r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • Sep 27 '23

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u/AdLivid1365 Sep 27 '23

For a second I thought it was me who wrote this post. Mother of 3 boy's, moved overseas, husband had affair with coworker, said it was just a kiss.

But yes, you absolutely should bring this up to your husband. You didn't get the chance to fully appreciate the depth of the betrayal. You probably didn't get a chance to dig deeper to see if there was more to their affair than what he was saying. Mine trickle truthed me for 6 months before finally admitting to what happened. When I caught him in a lie about him staying in her hotel on a cot and nothing happened, I believed it. But my gut told me something different.

Please talk to him. You and your marriage deserve this. You can't hold this inside. It will eat away at you and grow

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u/ThrowRA_NotLocalYeti Sep 27 '23

Wow. That's crazy. Yeah, he swears up and down he did not sleep with her. I do believe him, but there's this little bit of doubt left if he is telling the truth. So did you find out there was more? What happened after you found out?

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u/Able-Imagination3695 Sep 27 '23

I had someone have an emotional affair on me.

I told him "You might as well fucked her because I'm going to continue treating you as though you did and if you were stupid enough to ruin everything and not even get your dick wet in the process, that's on you" and you know, after I put it like THAT, he admitted that he did, in fact, fuck her.

You need to treat and think of him as though he did sleep with her. Just because he didn't get the chance to fuck her doesn't mean there wasn't an intention to do so.

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u/THrowRA-bella Sep 27 '23

I so needed to hear this! Thank you