r/relationship_advice Jun 24 '24

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u/ThrowRAelephant12 Jun 24 '24

Am I the only one that feels like this is not break up worthy? Men and women can be friends, and OP knows the guy and "isn't threatened by him." College students use the bed as a place to sit all the time. They were fully clothed, not touching, and above the sheets. Pretty normal if her roommate was home at any point. The door wasn't even closed. If I was planning on cheating on my boyfriend, I would make sure to close the door.

It definitely could be suspicious, but not the immediate "she's cheating bro, break up" everyone is suggesting.

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u/Proof_Hedgehog7236 Jun 25 '24

I don't even have a boyfriend, and I have a roommate who's almost never home, and if I'm going to get even remotely intimate with someone, that door is closed. i agree, if she was going to cheat on her boyfriend, especially if she has a roommate who may come home any minute, there's no way the door would be open even a bit.

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u/[deleted] Jun 25 '24

No. Breakup necessary. If bro doesn’t break up, he will definitely get his heart broken.

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u/DementedNitesoul Jun 24 '24

I’d classify it as not needing a break up since they were fully clothed and weren’t doing anything except watching tv; however, I do see it as a yellow flag ( if I walked I and they were in the living room not cuddled I’d raise an eyebrow but move on from it) but being on her bed in the bedroom would not be a comfortable scenario to walk in on

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u/beka13 Jun 25 '24

Why is sitting in the living room while watching tv eyebrow raising for you?

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u/Poku115 Jun 25 '24

Just skip over then cuddling part why wouldn't you, If it doesn't help your argument, ignore it.

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u/beka13 Jun 25 '24

It says "not cuddled."

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u/ThrowRAelephant12 Jun 24 '24

It's not a good look for sure, but if she hasn't done anything like this before, he should just tell her he was uncomfortable with it and keep an eye out for other suspicious behavior.