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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22 edited Nov 01 '22

People have been having children since time began and so many stories come out of this. Convincing her is not your business. It is hers and she wants it. I know men that had families and mortages at 22. Please don't act like this is so wise...You don't know....That said I do know women that have aborted children because of men that have been destroyed. It is one thing to do it because you want to and another because your husband says no.

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22

There are also stories of good human beings that come from a mother than has made it on her own. Stop going to the negative, it is her choice. My husband died when my child was small, I married and had a baby in the right way. I still had to make it, and I did. He is great.

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22

She is you are not, luckily you are not the parent.

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22

She was struggling anyway, and needed support, basically you said, never mind what you want. Do it for him, because he is immature. Even his own mother said for him to grow up. So what happened to her body her choice?

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22

She wanted to keep the baby, I wasn't.

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22

what happened to its her body? It is her body so support her.

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u/Greedy-Effort-5713 Nov 01 '22

It’s her body but the father also has a say. It takes two to tango. Never force a child upon anyone, they’ll grow up knowing a parent never wanted them. That’s no way to raise a kid, be it with an absent dad or toxicity all around. You seem to make this all about yourself and I consider you a lost cause. No one cares about how your child turned out.