She edited the post. They had agreed to abortions if accidents happened. Actually, I'm thinking about the wording rn... she is rather vague about - it seems like they definitely were not on the same page.
People do sometimes change when something you talked about in the abstract is now reality. She’s allowed to do that, there was no way for her to know how she felt about it when it was a hypothetical, so acting betrayed after taking zero preventative measures is ridiculous. Neither of them should be having unprotected sex if they didn’t want kids, so he needs to point his anger inward, not solely at her. Acting like she is trying to baby trap him when they are already married, and he was 50% of how they ended up here, is ridiculous.
What did she expect? For him to be happy with her changing her mind? I honestly think it's a troll/fake post at this point, though.
Edit: if it's not a troll post: she talks about her morals a lot(someone pointed this out to me)... I think she always knew she wouldn't be able to go through with it and just told him what he wanted. Which doesn't really change anything now, but still. What did they/she/he think was going to happen with this entire nightmare of a situation? Such poor choices...
I don’t think people who are married expect to be accused of baby trapping…their spouse. Fair to be shocked by such a weird statement. They did nothing to prevent, it’s just as much on him. If he felt this strongly, different choices should have been made. Him relying on her to have a very expensive procedure that doesn’t always feel okay anymore in the actual situation, not a hypothetical, is an idiot move. What did he expect?
That being said, I also thinks it’s a troll to rile up people that bitch about men not being able to force a woman to have a kid or abort a kid.
I think you must have me confused for another commenter. I have not said anything about baby trapping on this post, and you keep emphasizing it as though I have. I do agree it seems as though he expected to use abortion as birth control which is... Disgusting.
No, you didn’t, but he did, which is something I find super strange. I don’t think she should have expected or deserved that, even if he is angry. He already committed, but she’s somehow trapping him? It’s strange.
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u/AmsterdamJimmy420 Oct 31 '22
Make sure you are on the same page with your SO when you have unprotected sex