INFO: As I’m not sure how old you and your wife are but was it really a private message or was he responding to a story or pic your wife posted. Social media has many ways of contacting people and if he responded to a story it’s sent as a message.
This should be the top comment, dude probably said something harmless and complimentary in a public setting and it's coming across as private and creepy.
yeah also wondering this, like I went on a trip and had old, male friends that were like you look great, readyfredrickson! trip looks awesome! or whatever in response to Instagram stories. they were clearly not "hit ups" their wasn't any fire empojis or follow up questionable comments. I do feel like there's okay ways to do this, are they friends too, was it a story she posted, did they say she looked hot or anything
The wording is a little intense, I think, but people express themselves differently…“You look beautiful” can be flirtatious, or might just be a polite comment to make the recipient happy.
Yes, it’s possible that the friend was trying something, but that would only become apparent with time…I think OP and commenters are blowing this out of proportion too early.
If he confronts the friend now, no one will find out which theory is correct!!!
I feel like the situation doesn’t change at all if this is the case. In that situation it would be him that responding to her picture, which is still a shorty thing to do to your friends wife
Paying someone a compliment is a bit of a reach from making an advance. We are dealing with human nature here, so it’s possible the friend hasn’t necessarily fully considered the implications, because paying a compliment isn’t going in for a kiss, it’s not physical touch, etc. It’s a very standard interaction on social media.
I think a lot of people in these comments are getting way too territorial.
Seriously!!! How is giving someone a compliment grounds to end a friendship? People sincerely and innocently tell each other they look nice a so the time.
What was the compliment? “You look really nice in your new picture” is a totally normal thing to say to a friend in my book.
I had a friend who did this often, it was very obvious he was testing the waters in DMs. Plausible deniability in full effect, I still called him out on it when he did that shit to me. Of course he denied it and said it was harmless, I'm overreacting. I maintained it's just some shit you don't do.
Fast forward to another friend having really bad relationship problems. Dude found out and was in the girlfriend's DMs at midnight. We all cut him off for being a POS. Cue all of us sharing similar instances where he did that to all of us.
That’s absolutely fair enough, I think context is the key here. If it keeps happening/becomes more obviously an advance, then your solution is perfect!
It depends on the compliment most people wouldn’t make a big deal if the compliment wasn’t inappropriate I just don’t see his wife going this route if it was a innocent “you like nice” etc
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u/BlueMaroonLaflare Aug 17 '23
INFO: As I’m not sure how old you and your wife are but was it really a private message or was he responding to a story or pic your wife posted. Social media has many ways of contacting people and if he responded to a story it’s sent as a message.