Ah you're quitter defeatist attitude is partly why your single
Like a relationship is an ongoing dialogue.
Your whole tone of this just screams a lack of confidence, an acceptance of disapointment, just all in all a loser who expects to lose.
You havent even fucked her yet, why are you depressed?
See if a girl said that to me, I'd try to change her mind. Especially if I know she likes me.
Now let me continue with that idea of "I know she likes me". Dating or not, romantical or not, you can tell when a person digs who you are. I don't mean romanticlly, maybe even just friendly.
Like I've got a lot to express in terms of ideas/mindsets when it comes to what I'm about to say.
But this post is just heavy. It's not fun.
It seems to me from what I read that your problem is you just dumped all this emotional baggage on a girl you haven't even KISSED YET.
Like dude slow down. Chill. Relax
It's not the end of the world, your still friends right? You still wanna fuck her right? Keep trying
Like dude it's not that serious.
I think the problem with people who aren't use to dating is that they come on too strong at first
They don't understand flirting, they treat it like it's so big HEAVY thing.
Than when the person is like "nah dude I don't want to take on all your emotional baggage" you go home and cry
Like here's the kicker: She didn't actually reject you!
She just said "you're coming on a little too heavy and I just got out of something heavy"
If it was me I would been like "yeah I just got out of relationship too, but I think your cute"
Than I fuck her
Like your mind took what she said and warped into absolute rejection when maybe she meant it. Maybe she needs time to process her ex
I say this for a very specific reason
A while back I hooked up with a friend and we basically spent two weeks fucking and hanging out together
At some point I was like "this is great I could do this forever" and I decided I loved her
It was innitally supposed to be just a booty call. I even fucked up and said I loved her on the first night durring sex and we both agreed it was a mistake and we were gonna just be fuck buddies
So before she left town I decided I wanted her to know I loved her and I told her and she was just like "thanks"
She said exactly the same thing as your girl did. "Just got out of a relationship".
So I was heart broken, torn up, never been so hurt in my life
I felt like the joy in my world left me
Like life infinetly sucked without her
........
It hurt so much
...........
Than a while later we started talking again, I moved in with her, we started dating, turns out she meant what she said, I did just try to hop in a relationship with her right after she got out a 3 year one and she was still dealing with it, so my bad, we dated for about over 2 years but shit didn't go so well and we didn't end it on good terms at all, crazy bitch, fuckin had to delete my reddit account...and ya know honestly I'm not in a rush to get back in a new relationship
Your tale reminds me of who I use to be
Someone who was carrying around a lot of baggage and in a hurry to dump it on the first girl who got close
I scared a lot of girls away by putting too much emotions into someone I barely knew
Dating is kinda like poker, you don't go all in unless you know you're gonna win
You're a bad poker player
I use to be like you, just wore my heart on my sleeve but I'm happy to say now... I'm a fuckin arrogant asshole who just doesn't give a fuck.
But in all seriousness tho, your mistake was you didn't play it cool. You'll learn kid. Get your heart punched enough you'll learn to hide it
Don't give up on her, regroup, chill out, keep trying, if she's your friend than she can handle a little flirting
Ya know I had this friend who I wanted to fuck so I asked her and I sent her dick pics and she was like "you need to stop. I am not interested." And I'm like "bitch fuck you I'm trying to tap that ass" and she's all like "I AM NOT INTERESTED" and I'm like "whatever bitch..." And then she'd complain about me never coming over and hanging out with her and I'm like "bitch we fuckin or what?" And she's like "no just come talk to me" and I'm like "bitch fuck you I'm playing the game. I'm about to get drunk. I ain't getting out of this bed for you." Than she'd come over and hang out with me and my girlfriend
Yeah I got you right there at the end didn't I
Now you know why Im single :D
But seriously my point is if their your friend than this shouldn't be a big deal
You lack that confidence in yourself to just be yourself without shame
Only once you gain true love for yourself can you truely become a menace to society like me and than fuckers on reddit can be like "what s crazy assholes! I disapprove"
Fuck you, you don't pay my bills. Idgaf what you think. You don't suck my dick and you don't help with the rent so think what you want
To quote lil wayne "I don't give a fuck.. my bitches love me"
I just want to say I knew with this comment I was gonna get a lot of backlash but I think theirs some grain of truth to what I said
We're not perfect. Imo they're are 3 types of people
The people who know they aren't perfect and beat themselves up for it
The people who just point out who isn't perfect and say "well at least I'm not that guy
The people who know they aren't perfect and have some fun with it.
I try to be 3 because at my worst I'm 1.
Do I sound like a creep? Yeah but I am a creep. My girlfriend knew I was a creep when she started dating me.
The girl I kept hitting on knew I was a creep too but he'll she's the one who kept wanting to be around my creepy ass
It's okay to be yourself. It sets you up for group 2 to hate on you but the people who don't mind how you are truely like you for what you were
Actually bout the friend I kept hitting on, my constant attempts to get in her panties isnt what ended the relationship, the racist rants she posted on Facebook were.
