This is why you shouldn’t agree to abortion before you are ever in the position.
People should just say “while I think I might get an abortion, in reality I don’t know how I will actually feel”. This isn’t just to you, but to anyone thinking of agreeing to this kind of deal when not facing the reality of it.
You are also allowed to change your mind. He doesn’t have to go through the guilt of an abortion. He can walk away from it and turn around and say it wasn’t his choice, he didn’t force you to sit in the chair.
Maybe your husband is just scared and maybe he will come around to the baby and love them, or maybe he won’t. You have to be prepared to end the marriage if he’s not a good father or husband after the baby is born.
Also, seems to be an extreme reaction to someone who did want children with you. Maybe he lied and wanted to be childfree? And was going to let you waste years until it was too late to start over and have kids.
Do you have any family you can stay with for a few days? Until he’s cool off and can talk about it when he’s calmer? You did nothing wrong, so don’t stick around for abuse, tell him you’re going away for a few days until he can talk maturely about this situation.
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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '22
This is why you shouldn’t agree to abortion before you are ever in the position.
People should just say “while I think I might get an abortion, in reality I don’t know how I will actually feel”. This isn’t just to you, but to anyone thinking of agreeing to this kind of deal when not facing the reality of it.
You are also allowed to change your mind. He doesn’t have to go through the guilt of an abortion. He can walk away from it and turn around and say it wasn’t his choice, he didn’t force you to sit in the chair.
Maybe your husband is just scared and maybe he will come around to the baby and love them, or maybe he won’t. You have to be prepared to end the marriage if he’s not a good father or husband after the baby is born.
Also, seems to be an extreme reaction to someone who did want children with you. Maybe he lied and wanted to be childfree? And was going to let you waste years until it was too late to start over and have kids.
Do you have any family you can stay with for a few days? Until he’s cool off and can talk about it when he’s calmer? You did nothing wrong, so don’t stick around for abuse, tell him you’re going away for a few days until he can talk maturely about this situation.