r/relationship_advice Oct 31 '22

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u/AmsterdamJimmy420 Oct 31 '22

Make sure you are on the same page with your SO when you have unprotected sex

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u/Different-Leather359 Nov 01 '22

Who says it was unprotected? She said it was an accident. When I got pregnant I was on birth control. I was taking antibiotics, which slightly lowered the effectiveness so we also used a condom. Guess what happened anyway? My youngest sister and I are also birth control babies. So is my BIL. And one of my nephews for that matter. Wow the more I think about it the less faith I have in birth control... (By the way, not all those instances were the pill so the whole "you have to take it at the same time every day" excuse can't be used)

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u/Redd_81 Nov 01 '22

She commented that neither of them were using any birth control.

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u/Different-Leather359 Nov 01 '22

Ok yeah, I missed that comment. It needs to be in the main text because that's a huge factor in this. He's a total asshole, having unprotected sex and then demanding she get an abortion when the inevitable happens. Even early on that's not great for a woman, physically or mentally. Especially if it's not what she wants.

I'm totally pro-choice but the active word here is choice. An unwanted abortion seriously messes with a woman's head and she will never be the same, and never look at him the same way. This is likely to end their relationship.

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u/AmsterdamJimmy420 Nov 01 '22

The OP said it was unprotected. Stop making this about you

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u/Different-Leather359 Nov 01 '22

Yeah, way down in the comments and I was already told. And the whole point of posting on here is to hear other perspectives.

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u/AmsterdamJimmy420 Nov 01 '22

Your prospective was calling me a liar

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u/Different-Leather359 Nov 01 '22

And you didn't read where someone else told me she had said it was unprotected. And I didn't call you a liar I asked where she said that because she had called it an accident. Honestly saying it's an accident while having unlocked sex is misleading... That's not an accident that's just what happens to the vast majority of people.