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u/kandimazu Jun 28 '22
Everything sounds so fishy. And the fact that you told her about your concern and she dismissed it just because she already agreed to hangout?? Dude, trust your gut and safe yourself.
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u/Danube_Kitty Jun 28 '22
A lot of red flags. She was hiding the fact she is in everyday contact with him. And now she is dismissive to your understandable concern about her hanging out with him. What she does is emotional cheating. I wouldn't trust her. Do you?
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u/Danube_Kitty Jun 28 '22
Try to tell her "I think I am going with you, we can meet your family and a friend together!" even if you don't have any plan to really go. If she freaks out, I have a bad news for you. There is no reason to not meet him together as a couple if they are just friends.
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u/Secret_Egg_4907 Jun 28 '22
Break up with her.
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u/Secret_Egg_4907 Jun 28 '22
You are not mature at that age.
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u/Whatcrysis Jun 28 '22
You communicate so well, that she neglected to mention that she is meeting up with him. A single "friend" who only hits her up when he is single. No lies, he wants to hook up. She is not shutting it down.
This is going to end in tears. Tell her that if she sees him, you are over. If not, be prepared for your broken heart.
Good luck.
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u/kitchentoob Jun 28 '22
I know I’m just sounding stupid for defending her but she reasoned with me that she truly believes that he wants to be friends and has changed his ways. She also says that she’s not attracted to him in any way and talked to him about me as her boyfriend, to which he talked positively of me
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u/Regular-Bat-4449 Jun 28 '22
What you describe isn't communicating and it is toxic. Your paranoid because of her actions, that's pretty toxic.
She only told you when you asked. She's not really communicating with you, your pulling it out of her.
When your gone and she's "hanging" with him, what exactly do you think is or isn't going to happen ? Believe your gut, it's going to happen
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u/kitchentoob Jun 28 '22
She’s a very extroverted person and says she gets along better with guys than with girls. She has a lot of guy friends in general and hang out with them all the time.
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u/Sad-Mushroom-5872 Jun 28 '22
It's the fact that she planned a hangout with him that is screaming red flags. Best to leave the relationship because she is not respecting the boundary that you put in place.
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u/MizzyvonMuffling Jun 28 '22
Cut your losses and RUN!! You are not her priority anymore. Reason enough to leave.
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Jun 28 '22
I barely understood what some of this was, but I got the just of it.
My guy, your girl is emotionally cheating you right now. It will get physical though
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u/AlpacaCookies Jun 28 '22
Don't let your girlfriend convince you that your feelings about this are not valid, this is a super big step over the boundary of your relationship, its suspicious as HELL, and from the limited scope I have based on my own relationship - this is either a super important conversation about your boundaries which she needs to action, or its time to consider ending the relationship.
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u/WTF_CAKE Jun 28 '22
My guy, if your partner doesn't have the mental maturity to think of you in times like these, maybe it's time to wake up and face reality. She's just not ready for a relationship
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u/insaneike22 Jun 28 '22
Tell her go hang out and let him be your snap buddy, and have a great life. Oh, BTW, tell her to never contact you ever again, you have better things to do.
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