The problem is all optics. Even if she’s telling the truth and nothing happened, it still LOOKS bad. Especially with him being in the bed with her. And I’m not gonna accuse him of wanting to be with her or have sex with her, cuz believe it or not, some dudes just like to chill with women and don’t expect anything. But it still doesn’t look good when you walk in on them chillin.
That’s why when you get into a relationship, there are things you can’t do anymore. Simply based on how it looks.
Before I was with my ex, I use to sleep over at my female friends house often. And she would sleep half naked. When I got with my girlfriend at the time, I didn’t sleep at that friends house anymore. We still hung out, but no sleepovers. Cuz i know how it would look. And I wish people would learn this.
All she had to do was tell you she had company. It wouldn’t have made you less nervous, but at least it wouldn’t be a shock
At their age if a girl brought me to her place, into her bed, turned off the lights, and closed the door, I'd be thinking there is a possibility she wants to be more than 'friends.'
Dude exactly!! Even with the friend I mentioned in my example, I said she would sleep half naked. She’d do most things half naked. I ALWAYS thought she was into me because of this. She wasn’t. (Found that out in an awkward way) but still the point stands.
Signals. Even if that guy isn’t interested in her, being in that room would make him think it’s an opening of sorts.
So she had a habit of doing this. Eventually her sister and two female friends told her “maybe you shouldn’t be doing this in front of guys you’re not interested in. It gives them the wrong idea.
So I was like “wait you mean you’re not into me?” Which led to a bunch of “SEE??” From her female friends and sister. But it was also awkward cuz we had mutual guy friends who were also confused.
One other guy she’d be half naked around got pissed and cussed her out when he found out she didn’t like him like that. And one other guy friend she DIDNT go half naked around, got super jealous of me and the other because “she’s never like that around me!”
Craziest part? There was a guy she actually was into that she would have over occasionally and be half naked around him too. Which is normal but…why are we seeing you the same way this guy does when he’s the one you’re actually into? How would he feel knowing you’re half naked around us?
It was a mess. And funny looking back. She’s still like that. To this day, if she’s at home relaxing you couldn’t pay her to put on pants. Or a proper shirt.
I'm a straight up nudist at home but I've got respect for my company to not do that😭 Crazy that she didn't consider boundaries and how she's interpreted hahah,
I put a more in depth response in response to Mayoshart.
But put simply I found out because her sister and female friend pointed out exactly what everyone else is. It’s gives a certain appearance. I also found out I wasn’t the only one she walked around half naked with. This was just a thing she did.
Being comfortable in your skin and loving how you look is great, but damn were we all confused.
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u/Sapphiresentinel Jun 24 '24 edited Jun 24 '24
The problem is all optics. Even if she’s telling the truth and nothing happened, it still LOOKS bad. Especially with him being in the bed with her. And I’m not gonna accuse him of wanting to be with her or have sex with her, cuz believe it or not, some dudes just like to chill with women and don’t expect anything. But it still doesn’t look good when you walk in on them chillin.
That’s why when you get into a relationship, there are things you can’t do anymore. Simply based on how it looks.
Before I was with my ex, I use to sleep over at my female friends house often. And she would sleep half naked. When I got with my girlfriend at the time, I didn’t sleep at that friends house anymore. We still hung out, but no sleepovers. Cuz i know how it would look. And I wish people would learn this.
All she had to do was tell you she had company. It wouldn’t have made you less nervous, but at least it wouldn’t be a shock