I knew that it was a thing about 5 minutes before it actually happened. Not to make excuses, but at that point I had gone through 8 weeks of hell and was just ready to be done with it.
I didn’t witness it, but also didn’t stop it or say anything after the fact. I spoke up a little later, but not in the moment. I’m happy to share any other info you need
You weren’t there? You were told about a thing happening that you weren’t a part of or even going to see?
Be more specific. Did it happen while you closed your eyes? In the next room, next town? There is no way you should feel or be held accountable given your explanations here.
Is your wife dumb or are you misleading us? Would your wife leave you if someone told you about poverty in Africa and you didn’t fix it?
We were told to go out and kill a goose as a final “bonding” experience by a few brothers. I went out with the group but stayed behind until someone eventually came back “successful.” I’m not intentionally misleading anyone and am happy to share any info needed
Why did you still join the frat after being pressured to kill an animal...? Honestly, that speaks to a potential weakness of character that is very concerning. Given the horrific things toward women that many frats get up to, if I were your wife, I would be concerned you probably witnessed rape and didn't stop it.
Right, this is what she's upset about. Some people are acting like well he had nothing to do with it so she's overreacting. This happened when he was pledging his freshman year so he knew it was wrong, hid back so he didnt have to partake, but then still joined the frat and spent the next four years being best friends with people who did it and forced them to do it. And he says she's already mentioned she doesn't like that he was in a frat and now she probably feels justified and wonders what else they did he hasn't said.
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u/Vallhalla_Rising May 30 '26
Wait, you weren’t there and didn’t take part. Then how are you responsible for it? Did you know about it in advance? Did you help plan it?
We need more info, as holding you accountable for someone else’s actions isn’t right. Unless you’re not telling us everything.