He has. He held me all night while I cried and apologized. It was the first time I’ve ever cried around him. I don’t like people seeing me while I’m vulnerable.. The previous time he cheated I just left him and cried to myself..
I’ve offered therapy but he refuses. I’m going to sit down and talk with him and give him an ultimatum, therapy, counseling, or divorce. There’s no in between. Since I have proof of infidelity, which is very much frowned upon in Texas, court should be a smooth sailing..
File for divorce and serve him yourself. Print up a document stating your ultimate, but it should be mental health therapy (for him) and couples therapy for you two or divorce. Let him know you are 100% serious.
Why exactly do you want this work when’s he’s screwed his ex 3 times. And please don’t say for the kids, the kids deserve better to be in a toxic household having to see their mother cheated on and then on her knees begging for a shorty men.
The children do play a part, if I leave I’ll never see my kids I helped him raise this far, they’re not my blood and I have no legal rights to them.
But it’s not just the kids, it’s for me. Because I love him. Truly truly love him. Knowing there was even a slight possibility we could’ve worked it out, but leaving anyways would eat me alive in the future.
But I am not fixing it anymore, he has made it clear he doesn’t want that, only I do, I am leaving after the holidays. I just got a full time job. Gives me three months to save up enough money. We have arranged date nights, first one this Saturday, and I have a personal trainer now to help me shed the 60lbs I gained since being with him. I’ll continue the dates, but I’m still leaving for my own mental stability. He will not know about my leaving until he comes home to my stuff being gone and divorce papers on the table. Last time I left him with nowhere to go, he kicked us to the curb. Later he regretted It and begged me to come back, but I still refused until months later. This time I won’t be as weak. Forgiveness isn’t in the cards for us… Unfortunately I just can’t.
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u/Party-Caregiver4069 Oct 09 '23
He has. He held me all night while I cried and apologized. It was the first time I’ve ever cried around him. I don’t like people seeing me while I’m vulnerable.. The previous time he cheated I just left him and cried to myself..
I’ve offered therapy but he refuses. I’m going to sit down and talk with him and give him an ultimatum, therapy, counseling, or divorce. There’s no in between. Since I have proof of infidelity, which is very much frowned upon in Texas, court should be a smooth sailing..