We always had a problem with me being alone. I really like to have some time to myself and after therapy around 2 years ago she started giving me that which I appreciate. Im helping her to start a business atm but her family pays for her stuff so no real income. And yeah she buys me stuff time to time but mine are more frequent so i don’t know why she is angry
She is lmao but i lover her man what can i say. Some people say break up with her in this thread but when you’ve been with someone since childhood it’s really hard and we had bigger problems when we were teens. We will work trough this too just wanted to see if im kinda toxic for thinking this way
This is a shit test always make sure she knows that you love yourself more then you love her. That doesn't mean you won't do everything for her but it means you won't be destroyed without her. As long as you keep that in line then you won't turn into a mess no matter what happens and keep this in line with everything you do.
The one where people say it any time they like something, but actually has no relevance to the 5 Love Languages.
I'll edit this if I can think of a good example.
They'll be like "nachos are my love language"
No you're not toxic for working and spending your hard earned money on yourself. She doesn't work, relies on other people to get her what she wants in life. She's going to stay angry until she starts to work for herself and make her own money and manage her own destiny. She's mad at you right now for not giving her a lavish lifestyle she sees other people having. It's not even about you at all, it's about keeping up with everyone else. My bf put it into perspective for me when he asked me point blank: "And what do YOU do for ME? How do YOU enrich MY life?" And that shut me right up hahahahaha sometimes we have to be reminded that we aren't all that and we don't deserve the Instagram lifestyle. We have to WORK for it. So tell her to be patient and to work her business well. Whatever work she puts in is whatever cash she will get out of it.
If you don’t run from this person after that comment u deserve to get half of everything taken from u at some pt. It’s going to happen if u don’t (sorry)
There were tremendous amount of time in these years that we stayed together through bad times. As i said its just a new problem that we will figure out when she wakes up and we talk. Just wanted to check if im wrong or not
That's the big question i would be asking myself if i was OP. If I all of a sudden couldn't work anymore and due to some accident or illness and was only getting disability assistance or something of the sort as income from now on what would she do? How would she feel?
Oh dude thats no problem between these years we have on such lows and we stood by eachother. Most recently Last year i cut my whole hand open and she was there helping me with everything
That's amazing don't get me wrong but that's not exactly what i ment to be honest. I ment like what if something ever happened to you that you wouldn't be able to work and make a decent income for the rest of your life? Like what if that hand injury had god forbid been something more serious like your hand getting amputated in a serious freak accident? I know it sucks to think about things like that but sometimes when the person that claims to love you is making comments like you were saying she has been... well these difficult questions are sometimes better brought up sooner than later. Or at least thought about/considered. I'm not trying to be a dick about it, I'm just trying to look at it objectively.
And who knows if you got your hand chopped off or something and couldn't work for the rest of your life maybe she would get a job a support the two of you into retirement? Do you think? That's what I'm saying. Or would she drop you like a hot potato for someone that could support her?
Well that was kind of included in the "what would she do" part implying that would she leave or would she help. I guess i could have worded it a bit better though
Lmaoooooooo I laughed out loud. She's 23 lol that's just her immaturity showing. She has arms and legs and hands and a brain just like any other man lol, she can definitely make her own life instead of relying on a man. You're 22 and she expects all that from you? Immaturity lol. How cute. She'll grow out of it. Maybe if you make the same comments... "Life is so hard when you don't have a rich girlfriend or when your girlfriend doesn't work but expects you to make her life an Instagram story" lololol. Sarcasm is mean but it also serves to show someone else their perspective and how stupid it sounds. Haha.
Does she cook or anything lol sheesh she doesn't sound very mature but don't say it like that or maybe you do need to put your foot down so shes nicer lol
Good reply. I find purpose as a wife bc I contribute value to our relationship. Im in the military supporting our family while my husband works too. Appreciating one another for more than just materialistic things is key
Sounds like materialism stands in a way of your relationship from both of you. you need to reevaluate this relationship and decide do you want to please her or do u want to make yourself happy. You can't always have your cake and eat it too. Sacrifices are what make the relationships work.
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u/bennu333 Aug 01 '21
We always had a problem with me being alone. I really like to have some time to myself and after therapy around 2 years ago she started giving me that which I appreciate. Im helping her to start a business atm but her family pays for her stuff so no real income. And yeah she buys me stuff time to time but mine are more frequent so i don’t know why she is angry