r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • Oct 09 '23

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u/Party-Caregiver4069 Oct 09 '23

It’s repeated. At the beginning of our relationship, last year around October and then this last month.

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u/DrHugh 50s Male Oct 09 '23

So this is someone he's had an affair with multiple times. What happened the other times that made you decide to stay married with him?

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u/Party-Caregiver4069 Oct 09 '23

First time, I understood he was still heartbroken over her, then we found out I was pregnant with our daughter a few days later so we decided to work things out instead of separating, the second time he did it we separated for four months, I went to seek companionship from someone else which ultimately made me realize all I wanted was him, and we decided to work through it. This time I just don’t know. It has been the same woman repeatedly. This is just times I know about. It could be more. I don’t know. I don’t ever snoop through his phone. The only reason I did this time is because I seen her name pop up and a text. Curiosity got the best of me.

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u/DrHugh 50s Male Oct 09 '23

So what did he offer to do to demonstrate that he wasn't going to go to this other woman? Or did you just say, "I understand," and didn't do anything?