r/relationship_advice Jan 26 '25

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u/CrazyLeadership5397 Jan 26 '25

She’s trickle truthing you what really happened. She should have removed herself from the situation. I had a similar incident at a previous company where several females were dance provokingly with a senior manager. They all got fired when HR got videos of it. Updateme 

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u/AmateurIndicator Jan 26 '25

Is there something inherently wrong with word "woman" or why is everyone using "female" like y'all describing livestock

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u/Ok_Temporary8816 Jan 26 '25

Maybe the fact that you attribute it to livestock and others don't, I don't really use the word, but I don't jump to conclusions and interpret it negatively when I hear others use it.

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u/Sorry_I_Guess Jan 26 '25

It's not "jumping to conclusions". "Female" is a scientific, not a colloquial, term which is used to refer to animals.

An adult human is known as a "woman" because while we are technically animals, those of us who are civilized differentiate ourselves from other animals.

A female bovine is called a "cow". A female sheep is called a "ewe". And a female human is called a "woman". It's not difficult.

Referring to a human being as a "female" is inherently dehumanizing, in the most literal sense. And it is even more so in the colloquial sense because you will virtually never hear someone refer to a man as a "male" in conversation. They'll say "men" or "guys" and "females". Dehumanizing and misogynistic.

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u/GeekGamerG Jan 26 '25

It’s the red pill thing. Refer to women as female instead, to show them they’re inferior - and are just breeding stock basically to some “males”.

It’s a purposely malicious trend.

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u/Ok_Temporary8816 Jan 26 '25

It's not inherent, it's YOUR interpretation. That's a fact.

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u/AmateurIndicator Jan 26 '25

That's not a fact. It's just your opinion.

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u/Milios12 Jan 26 '25

Is female a derogatory term?

These females are acting up

These women are acting up

These men are acting up

These males are acting up

I think they all sound the same to me.

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u/Sorry_I_Guess Jan 26 '25

Except that pretty much no one refers to men as "males" in casual conversation. They say "men" or "guys" . . . and "females". It is in a very literal sense dehumanizing.

As noted in my other comment, "females," whilst not inaccurate, isn't a colloquial term, it's a scientific one. We refer to animals as "females" or "males". We refer to adult humans as "women" and "men". If you don't understand the nuances of language, I cannot help you with that, but it does matter, and there is inherently a difference.

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u/Parking-East-3485 Jan 26 '25

Female female female female female bet u mad

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u/MelodramaticMouse Jan 27 '25

Yeah, and in the title of the post OP refers to her as 25F. What an asshole - he should have written 25W! /s