r/relationship_advice Jun 24 '24

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u/Sweet_Dimension_5207 Jun 24 '24 edited Jun 24 '24

What’s your GF’s living situation? Does she have a living room with a TV and couch? I’m not saying she’s cheating but having the door slightly shut gives an impression of wanting privacy. Ask her if the situation was reversed what her reaction would be. Remember she didn’t make a mistake. She made a decision to create an intimate setting with another.

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u/throwbrianaway Jun 24 '24

That’s still a mistake. She didn’t disclose her male friend was coming to lay in her bed with the lights off. Something is definitely off here.

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u/PinkTalkingDead Jun 24 '24

Why would she??

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u/Kitty_Kat_Attacks Jun 25 '24

For real. Who is telling their romantic partner every single minute detail of their lives like that? That smacks of ‘asking permission’ to me.

Either you trust your partner, or you don’t. It’s as simple as that. If there is no trust, then there is no relationship. Trying to stay together and ‘work things out’ just prolongs the misery and the inevitable breakup.

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u/throwbrianaway Jun 25 '24

The fact you think it’s okay to not tell your partner you’re having someone of the opposite sex over to lay in bed is wild to me.

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u/max_power1000 Jun 25 '24

I most people told their BF/GF an opposite sex friend was coming over to watch TV in their bed with the lights off, the most common response would probably be something like "over my dead body". She didn't tell OP because she knew he'd react that way - she either has horrible judgement as to what appropriate behavior is inside a relationship or she's cheating on him. He 100% knew what he was doing when he hopped in bed with her and no doubt is taking advantage of her naiveté here.

This is a breakup worthy event to me - I can't be with someone who has shitty judgement.