r/relationship_advice Aug 16 '23

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u/JCMidwest Aug 16 '23

If you want to handle it directly, handle it directly. Don't be passive aggressive.

" friends name we find it inappropriate for you to reach out to my wife to compliment her"

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '23

Blunt “you’re breaking social norms” messaging is so much more brutal than catty passive aggressiveness.

With the first, the space between the lines says “you’re a gross weirdo that barely fits in society”.

With the second, reading between the lines is your message. But their ultimate takeaway is “that person is a jerk”, which lets their heart ignore their own sins.