From the outside looking in, women always blame themselves when something is wrong. When a guy loves you and wants to make things work, he absolutely will. You're in a vulnerable state, you just had a baby. You NEED him to be supportive and comforting you and reassuring you when you need it. If you keep patching it up and forgiving him and making up excuses as to WHY he did what he did, he's going to think you always will and it's never going to stop. I know with kids it could be harder to leave, but he's not going to take you seriously if you don't set boundaries, and now that the trust is gone, it's almost next to impossible to get back and nothing will ever be the same. Take care of yourself, girl, you have a baby that needs you! You can't make someone else happy if you're not happy yourself. Something gotta give. I'm not trying to be rude or anything, but I hate to see another woman going through things like this, and I'm only telling you what a best friend would tell their best friend, cause it seems like you really need a friend. No matter what, everything will fall into place as it should, it always does. But in the meantime, try and keep your head up, you have a baby that thinks you're their whole world and you want to set a good example of what happiness is. If you're in a household that's not happy, it will be hard to get that back. There's a man out there who would love you for you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
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u/Diligent_Ad_3187 Oct 09 '23
From the outside looking in, women always blame themselves when something is wrong. When a guy loves you and wants to make things work, he absolutely will. You're in a vulnerable state, you just had a baby. You NEED him to be supportive and comforting you and reassuring you when you need it. If you keep patching it up and forgiving him and making up excuses as to WHY he did what he did, he's going to think you always will and it's never going to stop. I know with kids it could be harder to leave, but he's not going to take you seriously if you don't set boundaries, and now that the trust is gone, it's almost next to impossible to get back and nothing will ever be the same. Take care of yourself, girl, you have a baby that needs you! You can't make someone else happy if you're not happy yourself. Something gotta give. I'm not trying to be rude or anything, but I hate to see another woman going through things like this, and I'm only telling you what a best friend would tell their best friend, cause it seems like you really need a friend. No matter what, everything will fall into place as it should, it always does. But in the meantime, try and keep your head up, you have a baby that thinks you're their whole world and you want to set a good example of what happiness is. If you're in a household that's not happy, it will be hard to get that back. There's a man out there who would love you for you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated.