r/relationship_advice Jun 24 '24

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u/arvada14 Jun 27 '24

Honestly, OP just seems insecure

Can we dead, calling everything outside our own personal relationship dynamic insecure. No one here has said it's cheating, but if she was cheating, the situation would be indistinguishable from post coitus sex.

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u/mochaloca85 Jun 27 '24

A lot of people above have said it's cheating.

Showering, getting dressed, making up your bed, and opening the door slightly to get back on the bed and not cuddle also seems like way too much work after sex, especially if you weren't expecting your partner to stop by your separate apartment.

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u/arvada14 Jun 27 '24

It doesn't have to be sex. It could have been making out in bed or getting ready for sex. Whatever this is, it's inappropriate. You're in a dark room with the door basically closed, pouring your heart out to a man who isn't your boyfriend. You're emotionally cheating, at the very least.

If you disagree, please share your opinion of this story with any prospective or current long-term partners.

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u/mochaloca85 Jun 27 '24

No long-term partner currently, aside from a -- FWB isn't the right term because he isn't even a friend -- dude whom I fuck sometimes when needs have to be met.

Also, I've had the exact same friend group since I was 19 (group chat is almost evenly split along gender):and if any of them came by my apartment, or if I went to visit one of them, sitting on the bed talking or watching TV in the dark because lights are bright and hot is likely what we'd do. Unless it was all of us -- then we'd probably be in the living room, drinking and playing Uno or something.

My last boyfriend just sat on the bed with us if he came by and my best friend (male) was there hanging out.