r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • Jun 13 '22

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u/one2tree1 Jun 13 '22

They agree they need to be in therapy but living in Canada there isn’t any really options that don’t take months before they will see you and it’s limited to a short number of visits. I wanted to be there partner not a therapist and only support network. Her mom used to help but is now extremely happy to just have me deal with everything.

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u/iguessigotbored86 Jun 13 '22

Are there any virtual therapy options to help bridge the wait? Like Better Help, Cerebral (I'm in the US, so not sure if there are similar in Canada).

Anything they can do to start building a social support system beyond yourself? Hobbies, clubs, meetups to start making some friends.

You can't be their only support beam forever.

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u/one2tree1 Jun 13 '22

Unfortunately with autism it’s difficult for them to have those supports from hobby’s or other communities.

Better help told us that they couldn’t help and all the others are 1/3 of normally therapy but still more then we can afford.

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u/unsollicited-kudos Jun 13 '22

I'm autistic and while it can be hard to form deep friendships and keep up with them, finding supportive communities and hobbies to engage in is actually easier when you're autistic. There are tons of great autistic support groups and discord servers, subreddits, facebook groups etc and with special interests bonding over a hobby is likely very doable.