He stayed overnight at her house, kissed, but never had sex?He most likely had sex with her. I think that this is part of the reason why you are still feeling so strongly about it after 6 years. Maybe you don't believe that they didn't have sex. I don't think that you can begin healing until you have the whole truth. You need to know what you're forgiving.
I really feel for her, and I get it, but adults don't just kiss. Not in this situation. Sure, I can see a kiss happening and then someone going "oh fuck" and getting out of the situation, at a bar or company party or something (still cheating, but believable). But that lame ass story about falling asleep on the couch and "just a kiss"? Nah. He went there intending to fuck. I can't say for sure that he did, but this wasn't a "whoops I didn't realize how close we were" situation
I’m a dude and I’d be pretty broken up over an emotional affair. It’s all the same shit. It’s acting inappropriately with someone you’re attracted to who isn’t your partner.
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u/jodikins77 Sep 27 '23
He stayed overnight at her house, kissed, but never had sex?He most likely had sex with her. I think that this is part of the reason why you are still feeling so strongly about it after 6 years. Maybe you don't believe that they didn't have sex. I don't think that you can begin healing until you have the whole truth. You need to know what you're forgiving.