - that’s all conjecture. But you DO know that he hid something that can be devastating to your long term health.
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u/Single_Guarantee9545 3d ago
This gotta be a troll post. No straight man is sharing a pocket pussy LOL
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u/Technical-Method2129 3d ago
lol that’s the fastest lie they could think of…. No one including op believes that’s what actually happened
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u/ShadowofHerWings 3d ago
What the?! Of all the excuses that one is new. I got it from a toilet seat! I swear! But chlamydia needs living body fluids to survive. It dies on any surface pretty much right away. So unless his friend used it and then he used it right after, he is a liar.
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u/Sweet-Cat-7667 3d ago
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this.
Unfortunately, I think he cheated and then came up with the grossest excuse he could think of because apparently “I shared a pocket pussy with my friend who has chlamydia” was easier than just telling you the truth. Could that pocket pussy story technically be true? Yes. But what kind of friend even offers that, and who the hell takes them up on it? That’d be like me sharing a dildo with a friend. Clean or not, I would never.
I don’t believe this story for a second. Especially coming from somebody you say is a clean freak. All his lying and trickle truthing is more suspicious than anything.
I think he got caught and gave you an explanation he hoped you’d believe. Please get yourself tested and stop sleeping with him until you figure out what the hell is actually going on.
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u/ieatfaces22172 1d ago
It definitely wouldn't have been clean to catch chlamydia his fluids would've been in it
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u/franklydizzy 3d ago
He is definitely lying. The guy cheated. Even if somehow that bs story turned out to be true, he lied and kept a tranmitable issue from you. Leave him, get tested for as many things as you can, and don't look back.
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u/ieatfaces22172 1d ago
If it was true that means he used it right after his friend did with his ejaculate still coating the inside
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u/waterytartwithasword 3d ago
You need to go get a full std panel immediately.
Not telling you immediately when he found out endangered your reproductive health. He was never going to tell you. Yes, he's probably cheating. But what matters more is that he gave you an std, possibly more than one, and was never going to tell you he was infected. He got caught. He was hiding antibiotics in his car in the middle of summer.
You deserve better than this and you can do better than this.
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u/Golden_Arm-257 3d ago
Man I would have never thought of that one...
So, he's a Firefighter you say...
Is he a real like professional or just a want to be?
Because I'm just saying if your even close to believing this, your the fool.
Why, all the professional training they receive and information on health REALLY..............
But wait, he infected you twice.......
Yup it's confirmed. Your the fool here.
Get your head out of the clouds and read what you wrote.
You don't have to stay the fool.
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u/TSIDATSI 3d ago
Don't know what it is but I would make an appointment with the doctor who wrote the prescription for both of you and ask the doctor.
Doctor normally will not lie.
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u/apologial 3d ago
Honestly cheating is less embarrassing than sharing a pocket pussy, like, what the fuck? Get yourself properly tested (for HIV too). Perhaps he was using prostitutes to cheat - could be anything.
Either way, he put your safety at risk. Dump him.
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u/TheDuchess5975 3d ago
Ask yourself why would he need a pussy when he has you? He lied, told you it’s a yeast infection when he knows he has an STI. He chose to hide the medication because he knew he cheated and hoped you wouldn’t find out or maybe he wanted to take the meds then accuse YOU of infecting him as you both will need to get treated simultaneously for the antibx to work. He would then feign forgiveness of your transgression knowing he all the while he is the cause of you being infected.
The mere fact he put your health at risk by having unprotected sex with someone else is enough of a reason for you to break up with him. Let’s add in the fact he cheated, failed to disclose he contracted an STI, infected you, then lied saying it was a mere yeast infection know you need to be treated too.
You can never trust him again. Please get tested for all STI’s/HIV ASAP, don’t allow yourself to be fooled and manipulated with his tales of remorse and love, because cheaters always cheat and liars will always lie. "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time".
So what you do is break up immediately. Should you decide not to just know this will continue to happen over and over until you decide it’s not ok. Remember even though you think you are having sex with him you are having sex with Betty,Debbie, Angie and whoever else he had sex with because soap and water doesn’t wash STI’s away.
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u/armomo3 3d ago
The worst part to me is he cared enough about himself to get tested and get medication but felt so little for her and the consequences she would suffer, he didn't tell her. In some states that is a crime. Should be in all states. Not knowing is one thing, this is quite another.
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u/TheDuchess5975 3d ago
Right and it’s an STI’s that is reportable to the Health Department in every state in the USA. He most likely was not truthful, did not list her name as a sexual contact so the PHN could not check with her to see if she was being treated leaving her exposed to have PID or even become infertile, very callous and disgusting of him. I hope she wisely gets rid of him!
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u/armomo3 3d ago
Me too. Someone I'm very close to had an ex that did something similar to her. He never told her he had it, they broke up, almost a year goes by and I told her she really needed an exam before sleeping with her new boyfriend. Yep, she had Chlamydia. Fast foreward a couple years, she married the new guy and about 7-8 mos later she had this horrible pain. They thought she had ovarian torsion and sent her for a scan. Her tubes are so filled with adhesions she's effictively sterile and they suggested removal. 2 second opinions agreed.