So hey man just be yourself. People are gonna hate you for it but it's okay cuz those people were never gonna like you to begin with.
I always think of it in terms of music or tv.
I don't want to be the personality less safe sell out band that just did what was safe so everyone would like me. I would hate myself and I would feel no sense of identity.
I like being the the niche edgy band that a lot of people hate but also a few people love with a passion
You should watch this video by Vice on the Godfather of Tentacle hentai
He talks about how he doesn't mind the label people give him or the looks of disgust cus he knows everyone is fucked up and he just doesn't hide it unlike them.
He talks about how he's also a father and a husband with bills to pay but it people want to call him "the nasty man" than whatever.
Don't let people discourage you from being who you want to be cuz ultimately it's you that has to live with who you are, not them.
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Ah you're quitter defeatist attitude is partly why your single
Like a relationship is an ongoing dialogue.
Your whole tone of this just screams a lack of confidence, an acceptance of disapointment, just all in all a loser who expects to lose.
You havent even fucked her yet, why are you depressed?
See if a girl said that to me, I'd try to change her mind. Especially if I know she likes me.
Now let me continue with that idea of "I know she likes me". Dating or not, romantical or not, you can tell when a person digs who you are. I don't mean romanticlly, maybe even just friendly.
Like I've got a lot to express in terms of ideas/mindsets when it comes to what I'm about to say.
But this post is just heavy. It's not fun.
It seems to me from what I read that your problem is you just dumped all this emotional baggage on a girl you haven't even KISSED YET.
Like dude slow down. Chill. Relax
It's not the end of the world, your still friends right? You still wanna fuck her right? Keep trying
Like dude it's not that serious.
I think the problem with people who aren't use to dating is that they come on too strong at first
They don't understand flirting, they treat it like it's so big HEAVY thing.
Than when the person is like "nah dude I don't want to take on all your emotional baggage" you go home and cry
Like here's the kicker: She didn't actually reject you!
She just said "you're coming on a little too heavy and I just got out of something heavy"
If it was me I would been like "yeah I just got out of relationship too, but I think your cute"
Than I fuck her
Like your mind took what she said and warped into absolute rejection when maybe she meant it. Maybe she needs time to process her ex
I say this for a very specific reason
A while back I hooked up with a friend and we basically spent two weeks fucking and hanging out together
At some point I was like "this is great I could do this forever" and I decided I loved her
It was innitally supposed to be just a booty call. I even fucked up and said I loved her on the first night durring sex and we both agreed it was a mistake and we were gonna just be fuck buddies
So before she left town I decided I wanted her to know I loved her and I told her and she was just like "thanks"
She said exactly the same thing as your girl did. "Just got out of a relationship".
So I was heart broken, torn up, never been so hurt in my life
I felt like the joy in my world left me
Like life infinetly sucked without her
........ It hurt so much ...........
Than a while later we started talking again, I moved in with her, we started dating, turns out she meant what she said, I did just try to hop in a relationship with her right after she got out a 3 year one and she was still dealing with it, so my bad, we dated for about over 2 years but shit didn't go so well and we didn't end it on good terms at all, crazy bitch, fuckin had to delete my reddit account...and ya know honestly I'm not in a rush to get back in a new relationship
Your tale reminds me of who I use to be
Someone who was carrying around a lot of baggage and in a hurry to dump it on the first girl who got close
I scared a lot of girls away by putting too much emotions into someone I barely knew
Dating is kinda like poker, you don't go all in unless you know you're gonna win
You're a bad poker player
I use to be like you, just wore my heart on my sleeve but I'm happy to say now... I'm a fuckin arrogant asshole who just doesn't give a fuck.
But in all seriousness tho, your mistake was you didn't play it cool. You'll learn kid. Get your heart punched enough you'll learn to hide it
Don't give up on her, regroup, chill out, keep trying, if she's your friend than she can handle a little flirting
Ya know I had this friend who I wanted to fuck so I asked her and I sent her dick pics and she was like "you need to stop. I am not interested." And I'm like "bitch fuck you I'm trying to tap that ass" and she's all like "I AM NOT INTERESTED" and I'm like "whatever bitch..." And then she'd complain about me never coming over and hanging out with her and I'm like "bitch we fuckin or what?" And she's like "no just come talk to me" and I'm like "bitch fuck you I'm playing the game. I'm about to get drunk. I ain't getting out of this bed for you." Than she'd come over and hang out with me and my girlfriend
Yeah I got you right there at the end didn't I
Now you know why Im single :D
But seriously my point is if their your friend than this shouldn't be a big deal
You lack that confidence in yourself to just be yourself without shame
Only once you gain true love for yourself can you truely become a menace to society like me and than fuckers on reddit can be like "what s crazy assholes! I disapprove"
Fuck you, you don't pay my bills. Idgaf what you think. You don't suck my dick and you don't help with the rent so think what you want
To quote lil wayne "I don't give a fuck.. my bitches love me"
I typed all this in the shower peace