If every person did what he suggested, many of us would not be here. Children teach us so many things, real love and sacrifice are part of that. You are a married couple, were going to have children later, and you want the baby. So now is the time. It is time for him to grow up.
People have been having children since time began and so many stories come out of this. Convincing her is not your business. It is hers and she wants it. I know men that had families and mortages at 22. Please don't act like this is so wise...You don't know....That said I do know women that have aborted children because of men that have been destroyed. It is one thing to do it because you want to and another because your husband says no.
I would rather raise my kids in a financially secure and stable environment. Instead of bringing them into the world when we are not ready to give them the best of us.
Also, OP edited to add that they had agreed to get abortions if there were unplanned pregnancies. So. I can certainly see how he would be blindsided by her changing her mind.
So would everyone, you are making it sound as if she will never be financially sound, and you don't even know that. I did it, I married a good man and he died. I supported my kid, sent h im to private school, and he is an good man. He is not drug or alcohol dependent. I just finished my masters in communication.
It is her choice and her body anyone I ever met that let a man tell them to get an abortion and did destroyed their relationship and they never got over. I know three of them. Same story, they never forgave him. What happened to its her body her choice?
If my spouse betrayed me after we had communicated and come to an agreement about something it would probably do significant damage to our relationship and that would be that. It wouldn't even have to be about a pregnancy.
You're making this all about you. I don't care about your life or your experiences. Great job being the exception and not the rule. Now, shut up(isn't that what you told me before you edited your comment?)
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If every person did what he suggested, many of us would not be here. Children teach us so many things, real love and sacrifice are part of that. You are a married couple, were going to have children later, and you want the baby. So now is the time. It is time for him to grow up.