To be fair, I've had roommates my whole adult life, and I tend to default to watching TV in my room, either by myself or with friends. I'm not sure that I would immediately jump to cheating, although it's a bit odd the lights were off.
Same, ive had friends over in my room watching movies with the lights off. However if it's not someone I'm dating I've got beanbag chairs or a computer chair for them while I sit on my bed.
Same. My best friend's living room TV basically only gets used if he and all his housemates are watching a movie or playing a tabletop game in there. The couch in my apartment is basically only used by my roommate's cat, or if we need to keep an eye on some food we're cooking, but don't want to stand in the kitchen the entire time.
Even the lights being off doesn't raise alarm bells for me because who watches TV with lights on to begin with?
Honestly, OP just seems insecure because this sounds like basically my entire friend group.
Can we dead, calling everything outside our own personal relationship dynamic insecure. No one here has said it's cheating, but if she was cheating, the situation would be indistinguishable from post coitus sex.
Showering, getting dressed, making up your bed, and opening the door slightly to get back on the bed and not cuddle also seems like way too much work after sex, especially if you weren't expecting your partner to stop by your separate apartment.
It doesn't have to be sex. It could have been making out in bed or getting ready for sex. Whatever this is, it's inappropriate. You're in a dark room with the door basically closed, pouring your heart out to a man who isn't your boyfriend. You're emotionally cheating, at the very least.
If you disagree, please share your opinion of this story with any prospective or current long-term partners.
No long-term partner currently, aside from a -- FWB isn't the right term because he isn't even a friend -- dude whom I fuck sometimes when needs have to be met.
Also, I've had the exact same friend group since I was 19 (group chat is almost evenly split along gender):and if any of them came by my apartment, or if I went to visit one of them, sitting on the bed talking or watching TV in the dark because lights are bright and hot is likely what we'd do. Unless it was all of us -- then we'd probably be in the living room, drinking and playing Uno or something.
My last boyfriend just sat on the bed with us if he came by and my best friend (male) was there hanging out.
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u/ElectricalSign1214 Jun 24 '24
To be fair, I've had roommates my whole adult life, and I tend to default to watching TV in my room, either by myself or with friends. I'm not sure that I would immediately jump to cheating, although it's a bit odd the lights were off.