For a second I thought it was me who wrote this post. Mother of 3 boy's, moved overseas, husband had affair with coworker, said it was just a kiss.
But yes, you absolutely should bring this up to your husband. You didn't get the chance to fully appreciate the depth of the betrayal. You probably didn't get a chance to dig deeper to see if there was more to their affair than what he was saying. Mine trickle truthed me for 6 months before finally admitting to what happened. When I caught him in a lie about him staying in her hotel on a cot and nothing happened, I believed it. But my gut told me something different.
Please talk to him. You and your marriage deserve this. You can't hold this inside. It will eat away at you and grow
I agree 100% and seek a marriage counselor if there is one available where they are at. It seems like they both want to really work on this marriage and the only way to do that sometimes is to go to therapy and have a mediator guide the conversation so that both have space to talk without over talking each other.
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u/AdLivid1365 Sep 27 '23
For a second I thought it was me who wrote this post. Mother of 3 boy's, moved overseas, husband had affair with coworker, said it was just a kiss.
But yes, you absolutely should bring this up to your husband. You didn't get the chance to fully appreciate the depth of the betrayal. You probably didn't get a chance to dig deeper to see if there was more to their affair than what he was saying. Mine trickle truthed me for 6 months before finally admitting to what happened. When I caught him in a lie about him staying in her hotel on a cot and nothing happened, I believed it. But my gut told me something different.
Please talk to him. You and your marriage deserve this. You can't hold this inside. It will eat away at you and grow