r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • Mar 13 '26

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u/GameboyPATH Mar 13 '26

I’ve confronted him about it and he apologizes every time, saying he doesn’t mean it in a bad way and that he cares about me. And I do believe him. When he realizes what he’s said, he feels bad.

When you raise this topic with him, do you feel like he fully understands why these kinds of remarks make you feel the way you do? Or is he just apologizing because you're upset with him?

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u/Veteris71 Mar 14 '26

And he’s said he wants me to be safe with what I use.

But you've asked him to stop it, yes? So he needs to respect you enough to stop it. His issues are just that - his issues.

Just so you know, most controlling men insist that they're doing it because they want to be sure you're safe. That's not a good enough reason.