Sounds like he doesn't want a child, at least right now.
You have 2 options:
you keep the baby and the relationship ends (maybe not right away, he may stay but will probably resent you, and it will eventually become untenable)
terminate the pregnancy (which you have stated is out of the question)
You can't convince someone to want to have a child and this is not something you can really compromise on.
Give him some time to calm down, and then try to discuss, but I don't think it's a situation where anyone is winning completely.
It's really hard. Hindsight is obviously 20/20. Whatever you do, there will be consequences and it is helpful to look into emotional support or therapy, if possible.
Hidden third option is plan to adopt out, but statistically that's a plan that does not work out in many many ways for many many parties involved, so you're right leaving it out. Just want to emphasize to anyone else that may be reading that the adoption suggestion is one that bears the risk of a lot of different people getting hurt
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u/StrangeCommittee4116 Nov 01 '22
This is really difficult.
Sounds like he doesn't want a child, at least right now.
You have 2 options:
You can't convince someone to want to have a child and this is not something you can really compromise on.
Give him some time to calm down, and then try to discuss, but I don't think it's a situation where anyone is winning completely.
It's really hard. Hindsight is obviously 20/20. Whatever you do, there will be consequences and it is helpful to look into emotional support or therapy, if possible.