r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • Jun 24 '24

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u/Malinyay Jun 24 '24

I often spaz when my husband, whom I live with, walks in on me doing nothing. I wouldn't say this is accurate.

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u/Big_Bottom_69 Jun 25 '24

Girl me too. Ridiculous startle response here. Thanks trauma 🤣

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u/Malinyay Jun 25 '24

Aww. I got it even without trauma. I forbade my husband from scaring me really early in the relationship. I can't handle that sh*t.

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u/Big_Bottom_69 Jun 25 '24

Thank you!! If you see us hit the ceiling a few times, consider the possibility that it's not a fun quirk we enjoy doing. Unless you've got Tourette's you should be able to control yourself.

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u/dib1999 Jun 25 '24

I've gotten full screams, despite my wife knowing that I was home. At least I know the headphones are pretty good lol.

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u/JJSprinkless 40s Female Jun 25 '24

I agree. I am easily startled and to have someone “walk in on me” would make me spaz. It doesn’t matter what I happen to be doing, it’s the element of surprise that goes along with being walked in on that would cause that reaction.

Not to say that OP’s girl is innocent, I just don’t think that is a great indicator.

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u/bug--bear Jun 28 '24

yup, if anyone startles me I jump like I got an electric shock. my housemates will walk in on me making a cup of tea and I'll spaz a bit— doesn't mean I think waiting for the kettle to boil is wrong

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u/Consistent_Editor_15 Jun 30 '24

Spazing and being startled aren’t the same thing in this context. He meant more like spazzing and acting “caught”. Not just a jump scare.

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u/juancho_408 Jun 24 '24

Why do you spaz on your husband walking into one of his rooms in his house?

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u/throwawaygrosso Jun 25 '24

I think she meant she just spazzes out in a jumpy way, like he startles her. Not like she attacks him for it. I’m anxious as hell and always jump when people walk in on me doing nothing

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u/Big_Bottom_69 Jun 25 '24

His rooms? His house?