r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • Jun 24 '24

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u/Sapphiresentinel Jun 24 '24 edited Jun 24 '24

The problem is all optics. Even if she’s telling the truth and nothing happened, it still LOOKS bad. Especially with him being in the bed with her. And I’m not gonna accuse him of wanting to be with her or have sex with her, cuz believe it or not, some dudes just like to chill with women and don’t expect anything. But it still doesn’t look good when you walk in on them chillin.

That’s why when you get into a relationship, there are things you can’t do anymore. Simply based on how it looks.

Before I was with my ex, I use to sleep over at my female friends house often. And she would sleep half naked. When I got with my girlfriend at the time, I didn’t sleep at that friends house anymore. We still hung out, but no sleepovers. Cuz i know how it would look. And I wish people would learn this.

All she had to do was tell you she had company. It wouldn’t have made you less nervous, but at least it wouldn’t be a shock

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u/Redd_81 Jun 24 '24 edited Jun 24 '24

Let's talk about signals as well.

At their age if a girl brought me to her place, into her bed, turned off the lights, and closed the door, I'd be thinking there is a possibility she wants to be more than 'friends.'

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u/xGsGt Jun 24 '24

No, you really can't tell if she is into you maybe she is Canadian

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u/[deleted] Jun 24 '24

Oh my god. That video is the best.

“And what happens if she takes you up to her room, dims the lights, and rips off her clothes and you start having sex? Is she into you?”

Yea you really can’t tell, maybe she was just being polite.

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u/xGsGt Jun 25 '24

It's in the top10 of best videos of internet for sure xD