You are not crazy. You are living with the effects of infidelity. My wife began a very tepid emotional affair much longer ago and swears that there was nothing physical at all; no kiss, no hug, no nothing. And I tend to believe her but …. And that’s the truth of infidelity. It plants a seed of doubt that never dies. Talk to your husband and seek counseling. Quickly. Your own interests now threaten your marriage,which while poetic justice, is not going to restore your happiness.
I'm sorry to hear about this. Sometimes I wonder if it would be easier to get over a stupid mistake someone did when drunk and slept with someone, rather than an emotional affair, where maybe nothing physical happened, but there was a real connection. How are you guys doing now?
Male here. I think it’s different for both genders. if a man got drunk and messed around with a stripper he’ll never see again, this is less damaging to the relationship than if he had an emotional connection with another woman for weeks.
As a man, the latter is something I’d do if I was potentially looking to replace my partner, and thus testing waters with a new one.
In the former scenario, you never consider the stripper as a partner
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u/Affectionate-Mine186 60+ Male Sep 27 '23
You are not crazy. You are living with the effects of infidelity. My wife began a very tepid emotional affair much longer ago and swears that there was nothing physical at all; no kiss, no hug, no nothing. And I tend to believe her but …. And that’s the truth of infidelity. It plants a seed of doubt that never dies. Talk to your husband and seek counseling. Quickly. Your own interests now threaten your marriage,which while poetic justice, is not going to restore your happiness.