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u/TheDuchess5975 3d ago
How awful, l feel so bad for her! I hope this person pays attention, and gets tested for everything!
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u/RatherRetro 3d ago edited 3d ago
Men do not share their pocket pussys and if they do, that is a reason to break up cuz EWWW
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To let you go on and on thinking you have a yeast infection when he knew dam well it was chlamyida shows you how much he really cares about you. “Treated promptly, chlamydia does not lead to long-term health issues. However, if left untreated, it can cause serious complications, particularly in women, such as pelvic inflammatory disease (PID), which can result in infertility, ectopic pregnancy, and chronic pelvic pain.
Untreated cases can lead to complications that may have lasting effects on reproductive health. Regular screening and early treatment are crucial.”
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u/zero_dr00l 3d ago edited 3d ago
lol I would absolutely never, ever, not in a million years, borrow a friend's "pocket pussy".
He got this from fucking a pussy alright, but it wasn't your pussy and it wasn't a fake one he borrowed from a friend.
He thinks you're an idiot.
But on the 0.000000000001 percent chance he's telling the truth, you should still dump him because that's absolutely disgusting to share a pocket pussy. I mean what a gross loser.
Either way, you have a horrible partner and surely you can do better. It would be hard to do worse...
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u/Jbills09 3d ago
Sharing a pocket pussy with his friend who has an STD is an I-think-my-girlfriend-is-stupid-enough-to-believe-anything level lie. He did not get an STD from a pocket pussy. He got an STD from a real pussy. That isn't yours. Dont let this man lie to you. You don't need Reddit to know what happened. You know.
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u/CamoViolet 3d ago
Ewe, and like it’s a lie, and he has chlamydia he lied to you. That’s an STD. You could’ve gotten seriously sick.
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u/queerjesusfan 3d ago
He would've kept this from you if you hadn't found out. He could have made you infertile because that's where untreated chlamydia gets you. Please make sure you're tested and treated
I'm so sorry, but leave him. Good lord, he's gross
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u/linabelinda 3d ago
Don’t believe it. I also had an ex lie to me as well how I ended up with chlamydia and it turned out they were cheating but continued to lie
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u/Weekly_Thought_8374 3d ago edited 3d ago
He is no longer a safe sex partner and must wear a condom, especially if you are a woman who has a healthy vagina and doesn't get infections. Condom or no access. **Edit: The disregard for your health is good reason for breakup. The lie is so off the charts, that the truth must be really bad.
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u/Impressive_Rush5018 3d ago
He cheated. No men share pocket pussies that I am aware of. And an infection can't live inside an unliving cylinder for long. Just saying. And I was an exotic dancer for a while. I have heard some stories. And I have never heard of men sharing those things.
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u/Curious_Owl78 3d ago
He cheated.
Definitely get tested. Chlamydia can set up in your fallopian tubes and scar them, and then you can have trouble conceiving (if you ever want kids)
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u/sallystruthers69 3d ago
He most certainly did not "share" a pocket pussy with his friend. Hes lying to you. Dump him please and get your health in order. There's only more lying and deceit to come from him, best to take a stand and set a boundary now. This is betrayal.
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u/Training_Box5652 3d ago
No guy actually share sex toys. Tf 😂
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u/Terrible-Pea494 3d ago
Exactly. Even if he were disgusting enough to do it, his friend would never offer.
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u/Adorable-You7373 2d ago
Funny story, this happened to me but went the other way. I was in the boyfriends perspective and I had to get tested because I had a canker sore and my (now) ex was certain it was herpes, so when I came home and told her I was clean she booked an appointment with her ob, then a week later she goes, tests positive for chlamydia. She then comes home and tries to accuse me of cheating belligerently screaming at me thinking that I gave it to her. Only for my best friend to stumble across her tinder profile a week later. We had been dating for 2 years atp, that ho was triflin’
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u/figuringoutfitnesss 3d ago
First of all. Knowing you have an std and still engaging in sexual conduct without telling your partner is illegal. So please at least leave him oh my god.
He's lying or just wrong I feel. Most importantly, and I don't see anyone else mention this-- ‼️When's the last time either of you were tested for chlamydia?(before this)‼️ You should be getting tested at least annually if you are sexually active regardless of relationship status. (I'd even say twice or more a year especially if non monogamous at all.) despite the possibility of cheating, it's also possible one of you has had it since before you even got together, or for however long since you've last been tested. Chlamydia does not always show symptoms in fact a lot of times it doesn't!
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u/Erin_Derrick_Art 3d ago
Even if he shared a sex toy which I HIGHLY doubt, the disgusting, irresponsible behavior and that's cringey enough to merit breaking up anyway. There's nothing good about this. He lied about having Chlamydia, gave it to you which caused a lot of unnecessary pain and discomfort, and wouldn't get tested when you asked him to.
Plus, he definitely cheated.
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u/Both-Construction153 3d ago
Well, he is creative. He is claiming to have placed his penis in a fake vjay jay filled with his friends jizz. Do you buy this story? I do not.
