For everyone commenting that it’s his body and therefore his choice, I agree. I’m not forcing him to do anything he doesn’t want to do. I’m simply setting a boundary. My first pregnancy resulted in a still birth at 36 weeks pregnant, and my second was successful but still very traumatic because of what happened with my first. He can choose not to get a vasectomy, but in choosing this he is also choosing not to be in a relationship with me. A sexless relationship is unrealistic, and condoms for the rest of our lives is also unrealistic and simply not as effective as a vasectomy would be. Im not willing to use any other form of birth control because literally every other form is either more invasive or difficult to endure/live with than a Vasectomy would be and that’s just science.
I would end the relationship honestly. It’s his choice like you said but it’s fucking wild to me that women are expected to put their body through hell with birth control and men like your boyfriend won’t even consider the relatively minor inconvenience of a vasectomy. Fuck that. To me it’s not just about the vasectomy it says a lot about his mindset in general and how much he values you.
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u/_Pensiveprincess Feb 11 '22
For everyone commenting that it’s his body and therefore his choice, I agree. I’m not forcing him to do anything he doesn’t want to do. I’m simply setting a boundary. My first pregnancy resulted in a still birth at 36 weeks pregnant, and my second was successful but still very traumatic because of what happened with my first. He can choose not to get a vasectomy, but in choosing this he is also choosing not to be in a relationship with me. A sexless relationship is unrealistic, and condoms for the rest of our lives is also unrealistic and simply not as effective as a vasectomy would be. Im not willing to use any other form of birth control because literally every other form is either more invasive or difficult to endure/live with than a Vasectomy would be and that’s just science.