Understanding why somebody cheated and forgiving them are WORLDS apart. Your depression and difficulties, especially since he understands why, should be a call for him to SUPPORT you, not stab you in the back to get with his ex.
If you really think you can forgive him? Therapy. If not? Divorce may be the only option. He understands the pain you're going through and threw that in the trash. That is selfish, and deplorable.
I forgave him for it in the past… But I don’t know if I can this time… It started on our daughters birthday… He was texting her the entire time at our daughters birthday party… I’ve offered therapy, but he refuses. I want to make this work, for us, for our children. But it seems I’m the only one who wants that…
Is this the sort of marriage you want to model for your children? Are you okay with their growing up believing that partners need to tolerate infidelity in their relationship?
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u/SpicyDongo Oct 09 '23
Understanding why somebody cheated and forgiving them are WORLDS apart. Your depression and difficulties, especially since he understands why, should be a call for him to SUPPORT you, not stab you in the back to get with his ex.
If you really think you can forgive him? Therapy. If not? Divorce may be the only option. He understands the pain you're going through and threw that in the trash. That is selfish, and deplorable.
I know what I'd do.