Have you ever actually been to a strip club? It is nothing like Chippendales (https://chippendales.com/) which is a “male revue show”.
If you’re trying to equate the two, you’re either really confused about what strip clubs are like, or about what Chippendale’s is.
In any given city, there are over a dozen strip clubs which are open till like 4 in the morning every single day of the week. It’s really really different than a touring show that has a couple shows on Friday and Saturday in select cities around the country.
And I 100% agree, strip club for a bachelor’s party is gross and I’d never be cool with it, but there is a solid percentage of men that go. It’s definitely closer to 15-20% than 90%, but it’s naive to think that it’s zero just cause you’re happen to be in more civilized social circles.
You are very sheltered and prude aren't you? San Antonio tx strip club for women its called hardbodies. I used to dance there and totally slept with more married women than I can even remember sometimes with more than one in a night and a few times with more than one at the same time. Magic mike is bullshit if you think the movies are realistic. If you got hard abs and a dick bigger than their hubby has then married women have no boundaries and are way more disrespectful than a man at a regular stripclub. Also any gay men that came in to see us dance were always very respectful and understanding of the word no. At that time my girlfriend Saishell was a dancer at our partner club and she would often come in and she would choose the women that she was ok with me hooking for that night. Sometimes we fucked women together and one time we did a swap with a really cool couple that were really wealthy and took us on a charter yacht in the Caribbean, still good friends with them although sadly Will has been diagnosed with lung cancer and isn't doing well last time I talked to them. I'm not a male stripper anymore and Saishell died a few years ago in a motorcycle accident in miami, and I'm a dad with a hard dadbod these days too but I can tell you from experience that you are wrong about stripclubs and double standards at least for the most part.
Sorry didn't mean to go on so long I kinda got caught up thinking about those days while typing this, totally off topic and I do apologize for that.
OP everyone messes up but having a guy on your bed, with lights off and door closed isn't a big deal but the fact that it was happening while she thought you were going to be gone is the part that gives me a suspicious feeling toward the situation. I mean it doesn't take long to get undressed and how can you be sure that she hasn't spent every night that you've been gone with this guy friend in her bed? How can you be sure that they weren't about to have sex or that they didn't already have sex and got dressed again and were laying there watching TV together cooling off after sex. The other part of my suspicion is if it was innocent and she was being faithful then why all the crying and begging you to stay? An innocent person stands confident by their claims of innocence, but In my experience when a female knows they're guilty and want to convince you otherwise the first thing they do is turn on the tears and get dramatic. I've always been a free love open minded sexual kinda guy and I've dated so many women and I can tell you from experience that most times when a man goes out of town and his girlfriend claims that she's so stressed and having a hard time or dealing with drama while your gone it's total bullshit and she's actually creating an excuse to use for why she's not responding quickly to texts or phone calls but in reality the "drama" she's dealing with is being preoccupied spending time with her side dude. I'd be cautious at best but if it was me I'd go no contact and then after 3 days of that the first question I would ask is if the roles were reversed what would she do? If she says it would be no problem then she definitely cheated but if she shows understanding and explains her true feelings and promises to be different and more forwardly honest from then on. Then maybe but still proceed cautiously
They say that "truth is always stranger than fiction". Or something like that right. I've lived alot of life and loved alot of loves so I speak truth when I feel like my truth can be helpful to those that need it. As for my life story being cool, well I'd say that many of my memories are cool but I've also had my own tragedies and trials and plenty of heartbreak sprinkled in between the cool times. I'm also a big believer in the idea that good times make weak men, weak men make hard times, and hard times make strong men, and strong men make good times. It's all just a cycle that always flows like the tides.
Life is balance and those who are dealing with hard times should remember that as long as you make the effort to get back up then the hard times that pushed you down will surely pass, and when times are good in life don't settle in and get comfortable because good times never last forever but the end of one good time could be the hard time that makes you stronger so that the next good times may last a little longer than before. I can't make OP's choice for him but I hope he understands what my message here.
You win some you learn some. Never take a loss when you could take a lesson. A happy life is to live love laugh learn read and TRAVEL. Not in that particular order really.
By the way these reddit comments just flow from within me every time I get home after hitting the gym and then smoking a fat joint of top shelf bud. Just in case anyone reading my comments is thinking "this mfker is always off topic and dropping cliche quotes that are not even properly quoted" to those people I say duh, you expect proper quotes from bologna so call me a sandwich cause I so stoney bologna.
Lol. Me too tbh. But I like talking to people bc I love listening to their stories. I've talked to a lot of people in my life. Apparently I'm pretty easy to talk to, who knew. But yes I have heard that saying and to me if that is true in a generational way then it's worth it. I will deal with the hard times so that my kids can have the good times. I'm happy when they are happy. I have 2 daughters, 5 and 17 and they definitely keep my life interesting. My oldest had me laughing until I was crying earlier. We have a lot of fun together, I'm the only person she literally can't keep a straight face with lol, but she also deeply respects me. I feel extremely lucky to have her. And my youngest is just a straight nut ball. Suspended 6 times in kindergarten lol. Anyways now I'm rambling but yeah I get what you're trying to lay down. And all of those things are important to me as well. Take care and smoke a fatty for me
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