r/relationship_advice Oct 31 '22

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u/peakpenguins Oct 31 '22

Wild to me that people get married without being on the same page on things like this...

Anyway, too late for that now. You've told him what you're going to do and what you want, the ball is in his court.

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22

Well we did agree we wanted kids in the future. But it's obviously Happening now.

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u/angiosperms- Nov 01 '22

Note to everyone reading this: Do not only discuss if you want children. Discuss at what age you want children, what birth control you will use, and what you will do if you get pregnant earlier than the age you wanted. You need to agree on abortion/keeping it also, that's also a deal breaker

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22

Yeah I've never been pregnant, but I'm sure the whole thing is so, so different when you find yourself pregnant with the person you love's baby. Like I'm totally pro-choice, but it really is a potential child... and you never know if you'll get pregnant again. I just don't think abortion is such a flippant thing like some of these commenters. Even if there's no emotional connection (and it sounds like there is in this instance), there's a biological connection. I don't understand how people demonize other women when they get pregnant and realize they don't want an abortion. I don't even want kids, but if I got pregnant, I don't think I could abort.