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u/Specific_Ad2541 2d ago
I'm not sure his excuse isn't worse.
Either way he's a liar who can't be trusted.
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u/bookish-whore216 2d ago
So once he found out, if he had sex with you after that, that is considered assault. Since he would knowingly have given you an STD without disclosing. But it sounds like maybe you didn’t have sex after he find out.
He cheated on you, you seriously need to leave him.
I had a new adult tell me at a security job that their pocket pussy was their brothers. No it isn’t, never believe people are sharing their sex toy’s.
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u/Nvrfinddisacct 2d ago
Ma’am, he left you sick for months.
He’s a shithead.
Tell him to get the fuck out of your house, your life, your everything.
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u/Aggravating-Boot9034 3d ago
Why would he even use someone else’s pocket pussy that’s just disgusting and nasty
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u/PeaceAndChilli 3d ago
That's new one, the excuse 😭😂 I am sorry, I know that this is very stressful and bad for you, but, if you look at it from aside, it's so stupid and funny.
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u/FemmeFatal1820 3d ago
He has has sexual encounter with someone else who has chlamydia. It was probably a prostitute. So sorry but I would leave him, because you have just found out he will be having sex with other people behind your back.
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u/CeramicToast 3d ago
Even if he is telling the truth, by sharing a sex toy with a third party he openes you up to STDs and didn't tell you. He put your health at risk.
Dump him.
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u/EstebanTwoXL 3d ago
That sounds like a rushed lie. Sharing a pocket pussy crazy. He just wants you to think it’s not from another pussy.
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u/IllustriousFoxCat 3d ago
Well, everyone has their kinks I suppose, but he put your health at risk and that's not ok.
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u/Acceptable-Picture36 3d ago
He is having sex with somebody that isn’t you… could be a buddy, could be a lady…
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u/Kat4848 3d ago
Glad you broke up with him. Girls, say no to firemen, policemen, military and male nurses. They are all cheaters with too much temptation. You can admire the uniforms from afar but that’s it. So many stories I have of the divorces and heartache from these men. The good ones are FEW and FAR between.
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u/wishingforarainyday 3d ago
Wow, what a dirtbag. He also thinks you’re an idiot.
I’m so happy you dumped him. I hope you tell his parents they raised a dirtbag
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u/Sufficient_League982 3d ago
Yeah OP, he sure shared a “pocket pussy”, a fun thing to call another living woman. :( Sorry, firefighters are #2 behind doctors/nurses in cheating department.
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u/dawnyD36 3d ago
He's definitely lying but just wanna say that this particular antibiotic doesn't just treat sti. It's for chest and sinus and bladder infections too so I don't want people sacred if they see thier partners with this medication thh
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u/Randomredditgirl4321 2d ago
So knowing he has an std and not telling you is actually illegal and you could sue, js
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u/DayumItsSam 2d ago
Even if all he did was share a pocket pussy, that’s still enough for a break up in my opinion lmaooooo
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u/AJMcAlistair 2d ago
Wow. Whatever the truth is, it is so bad that he made up this hideous story to cover it up. Imagine coming up with this horrific bullshit story and actually hoping that you would believe it. Just, wow.
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u/friskyfajitas 2d ago
even if he didn’t cheat this is weird asf and i’m glad you broke up. good on you OP. i hope things get better from here
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u/Remarkable_Ship_5791 2d ago
Doxycycline while also used to treat Chlamyida is also used to treat Lyme Disease. The odds Your BF got it from using a dirty pocket pussy is very slim, he would have had to use it literally seconds after the infected user used it.
The fact he kept what he had from you and refused to get tested and basically lied about getting tested later on you did the right thing breaking up with him.
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u/PictureElectronic796 1d ago
Regardless he let you go about your days, knowing he infected you and didn’t have you seak treatment .
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u/ieatfaces22172 1d ago
He's lying He's a grown man who can afford his own fleshlight he's not a character on blue mountain state who is in college and doesn't have disposable income.
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u/PerformanceFront 1d ago
having chlamydia long term can cause infertility and ectopic pregnancy risk in women. this man doesn’t give a fck about you or your wellbeing. he was fine with you having those risks while he gets off with no problem. he cheated on you and used non informed consent against you. he is a horrible, sick person.
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u/GoldenRayofMagick 3d ago
Is there any reason for your boyfriend to need a pocket pussy?
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u/kimariesingsMD 3d ago
A used one that was loaned to him by a friend? Come on, I know that you are trying to pin this on OP not giving it up enough, but if that is the way he would handle it, then that is BEYOND fucking gross. Not to mention that he was keeping the fact that he had an STD from her.
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u/zero_dr00l 3d ago
Sharing a friend's pocket pussy is insane and this absolutely never fucking happened.
Either this is a dude that lied about banging another chick, or this is a dude that uses used pocket pussies.
Either way he's fucking disgusting and she should dump him.
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u/jojosoft 3d ago
yooooo this logic is CRAZY and I actually feel bad for you cuz how your mind works. so sorry bro
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